To feel whole, to feel your own power, it’s truly important to become whole in the literal sense. And these are not empty words.
Incompleteness is when you feel split into pieces, broken, feel that you are missing someone or something, and fall into dependent and codependent relationships.
This happens when a person loses pieces of themselves, leaving them in past relationships, places, events, and traumas. Does this feeling sound familiar to you?
If you recognized yourself in some of these moments, chances are you are carrying foreign parts inside you that you acquired in exchange from participants in past events or relationships. And your own parts are with them.
It’s as if you are simultaneously here and, at the same time, mentally or emotionally in those events and relationships.
I offer you a way to get your energy and power back so you can direct it toward creating the life you want.
Why it’s important to gather yourself back together
From my own experience, I can say that when you know everything for another person—what they need to do, how they feel, and how to help them—but you don’t know anything about yourself, that’s a sure sign that your pieces are scattered in all directions.
You start living someone else’s life, forgetting about your own. That’s exactly how it was for me once with a close friend, a former lover, and even with a dog that passed away.
To rediscover a sense of happiness, it’s important to fully reunite with yourself, gather all the pieces of your soul together, integrate them into yourself, and assemble the core of your personality.
It is from this state that you can hear your own desires, needs, and the voice of your soul.
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Use the technique to reclaim your energy from those people to whom you gave it away.
If you reclaim your soul parts, energy, power, and in some cases, abilities and talents that you unconsciously delegated to other people when they, for example, took care of you, then you will understand what you need. You will feel YOURSELF first and foremost—your soul, your body—and you will hear yourself.
How can you achieve this? I suggest this method:
How to get your energy back
Make a list of all the events, people, and places that you feel are draining your energy. Rest assured, exactly what needs to be worked on will come to mind.
You can add to and expand this list later.
- For those who can’t let go of a deceased loved one
Imagine one dear person from this list who is no longer alive but with whom you still have a strong connection. When you remember them, you lose your balance: you feel deep sadness, can’t switch to everyday tasks, and get stuck in your feelings.
Inhale your own pieces from their image, while on the exhale, send their energy and soul fragments back to them.
- For those who can’t forget a traumatic situation from the past
Imagine a traumatic situation from your past. Find the part of you that got stuck there and is in fear and loneliness.
Call it to you, tell it that you can now take care of it, and breathe it into yourself. Feel how you have become one with it.
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- For those who can’t forget a loved one they broke up with
Imagine a former beloved whom you absolutely cannot forget, and you still feel a clear connection with them to this day.
Tell their image that you are ready to say goodbye to them and start a new life with another man. Ask them to give you what belongs to you, and give them back their energies.
Visualize how this exchange takes place, observe the entire process until the end. If there are too many ties between you, break the work into two or three stages.
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Perform the same actions regarding your former job, into which you poured your soul (have you now realized that doing that is harmful?), friends you haven’t kept in touch with for a long time, even though you were once very close.
This could even be a vacation spot that made a strong impression on you. Inhale your own particles of soul, and exhale gratitude.
Perform the same process with your mom, dad, and other relatives you live separately from. And definitely with ill-wishers. If you’ve had a conflict with someone, doing this is very beneficial.
Because at the moment of intense emotional heat, there is an outpouring of energy and attention towards them, which means a loss of your own power.
Take back your power from irrelevant, unfulfilled desires. There is a huge treasure trove of your energy there. And don’t forget about your pets.
Some masters believe that it is not necessary to do this with your spouse and your own children — our energy fields mix every day anyway, especially during sleep and sex. Plus, in a certain sense, we are a single structure of “seven selves.”
There is another opinion: even with those you live under the same roof with, you need to periodically do a full return of borrowed energy. Experiment. Find an option that works for you.
The first option seems more objective to me.
You will have to perform this practice for more than just a day or two; it is advisable to repeat these actions regularly throughout your life.
Spend a few minutes a day on this exchange and believe me, soon you will feel more fulfilled and confident in yourself, and your energy body will feel denser. You will understand what you want more accurately and easily.
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