Do you lack energy, despite getting enough sleep, doing energy exercises, and playing sports?
But by evening, you have no strength left, neither for your family nor for yourself. This phenomenon has its reasons.
We offer a simple test to help you identify the causes of energy leakage.
Observe yourself for a few days, noting what you spend your time on, what makes you happy, what brings you down, and compare your notes with our list.
Then, the next step will be to eliminate the «energy drainers».
13 causes of your energy leakage
1. Gossip, complaints, judgment
If you gossip, judge someone, or get drawn into such conversations, you lose your energy.
After such talks, a person feels tired and drained.
Think about why you need such communication. Does it make you happy?
Replace toxic communication with constructive dialogue, steer the conversation in another direction, do not support such discussions.
You will discover how much energy is freed up that you can use for your own development.
Instead of complaining, think about how you can solve your issue. After all, focusing on the problem only increases its scale.
Read how judgment affects your development and why a person judges.
2. Getting involved in other people’s situations and negative events
The inability to protect your personal space and maintain a favorable internal state affects your emotional well-being and negatively impacts your energy resource.
In society, it is customary to show compassion for those in need, people who have encountered misfortune or trouble. And that is normal. But we were not taught how to do it correctly.
For some reason, it is believed that immersing yourself headfirst in someone else’s problem and starting to suffer together is precisely what compassion and involvement mean.
But if everyone around starts suffering, will it make the sufferer feel any better?
It is much more important to maintain inner balance, harmony, and provide help from a state of fullness.
This way, you will bring more benefit to the person you want to help.
There is a category of people who are very sensitive to everything; these are empaths.
If you are one of them, like me, you need to consciously learn to protect your inner space. Do not allow yourself to fully immerse in someone else’s grief; learn to stop in time.
You may also find this useful — How to change the polarity of high emotional sensitivity
3. Focus on the problem
You repeatedly relive the same situation, mentally go over who said what, what you replied, what you could have replied, why you did not reply that way, and what will happen now.
This mental chewing gum pulls you in, and you are already exhausted.
People mistakenly believe that if you think about the problem, you can find a solution. In reality, these thoughts immerse you deeper into it, increase your anxiety, and consequently drain your energy.
Instead, focus on the solution.
Watch this short video — an unconventional approach to solving a problem.
4. Resistance
Any resistance consumes a lot of energy.
For example, you need to do something important, but you don’t feel like it. You resist. As a result, you spend time on secondary actions, while the important thing remains undone.
And you are exhausted, and again there is a feeling of dissatisfaction that what needed to be done was not done.
Remember what causes you resistance, what actions. Why do they not bring results?
Resistance is an internal conflict. Some part of you is resisting your decision. Try to understand why.
This article will help you understand the reasons for resistance.
5. Sitting in the mind
A large thought process consumes a huge amount of energy. If this process is uncontrolled, it is no wonder you may feel tired.
At the same time, you may not have significant physical exertion, but get tired only from the endless chatter of the mind.
Therefore, take control of your thoughts. You cannot control which thoughts come into your head, but it is within your power to choose which thoughts to keep.
Leave in your head only those thoughts that make you happier, more productive, that move you forward, that ignite you.
Read how to stop overthinking.
6. Long-term suppression of negative emotions
Everyone knows that it is undesirable to take out negative emotions on other people.
Therefore, people often suppress their emotions. Outwardly, the problem seems to be solved, the person looks calm, and most importantly, decent.
But the emotions do not disappear. A storm rages inside, which exhausts, drains strength, and causes illnesses.
Conclusion: learn to release emotions, both positive and negative. Understand that you have the right to them.
Here are several ways to cope with negative emotions.
7. Being in a crowd, especially a negatively charged one
Most people can sense another person’s mood, especially if they are in a bad one.
And when there are many such people: at a rally, a football match, and so on, this energetic chaos can overwhelm you if you are not prepared and do not master energy protection techniques.
Sometimes after being in a crowd, it is difficult to recover immediately. Energy loss can be accompanied by headaches and physical ailments.
If you have been engaged in spiritual practices for a long time, you likely feel the intrusion of other people’s unwanted energies into your energy field.
To keep your energy field intact, I recommend mastering energy protection techniques.
8. Communicating with whiners, victims, manipulators
There are people with whom you feel comfortable, and there are those after communicating with whom you become exhausted.
As a conscious adult, you choose for yourself who to communicate with and about what.
If there are such people in your environment, I recommend minimizing communication with them, and if that is impossible, learn to manage the conversation and gently steer it into a neutral direction.
Read, How to protect yourself from energy vampires and preserve your energy.
9. Resentments, grievances
When a person is offended, most of their thoughts are occupied by that offense.
Replaying the situation over and over, they suffer, often cannot focus on daily tasks, and their productivity and energy levels drop.
One could discuss at length the harm resentment causes and what “benefit” it brings to the offended person, but our article is about the reasons for a lack of energy.
If it is important for you to learn how to conserve it, you will find the strength to forgive your offenders, drop claims against other people, and understand yourself.
How to do this, read in the article How to Learn to Truly Forgive Offenses.
10. Unfinished Gestalts
Unfinished past relationships drain your energy from the present, focusing your attention not on goals but on the past.
Find the strength and leave the past in the past, face the truth, and let go of illusions.
And if after this you still believe there is hope for reconciliation, take the first step and clarify things with that person.
Whatever the outcome of the conversation, it will help you either put an end to it or start a new phase in the relationship. But in any case, you will stop living in the past or in future hopes.
You will reclaim the lion’s share of your energy and direct it toward truly worthwhile goals.
See also Cutting Etheric Cords: How to Break Unnecessary Connections with People
11. Doing Not Your Own Business
When a person has no goals or priorities of their own, they are easily manipulated, constantly swaying from one side to another.
One moment a friend asks them to keep company on a trip for some errand, the next a child asks for help with homework when they could handle it themselves.
As a result, you scatter yourself across a multitude of trifles, other people’s affairs, and obligations, while neglecting your own.
And even if time does remain, you no longer have the strength to even think about what you yourself might want.
Sometimes this is done deliberately, because a person does not want to solve their own problems that require determination and stepping out of their comfort zone.
And in the end, they waste their energy, and fatigue serves as an excuse for not achieving their own goals and not solving their tasks.
If this is about you, stop and think about what you want from this life. Was your lifelong dream really to solve other people’s problems? What about your own desires?
See also: The Coccoon Period. How to Support Yourself While in It
12. TV, Internet, Social Media
The internet, social media, and television are true thieves not only of time but also of your energy, if you do not know how to stop in time and get down to business.
So many jokes about this on the internet…
To be honest, how much time do you spend on social media? I won’t even mention TV; many modern, conscious people have long since given it up.
Does the Instagram feed often suck you in? You pop in for a minute and don’t notice an hour has passed.
Conduct an experiment: write down throughout the day how much time you spent on social media and the internet. I assure you, this number will surprise you.
Of course, you shouldn’t completely forbid yourself from going there. Set aside a specific time of day when you can go on social media, surf the internet, or watch TV.
For example, 1 hour a day, depending on your schedule.
13. Quarrels, Prolonged Conflict
Hatred and anger towards another person not only drains energy but destroys you from within.
This is fraught with loss of health in the future. Stop investing your energy in discord, show strength, wisdom, and end this.
You may appear weak in the eyes of your opponent (which is not actually the case), but you will preserve yourself.
Read about the destructive power of hatred and how to heal this feeling in the article Transformation of Hatred into Love: How to Heal This Destructive Feeling.
Share with us, which points are “yours”? What is eating your energy?
P.S. Identifying holes in your energy budget is only one of the stages of managing your own energy.
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