Each of us has encountered an energy vampire at some point — a person after interacting with whom you feel an inner emptiness and fatigue.
This phenomenon is not so rare. Energy vampires can be your acquaintances or even close people.
How to determine if your energy is being drained, how to protect yourself from energy vampires, and preserve your resource for your own goals, read in this article.
I do not intend for this article to expose energy vampires in order to then condemn them and exclude them from my life, although with some it might be worth minimizing communication.
Because most of the time, we are conscious people, striving to show wisdom and love towards various circumstances and people’s reactions.
I suggest using this information to focus primarily on preserving your energy through the lens of compassion and awareness, rather than division.
Equal and unequal exchange of energy between people
When people communicate with each other, an exchange of energy occurs. When the communication is productive for both people, then balance is maintained.
A person gives away part of their energy and receives the same amount in return. Or, for example, a person listens to a personal growth speaker, who in this case shares information. The listener gives their energy in the form of gratitude or money, since money is also energy.
This is how a mutual, equal exchange of energy happens.
Productive, healthy communication is communication in which both interlocutors are equally interested. They equally exchange information, knowledge, impressions (energy).
Or when one person gives and another receives, and the energy in the form of gratitude returns back.
When a person comes into contact with an energy vampire, they are constantly giving but receive nothing in return. After such communication, one feels tired and empty. The balance in energy exchange is not maintained.
The energy vampire complained, received a portion of energy, and went on to look for more victims. You, however, got involved in their situation, gave them a bunch of advice (they asked for it, as it seemed to you), but the person did nothing because their goal was different — to feed on your energy.
Who are energy vampires
Energy vampires are people who take your energy during communication, most often without realizing it.
Their energy system is poorly developed, and the mutual exchange of energy with the Earth and Cosmos is disrupted. They are energetically cut off from either the Earth or the Cosmos.
At-risk groups include elderly people who have lost their bearings in the world, their purpose in life, and live in the past. They want to be needed, they want everything to be as it was before, when they were young.
For a fulfilling life, they lack energy and need to get it somewhere. The easiest way is to provoke a conflict, complain, constantly grumble, and express dissatisfaction.
Your task is to learn not only to recognize energy vampires but also to see situations where you give away more energy than necessary, in order to prevent this.
Now let’s take a closer look at the types of energy vampires.
Types of energy vampires
Victim-type people
If a person remains in a victim state for a long time, they turn into an energy vampire.
Such people constantly whine, cry, demand attention, and want to be pitied. They show a clear lack of their own resources and energy.
You have probably noticed that if you spend some time communicating with such a person, you end up feeling drained like a lemon. As if all the juice has been sucked out of you.
They simply take your energy during the conversation. At first, you want to help, you sympathize, but the further it goes, the more intrusive such communication becomes, and your space narrows.
Such energy vampires are also called lunar ones. They can call, hang on the phone for hours, burdening you with their problems. If you actively respond with empathy and get involved, they receive a portion of energy. And sometimes it is not so easy to stop this.
Aggressor People
Or solar vampires. Such people, in order to feed on someone else’s energy, provoke others into conflict, incite quarrels.
In this way, they needle you until they find a sore spot. No matter how much you endure, no matter how hard you try to stay silent and keep yourself under control, in the end you explode.
During a flash of anger, a powerful stream of energy bursts out, and the person simply takes it for themselves.
This often happens with elderly people. They have nowhere to get the energy they lack. It is useless to educate them, and also useless to defend yourself.
Read below on how to behave with them so that they conflict less.
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The aggressive type can often be encountered in public places. The person seems to be looking for a victim to provoke a conflict. Someone stepped on their foot, accidentally bumped into them, and such a storm of negativity arises: insults, curses, that it is impossible not to react.
This is how they get your energy in the form of reciprocal indignation.
What to do if you discover that your energy is being drained? Follow the recommendations that will help protect yourself from energy vampires and maintain the integrity of your energy.
How to protect yourself from energy vampires
Become aware of where and what you spend your energy on
The first thing to do is learn to understand where and how you expend your energy.
Are there people in your environment who feed on your energy through complaints or conflicts? In what situations do you react negatively to the behavior of people around you, and in what situations do you become overly involved in others’ problems?
Observe yourself for a few days and try to identify such weak points.
When the whole picture is before your eyes, you will be able to control situations where someone tries to feed on your energy.
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Maintain your vertical
An energy vampire most often feeds on negative energy because it is easier to obtain.
When you are in a conscious state, in balance, and not emotional, you are invulnerable to them.
An energy vampire often provokes others into aggression, pushing their red buttons. Your task is not to give in. Stay open, but do not get drawn into the situation.
At the moment when you emotionally react to his attacks or behavior, you allow that person to take your energy. But if you do not engage, no one can take it from you.
Learn not to get emotional, regardless of what the person says or does. The easiest way to do this is from a state of balance and equilibrium.
Check out a selection of practices for maintaining balance.
Put up a wall
Learn to cut off unnecessary communication in time.
If you are talking to someone and realize that you are spending too much energy on them and it is not coming back, put up a wall: “I am busy, I cannot give you any more time,” “Do not disturb me for the next few days.”
This is natural because you are taking care of your energy and what you spend. Do not be afraid to set boundaries and cut ties.
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Use the technique for reclaiming your energy from those people to whom you gave it.
Do not try to be good to everyone; it will only make things worse for you. If you learn to clearly express what you like and what you do not, and do this consistently while firmly holding your position, then after some time, the people in your close circle will readjust.
They will get used to the rules regarding your boundaries.
For example, you do not want to listen to discussions about the government, politicians, or other related topics. If relatives start complaining again about low salaries while not wanting to change anything in their lives, put up a wall: “I do not talk about this topic.”
You are not trying to prove anything to them (it is useless), you are simply stopping such conversations: “Discuss this topic with those who are interested in it.”
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Do Not Give Advice
It is useless to give advice to a person who is in a victim state. You will not change them. Victims need to complain, tell how bad everything is, blame someone, so that they receive sympathy.
People who constantly live in this mode turn into energy vampires.
You are trying to help, but they only need your attention, indulgence, and, accordingly, your energy. You get involved in the situation, but end up feeling drained.
If it concerns your loved ones or people you care about, learn not to give advice until you feel that the person has truly decided to change.
For now, simply send them your support and love in moments when you are filled from within.
See also Why People Play the Victim Role and How This State Manifests
Act Proactively
This works well when communicating with elderly relatives. If you live with them or communicate often, it is often a challenge for you.
Because many elderly people want to be paid attention to. They feel unwanted and try to replenish their energy vessel by any means.
If it does not work in a positive way (showing care for children, grandchildren, often excessive), they provoke conflicts.
To minimize this — act preemptively. When you are in a harmonious state, send them rays of light and love. Then they won’t have to extort this energy through other, non-ecological methods.
Do this in measured doses so they don’t get used to a large amount of incoming energy from you, otherwise dependence will arise and a reverse process will begin — extortion of this energy.
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Use energy protection techniques
This method helps when you unexpectedly encounter a person who pulls the blanket over themselves, causes a scandal, or you know that a meeting with an energy vampire is unavoidable.
For example, you are going to an appointment at some institution, you will have to sit in a long queue, or travel on public transport. Often in such places you meet people dissatisfied with life, who get themselves and those around them riled up in an instant.
In the article Energy protection techniques among people, we described several techniques, any of which you can use when accidentally meeting an energy vampire.