Judging another is always wrong, because no one can ever know what has happened and is happening in the soul of the one being judged.
Leo Tolstoy
Everyone knows the biblical commandment “Judge not, lest ye be judged,” yet people continue to judge. And for some, gossip is a way of life.
If you consider yourself a conscious person and periodically slip into judgment, read this article to learn how this behavior affects your life and spiritual development.
Judging other people, circumstances, or actions is a full-blown victim state.
For a spiritually developing person, judgment means refusing to move forward, refusing to see what lesson that person, action, or situation being judged is teaching.
It doesn’t matter what kind of judgment it is — gossiping about acquaintances and colleagues, complaining about the government, or habitual value judgments like good-bad actions.
The result of its impact on your life comes down to the fact that you lower your vibration level, clog your channel of creative energy, and block your connection with the divine.
Judgment is an unwillingness to take responsibility for your own actions, an admission of your powerlessness.
When a person judges someone else’s mistakes or shortcomings, they refuse to acknowledge their own shadow side.
You can learn what the Shadow is and how to recognize and accept it by signing up for the transformation seminar “Dance with the Shadow.”
Those who constantly judge people’s actions have unresolved problems they hide from themselves. It’s easier to gossip about others than to deal with your own cockroaches.
Let’s figure out what lies behind judgment.
Judging Other People and Their Behavior. What Lies Behind It
Lack of Understanding
“Judgment is when you don’t know why a person acted the way
they did, but you still try to attribute
motives you’ve made up to them.”
Mark Gungor
A person judges out of a lack of understanding. This behavior either isn’t in their worldview, or they are filling in the blanks with assumptions.
If negative emotions get involved in this process, in the future it threatens that they themselves will end up in a similar situation, finding themselves in the place of the one they judged.
From a traditional religious perspective, this is considered punishment for judgment and slander.
For example, a person judges someone for being greedy. They say from the heart: “I don’t understand how anyone can be so greedy?!”
If they exclaim this more than once, a request is sent to the Universe: “I don’t understand this behavior. Explain it, help me.”
The Universe takes everything literally. It will not leave this unanswered, especially if the request is repeated many times.
This means the person needs help understanding. But how do you explain it?
Only by giving them the experience of the situation they don’t understand. And it places them in a situation where they themselves display greed, so they can feel it from the inside.
Let’s draw an analogy with raising children. When we explain to a child that you can’t do something — you can’t throw stones at birds, it hurts them.
What do we say: “Imagine if someone threw a stone at you…”
Or let’s give an example when a child was in pain: “Remember when you fell and it hurt, you cried. Well, the bird is in pain too.” We suggest recalling similar sensations.
The Universe can’t tell us this directly; it simply places us in a similar situation, only now we are in the role of the one we judged.
Question: Do we even need to know why someone acts the way they do? Why are we busy with someone else’s life instead of our own?
Yes, a person acted strangely. Strange to us, because we don’t see the whole picture. To someone else, we also act strangely.
Maybe it’s better to focus on our own life? Have we solved all our own problems that we’ve started discussing others’?
Envy
Another reason for judging other people is envy of some quality or success. The person would like to have it themselves, but here their friend gets it so easily.
They start looking for flaws, nitpicking. In some cases, even gloating if they notice a mistake or learn about a failure in some matter.
Ask yourself, what does the other person have that you would like to have?
A classic example is the poor judging the rich: “Where does he get so much money?”, “You can’t earn that kind of money honestly. He stole it!”, “He chased the big bucks, it didn’t work out, they clipped his wings. Now he won’t stick his neck out!” (Phrases from real people’s lives)
Read more about envy and how to cope with this feeling in the article The Healing Power of Envy.
Self-Rejection
A person judges others when they do not accept themselves. It happens that people mock specific actions or traits of others.
This comes from dissatisfaction with life, when a person considers themselves a failure, a nobody.
What irritates such people the most is the success and happiness of those around them.
See also How to Learn to Accept and Why It’s Important
Pride and a Sense of Superiority
“If you ever feel the urge to judge someone, remember that not all people in the world have the advantages that you had.”
F. Scott Fitzgerald. The Great Gatsby
Pride and a sense of superiority also arise from self-rejection. But here, the person finds something in themselves that they did better, and they judge those people who don’t have it.
The person uses their achievements to cover up what they don’t accept, what they reject in themselves. And the result is superiority over others.
What are you hiding from yourself? Why did you decide you are better than others?
The same example with the rich and the poor, but in reverse. The rich despise the poor. Some wealthy people flaunt their wealth because they have nothing else to be proud of.
There is a concept called “spiritual pride.” This is the scourge of spiritually developing people and lightworkers.
Many of them, at a certain stage of growth, fall into this trap when they start to consider themselves smarter, better, more worthy because they know something that is inaccessible to the majority of people.
I hope this has passed you by…
What Happens When You Judge
What You Send Out, You Get Back
From an energetic perspective, when you judge, you send negative energy outward into a person’s field.
If that person is energetically protected (doesn’t judge others themselves, lives by the laws of the Universe), this energy will return to you, multiplied.
And if you have small children, they will be the first to suffer. Because they aren’t yet able to protect themselves. They live off your energy field.
In any case, what you send out will return to you.
And if you’ve already stepped onto the path of awareness, the backlash will be stronger. Because the law of similarity comes into play: what you send is what you receive.
This destructive energy returns in the form of fatigue, illness, and unpleasant events.
See also: Curse and the evil eye from an energetic perspective. How to protect yourself
Find out who bears responsibility for a curse.
Spiritual tools stop working
By falling into judgment, you slow down your spiritual growth and end up in the 3-D world.
The opportunities you learned to see as a creator close off. You simply don’t notice them.
Spiritual tools stop working. You can only solve problems using three-dimensional methods (which slows down results), because your connection to spirit is blocked.
You develop an addiction to judgment
Judgment and gossip create an addiction. The more you judge, the more you immerse yourself in these destructive vibrations, and the more you want to feel these emotions.
You get a certain kind of energy boost. But it’s low-quality energy that damages your aura.
Over time, your energy field weakens, its protective properties decline, and then physical ailments and illnesses appear.
Even if you regularly diagnose and restore your aura, judgment negates all that work.
Remember the folk saying “being friends against someone.” When two girlfriends discuss a third. The goal of such a “friendship” is to exchange gossip.
Or grandmothers sitting on a bench, judging the government and their neighbors. It clearly doesn’t add to their health, but the habit of gossiping gives them energy they lack.
You run into trouble
When you’re busy discussing someone else’s life, you step out of your inner center. You place other people’s affairs above your own.
The loving Universe starts to get your attention by pressing the red buttons.
Starting with small things, and depending on your reaction, it throws more complex situations and problems your way to turn your attention back to yourself, to your own life, to the center.
Let me give an example from the life of an acquaintance.
A woman loves her family very much and is fully fulfilled in it. She enjoys the role of wife, mother, and keeper of the home.
But at the same time, she loves to gossip. A significant part of her thought process is occupied with digesting events from the lives of neighbors, friends, and colleagues.
When she gets too caught up in other people’s affairs, the Universe, to “bring her back,” creates an unpleasant event — in the form of a broken refrigerator.
If that doesn’t help, a more serious situation occurs. If that doesn’t work either, a third misfortune happens — her husband gets sick.
The well-being of the family is her red button.
The goal is achieved — the woman returns to her center, switches to the role of wife, the guardian of her family.
Another example.
A person who is successful in their profession constantly criticizes the actions of their colleagues. Instead of focusing on their own life.
As a result, they themselves end up in a situation where they are forced to prove their professionalism. They lose their job, and their family is left without a steady income. The person stops meddling in other people’s affairs because they are busy with their own.
From a spiritual point of view, this is not a punishment for judgment. In this way, the Universe returns the person to themselves. It turns them 180 degrees so they pay attention to themselves.
If you have decided to live a conscious life, to live by spiritual laws, it doesn’t mean you will immediately give up judgment.
It’s not so easy to eradicate this habit. When you fall into the matrix, you return to your old way of thinking.
But if you value the results you have achieved on the path to spiritual enlightenment, you will not let judgment pull you back.
You will learn how to free yourself from judgmental behavior and get rid of the habit of gossiping in my next article. Stay tuned for the newsletter.