We talk a lot about the importance of a resourceful state.
When you are out of resources, you cannot make conscious decisions, all opportunities close before you, you cut off the connection with higher aspects and remain alone with your emotions and traumas.
The resourceful state is especially important for a woman. Let’s discuss this in today’s material.
Out of Resources Equals Out of Awareness
There are two states: when you are full of strength and aware. And there is another option — when you are in the negative, sick, weighed down by your emotions.
The condition is: out of resources equals out of awareness.
This is where many grievances towards loved ones and like-minded people come from. At this moment, all the practices you have acquired disappear.
You return to a certain parameter of an ordinary average person.
I like to use the metaphor of a multi-story building and a basement, where the floors are levels of awareness, and the basement is the state of being out of resources, the victim consciousness, where all your fears, traumas, and negative beliefs reside.
There, instincts rule; everything you have ingrained in yourself throughout life comes to the forefront (self-pity, aggression, scarcity mindset).
When you develop and return to yourself, you fall down into this basement less and less.
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Filling Happens from Within
Your resourceful state depends only on you. No one from the outside is responsible for it.
It is impossible to fill yourself from the outside. Until you fill yourself from within, you will keep running around like a little dog, wagging your tail, waiting to be petted.
And the meaning of spiritual practices is to return to yourself, fill yourself from within with love, reveal your strength, and realize your own worth.
Resource state and vibrations
A sign that you are out of resource may be irritation, outbursts towards your loved ones.
When you feel wonderful, full of energy and in a good mood, you will never feel the desire to be irritated at anyone or anything.
Different states of a person vibrate differently.
A state of satisfaction with life and low vibrations (irritation, anger, negativity) are incompatible.
When you are in states of high vibrations (satisfaction, happiness, joy, bliss), you are absolutely indifferent to the “imperfections” of the surrounding reality.
In a certain sense, you simply do not notice them, because you are vibrating at a different – higher – frequency.
What you radiate is what you receive. If you radiate pleasure, you attract it. There becomes more pleasure in your life.
If you spend most of your time in low vibrations (hatred, complaints, judgment, resentment), you multiply these destructive energies.
You can pull yourself out of low-frequency states through willpower and your intention. Direct your focus of attention onto yourself. Return yourself to a resource state.
Regardless of current conditions, daily, without fail, find time for yourself.
If you, as a woman, feel drained, you automatically deprive your loved ones of nourishment and resource.
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Let’s look at examples when you unconsciously lower your vibration.
What the feeling of being drained is connected with
If you feel drained, purposefully recharge yourself with energy.
Do not attach excessive importance to the state of so-called depletion.
Shift your focus to what you are doing to feel more energetic.
First, check where you are leaking energy. Listening to news channels, empty conversations, any conflict situations and confrontations drain your energy and strength.
To feel more energetic:
- remove everything that takes away your energy;
- take care of your personal space (personal boundaries);
- introduce into your routine what will fill you with energy (for example, regular energy gymnastics, communication with nature, favorite activities and hobbies, etc.).
Read also: What “eats” your resource. 13 reasons for energy leakage
The importance of a resourceful state for a woman
A woman must and is obliged to take care of herself, her health and her resourceful state. Otherwise, the loved ones who live nearby will suffer: children, husband, elderly parents.
Many women work themselves to the bone, on their feet all day, come home, and there are other worries there. It is especially important to be filled up if you have small children and/or you are caring for elderly parents.
Women often forget about themselves, putting family and loved ones first.
But a car with an empty tank will not go anywhere; you need to take care of yourself first, “fill the tank with gas,” and then go somewhere.
Especially if you have loved ones who are sick and need your help. They live because you are alive. If you are not there, then no one will help them.
It’s no coincidence that there’s a sign on airplanes: “In an emergency, put the oxygen mask on yourself first, then on the child.” Because if a mother doesn’t help herself first, she won’t be able to help her child.
Set aside time every day to restore your resources. A driven horse doesn’t run; it falls and doesn’t get up again.
If you have to work a lot and also have a huge load at home (small children, elderly parents), find time for yourself, at least an hour a day. Divide this hour into several 15-minute intervals and rest throughout the day.
Some need to meditate, some just need to lie down, some need to take a leisurely walk outside. Your task is to find time to exhale. Be sure to review your day and find this time.
You will understand that when you stop and exhale, all your tasks get done much faster and easier.
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Is it normal to experience aggression in a resourceful state
For some reason, everyone thinks that being aggressive or setting boundaries is bad.
A coin has two sides: what I am like in a state of flow and what I am like outside of resources. Everyone has a bright side, and it needs to be noticed, not just your shortcomings.
Where I am outside of resources, what am I like? Aggressive, controlling, categorical? What?
This needs to be written down and understood that this is also a part of you, your natural innate state. You can look into the reasons, what traumas these are.
If it’s aggression, it’s most often unmet needs. Outside of resources, you are trying to get this from the outside.
You need to understand that outside the resource, you will fall into this state. And be prepared to heal and clean it up little by little.
Over time, this basement will no longer be so scary. When people press your red buttons, there will be a reaction, but not as strong, and you will fall into this state less and less often.
If before you fell into it during the day, then — once a week, then — once a month, and then once every six months.
There is nothing wrong with the fact that you fell into it. The important thing is not to avoid falling, but to return to a normal state as quickly as possible. Because we are often dependent on external circumstances.
There are insurmountable external circumstances, and we cannot change them. We can only change our reaction.
We get two directions of work: heal all of this, rewrite beliefs, determine which of your needs are unmet, learn to intuitively replenish all of this.
The second direction: learn to stay in a resourceful state for as long as possible.
We clean out the Augean stables, the triggers.
And here you become inconvenient for many people. You push relatives who try to take advantage of you to the background, some transformations happen with friends.
You will start making difficult, uncomfortable decisions. But your space and resourceful state are more important to you.
See also If you have emotionally “fallen” – How to get out of the 3D pit
How often do you fall, and how quickly do you restore your resource?
The article is based on several broadcasts from the #couch_conversation section “Partnership. Part 1”, “Answers to questions 08/04/2020”, “Development and evolution” and “The main relationships in life”
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