“The first month of the year was about establishing personal, individual boundaries necessary to accommodate new parameters regarding what is acceptable and unacceptable for our love.”
Lauren Gorga
We have entered uncharted territory, into the reality of unity.
How do we interact with each other while preserving ourselves and our boundaries? How do we stop being on the defensive and maintain our personal sovereignty while feeling love?
Today we will try to understand this. Learn what the sovereign Self is, the principle of personal autonomy, and how to energetically become an autonomous unit while being one with everything.
What is the sovereign Self
The concept of sovereignty is political in nature and has always been considered from the perspective of a state’s rights in relation to other states.
In short, sovereignty is independence. Applying this concept to a person, we imply that there is you and your sovereignty, the right to independence and personal boundaries.
In light of the reality we are heading into, this issue becomes paramount. And considering that the new reality is the reality of unity, we need to learn to preserve ourselves while being one with everything.
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Personal sovereignty and self-love in the reality of unity
Your sovereignty is the focus, the prism through which you should view what is happening in your life.
Somewhere we sacrifice ourselves for love, in certain situations a feeling of protest arises inside, because it is unacceptable in how you feel about yourself today in your self-love.
And then the question arises of maintaining personal boundaries in relationships with each other and with the outside world, in order to lay down completely new frameworks for how we function in unity.
And now the task is to understand where the boundary of your sovereign self lies, based on principles, your values, what you believe, what you consider acceptable or unacceptable towards yourself today.
This is a constant process of defining: where is the limit of what I consider acceptable for myself and permissible towards myself.
And here it is important to understand yourself, this acceptability, unacceptability precisely from the point of view of being in the space of unity.
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When you have not established personal boundaries, it creates a lot of problems in life.
Against the general background, weak personal boundaries are expressed in the form of internal discomfort, a feeling of the weight of problems, as if everything has piled on at once, and from this a feeling of powerlessness arises.
The Borscht Metaphor
To make it easier to understand, let’s consider the example of borscht. There is a dish — borscht, and in it there are carrots, beets, cabbage, etc.
We understand that this is a dish with a certain set of ingredients; if some of them are removed, borscht will not be borscht. All the components make it borscht.
So it is with us in the new reality. There is everything and everything is one — that is borscht, and there are us — unique creations, each of whom vibrates at their own frequency and conducts their unique energy into the Earth.
We are simultaneously a single organism and sovereign beings with the right to personal space and freedom of will and choice.
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How to Define the Boundaries of Your Sovereign Self
It is important to define this boundary that separates you from the world around you, to declare the intention to close the path to the old world.
At the same time, it is important to understand that boundaries are not defended; they are built. Defense implies that someone is attacking you, while sovereignty is more about autonomy.
You are an autonomous unit. This is an internal process; you are not defending yourself, not pushing anyone away; you are building a sense of sovereign space around you.
You determine for yourself what is acceptable and what is not. Accordingly, if it is acceptable, you do it; if it is unacceptable, you say so, sometimes simply ending the interaction. This is how the principle of personal autonomy works.
There are borderline situations where something cannot yet be called unacceptable, but it is also not satisfactory. And here you have to make a choice: is it beyond your boundary or within its limits.
People can say anything to you. Your task is to apply it to yourself each time: is it acceptable for you or not.
But not from the standpoint of societal norms, good or bad, when conscience is silent or speaks, but from the standpoint of what is acceptable to your love for people, for yourself, etc.
We suggest listening to the recording of the broadcast “For Those in Love with Life” and going through a meditation to feel yourself as an energetically and vibrationally autonomous unit.
Also read, Why it is important to maintain personal space in relationships. Dependent and healthy relationship models
Separation. Emotional independence from parents, husbands, children
We will also touch on the topic of separation — emotional detachment from loved ones (parents, husbands, wives, children), since it is impossible to build yourself as an autonomous unit while being dependent on loved ones.
The topic of separation consists of independence, the ability to make decisions when others are against it, emotional independence, when you can make a decision regardless of whether mom or husband is upset, and material independence.
Now is a unique moment when you can detach from your parents. It is not necessary to move away. But if you live in the same household, this detachment does not exist. And therefore parents dictate how to live, because they believe they can and must. And you must obey because you are a child.
It is important to understand what your internal decision will be: whether you allow yourself to be dictated to or not.
I am for an independent life. In the 90s, too many infantile children grew up, times were difficult, and they remained living together with their parents.
This is a generation of people who are now between 30 and 40 years old. They never became fully independent and never broke out from under the wing; the switching stage never occurred.
Emotional detachment is: there is him and there is me. I feel good both when I am alone and when I am with him. Make your life so full that you are never bored. When you are bored or suffering, ask yourself: what fills your life?
This applies to control over children, to being dependent on a man, and to when your parents try to control you. Again, the question to yourself: what can I do for myself to make my life full?
The desire to control leads to dire consequences.
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Write in the comments: how well do you manage to maintain your sovereignty while still feeling unity with everything?
The article is based on the broadcast “For Those in Love with Life” and the broadcast “Answers to Questions” on 02/18