A closed heart is the worst prison (c) Pope John Paul II
Who are we talking about when we say “a person with a closed heart”? Many will picture a cold and calculating egoist, or a disillusioned, “life-beaten” loner.
But that’s not quite right. In reality, the issues with a closed heart are much more diverse and paradoxical, and they occur very often.
Maybe you even have them?!
Read the article, and you’ll find out — what a closed heart is, who has one, and what its consequences are.
So. A closed heart is a BLOCKED heart chakra.
This is not only a deficit of energy in this area (which is most often called a closed heart), but also an excess of energy in the heart area.
In both cases, a person’s heart is closed off from real contact with their feelings and from adequate interaction with other people.
This is fraught with various negative consequences. Let’s look at both cases.
1. Lack of energy in the heart and its consequences
With a deficit in the heart chakra, the flow of energy passing through it is severely limited.
The heart chakra remains empty, constricted, and useless.
This is the classic manifestation of a “closed heart.” Such a person doesn’t understand their feelings to the point of feeling like they “don’t feel anything at all.”
This has a destructive effect on their health, relationships with others, and worldview.
1.1. Rejection of love
This is the main trouble for “deficit types.” As a result of various traumas, you have become disillusioned with love. Or, more precisely, with the idea that you can love or that someone could love you.
At some point, it was so painful that you decided — better nothing than that. However, this could have happened in such deep childhood that the decision is forgotten. All that’s left is coldness and emptiness in your chest.
People with a deficit in the heart chakra find justifications for this state of affairs. For example, “Love is blind,” “Love is a made-up thing,” “Sex is not a reason to get to know someone,” “Women are mercenary and only love money,” etc.
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If you don’t know/can’t switch from a state of constant lack of love and approval to the realization that love is your gift, this information will help you.
1.2. Fear of deep relationships, loneliness
You may not formally be alone, and you might even be dating or living with someone.
But it will only be a semblance of a relationship, for the sake of social status, sex, or other benefits.
There is no sincerity, trust, or understanding in such relationships.
A person with a deficit in the heart chakra, by the way, usually suffers in this situation (whether they realize it or not). After all, the need for love is fundamental for all of us, and if it’s absent, any person feels terrible.
But they will most likely blame their partner for this and claim that “true love only exists in fairy tales.”
This often leads to real loneliness and even isolation from people.
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1.3. Coldness, detachment
Because of these qualities, it’s hard for people with a lack of energy in the heart chakra to build trusting relationships.
Others may see you as a “cold fish,” a calculating egoist.
Due to a lack of understanding of others’ feelings, you consciously or unconsciously manipulate people (especially those with an excess of energy in the heart chakra).
This might help you achieve some career or personal goals, but it doesn’t make you happier.
1.4. Judging and criticizing others
It seems that others are to blame for your troubles. They behave incorrectly and unworthily, and that’s why all the problems exist.
But you, of course, know exactly how they should act.
If you’ve noticed this in yourself – your heart is closed…
1.5. Intolerance towards yourself
Alas, the root of judging others lies in not accepting yourself.
Sometimes it’s even hard to admit this. But people with a lack of energy in the heart don’t love themselves, they scold themselves, constantly trying to prove to themselves and others that they “are worth something.”
This can help with career achievements, but, I repeat, it doesn’t satisfy or make you happy.
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1.6. Depression
The extreme form of a closed heart. You see no meaning in life, you have nothing to lean on, everything seems gray and empty.
Addiction to alcohol, computer games, and other ways of escaping reality may arise.
1.7. Health issues of a stagnant type
Energy moves poorly, meaning blood and oxygen don’t sufficiently enrich this area.
Health problems in such people are linked to “stagnation,” “holding back,” and “inhibition.”
These include hypertension, heart failure, atherosclerosis, risk of heart attack, etc. Feelings of emptiness and cold in the heart.
2. Excess energy in the heart and its consequences
With excessive activity (hyperactivity) of the heart chakra, the energy is too chaotic to function in a normal mode.
A fitting metaphor for this case: a traffic jam, where the movement of cars is blocked due to their large number.
It would seem that if the chakra is moving so actively – the heart is open? But no, this is a misconception.
If a deficient chakra can be called a stagnant swamp, then a hyperactive chakra is a whirlpool, a turbulent stream that is difficult to control.
From all this flurry, it might seem that such people’s lives are rich and interesting. But in reality, “hyperactive” people suffer no less than “deficient” ones.
2.1. Fixation on love and, as a result, its loss
This is the main sign of a closed heart of the hyperactive type. You preach that love is everything, that for love you are ready to do anything, that love-love-love…
As a result, your love is suffocating and obsessive, partners simply run away from such relationships, and you suffer again and again.
2.2. Constant need for love, approval
We’ve said it — energy doesn’t hold in this chakra. You constantly receive love from the world and loved ones, but it “slips through your fingers.”
Because of this, it always seems to you that you have little love, and you demand more and more… No matter how much love you are given, it will fly by like through a pipe, and you will experience a constant hunger for love.
Also, you will be insecure and need constant approval from others. You react overly sharply to criticism — if someone makes even one remark to you, you think they don’t approve of you, and therefore don’t love you.
2.3. Demandingness, desire for possession, jealousy
This point stems from the previous ones. You think you have invested a lot of love in your partner (suffocatingly much), and they give “not enough.”
Because of this, you develop constant irritation, jealousy (what if they’re taking the love meant for you elsewhere?), a desire to completely possess your partner.
2.4. Weak boundaries, self-sacrifice
One version of “being ready to do anything for love.” You give your partner or people “all of yourself”, sometimes neglecting your own time, desires, and interests.
You expect the same “love” in return, but alas. Usually, you attract people of the deficient type, who manipulate you until you are completely drained.
Healthy partners, on the other hand, very quickly can’t handle this, because they don’t need a martyr by their side.
See also How the state of your chakras affects relationships in a couple
2.5. Health problems
“Hyperactive” people may develop a whole complex of diseases of the heart, lungs, and blood vessels. The most common are asthma, arrhythmia, varicose veins, and angina. Feelings of a “too expanded” heart, pressure inside.
Debunking the myths about the closed and open heart
In online materials, people with a closed heart are often condemned, called callous, calculating, and hypocritical.
And supposedly, they are always manipulating people with an “open” heart for their own benefit.
This is an inaccurate approach.
In reality, a person with a truly open heart is very difficult to manipulate — they are sensitive to their feelings and honest with themselves and others.
Any manipulation cannot withstand their courage, sensitivity, and sincerity.
And the victims of manipulators are precisely people with a closed heart of the hyperactive type. We wrote above that victimhood is in their nature, and they always attract tyrants, deceivers, and so on.
It’s not worth blaming the cold “deficit types” for all mortal sins. Their life is actually not easy (although this doesn’t absolve them of responsibility for some of their actions).
It’s important to understand this: what YOU will do if you see signs of a closed heart in yourself or your loved ones.
The best way is to acknowledge the problem and start opening your heart, strengthening and harmonizing the vibrations of love.
If you think the problem is not with you, but with your partner — please note that people attract each other by a compensatory type (for example, a manipulator and their victim). That is, there is something in you that attracted this person.
But. As soon as you start working on your heart, the energy of the relationship in the couple will automatically change, meaning your partner will also begin to change (or you will simply leave openly destructive relationships).
But, most importantly — you yourself will feel more whole, calm, and filled with love. I wish each of you, dear readers, to learn to live from the heart and trust yourself!
P.S. How to live from the heart — this question is explored and worked through in the course “7 Keys of Mindfulness 2.0”. Use the best practices for working with the heart chakra right now!