Lately, I’ve had the feeling that most people don’t understand the value of the concept of “honesty”. That’s exactly why I decided to write this article.
In everyday life, it’s not exactly welcomed (it’s considered old-fashioned, something you’ll never achieve success with). But when you start to grow spiritually, honesty becomes the basic and essential piece in the mosaic of life.
You gradually realize how important it is to live honestly — to maintain purity, not to create karmic knots, and to cut through the old ones.
Read on to discover the true power and value of honesty.
How I Realized the Value of Honesty
Even before, I was never much of a liar. But it’s only in the last few years that I’ve started to live with conscious honesty. This concept has taken a back seat only to love.
And very quickly, my life changed: I got married, changed my country and profession, and the people who remained in my circle are those who genuinely care for me and with whom I feel comfortable.
My space expanded, filling with light and happiness many times over.
The transition from a simple worldly state to a state of honesty happened gradually, over about 2-3 years.
Before that, I was just a good, gentle, and kind person who didn’t want to hurt anyone with a careless word. I put up with being used, smiled, and said nothing to avoid ruining relationships, even if I internally disagreed with something.
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But the more I engaged in spiritual practices and studied spiritual laws, the higher my awareness became, and it became clear just how important it is — to live honestly with yourself and with others.
I realized that the root of any problem is a lack of love and honesty in the soul towards oneself and others.
Dishonest situations create problems that become karma. And karma can stretch from generation to generation for many years.
One situation pulls another, and that one pulls a third, and so the tangled ball begins, one that’s quite difficult to unravel.
What It Means to Live Honestly
Based on my experience, I’ve drawn several conclusions about what it truly means to live honestly.
To live honestly is:
- Accept yourself as you are, with all your strengths and weaknesses.
- Openly and courageously look at problems and within yourself, and acknowledge them. At first, this is difficult, but believe me, there is nothing terrible or fatal about it. Only your own ego may suffer, but that’s good for it.
- Act in accordance with your inner understanding of the situation, which, by the way, may not align with the opinion of the majority.
- Maintain a point of support, a core whose foundation is love, not fear, resentment, or anything else destructive.
- Be honest with yourself, meaning do what you love, be sincere towards life.
- Be honest with your partner, relatives, and friends, be able to admit when you’re wrong, be able to apologize and ask for forgiveness, be able to give thanks.
- Say “no” to people when you feel uncomfortable or uneasy.
- Cut off all games and manipulations of people who want to play with you or use you. Why waste your time and energy on them?
- Cut off people who play the rescuer, who think they know better than you how you should live, and try to control your life without any right to do so. Whoever they are: parents, friends, or any loved ones.
Fears and obstacles that arise along the way
It may be scary to step onto this path. Being honest takes courage and often brings discomfort.
After all, it’s scary to admit to yourself that you’ve lived in illusions for a long time, scary when your old life crumbles and friends leave, scary to acknowledge the darkness within and that you’re not as white and fluffy as you want to appear, scary how other people will perceive you.
But believe me, it’s much worse to live with your eyes closed, to drag things out, to pretend the problem doesn’t exist, or to wait for everything to somehow resolve itself.
In reality, precious life time slips away, and a lot of strength and energy is wasted.
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I know people who live as if in a karmic circle and don’t understand that it can be broken simply by honestly looking at the situation and taking certain steps.
For a long time myself, idealizing my bright and pure image, I didn’t want to admit to myself, let alone others, what was painful and shameful for me. I didn’t even want to look there, it was so unpleasant and painful.
I wanted to close my eyes and repeat — I’m not like that, it’s not me. I am very good, I am bright, I am pure. I couldn’t have done that.
But unfortunately, if something happened, it is already imprinted in eternity, in your field, in your history. And it affects you, whether you want it to or not.
And if you want the past to stop influencing you, you need to honestly look at it, acknowledge it, and release it with gratitude.
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Self-acceptance is a key point if you choose to live honestly
By not acknowledging myself from within, judging myself for wrong actions and deeds, one problem of mine couldn’t resolve for a long time. And everything moved forward only when I took the first step toward accepting myself.
The first step is always difficult, but every subsequent one is much easier.
How to take a step toward accepting yourself:
- Understand that you, as a person, and your soul needed to go through negative experiences for growth, for your benefit. Without going through the bad, it’s impossible to understand what the good is.
- Forgive yourself. When we did things in the past, we were unconscious. Now, we consciously choose the light, and we have the right to release this pain and forgive ourselves for the experience of past mistakes.
- Accept that you are light and you are darkness. Without darkness, there would be no light. We are all made of light and low-frequency vibrations that keep us in the dark. But without them, we couldn’t incarnate on this earth and receive our extraordinary experience. And now the time has come for their release.
One acquaintance of mine — a beautiful and kind girl — just couldn’t get married. She had everything: beauty, intelligence, and kindness, but there was no happiness in her personal life.
Outwardly, she looked very carefree and satisfied with life and never admitted that this was a problem for her.
When we talked, I understood that she was afraid to look honestly at her problem, to acknowledge it, that she was essentially living with her eyes closed, hoping for positive thinking and that everything would somehow resolve itself one day.
Positive thinking, as strange as it may sound, often works against you. Because a person convinces themselves: “Everything is fine with me, there’s a small problem, but I’ll think positively, and everything will work out.”
Yes, sometimes it does work out if the problem isn’t very serious, if it’s on the surface. But if its roots go deep (usually into pain or fears, the subconscious), it needs to be resolved. Because changes will come sooner or later, but through a major crisis.
That’s exactly what happened to her in the end. She still hasn’t come out of the crisis. She’s on pills and seeing a psychiatrist. But she could have, if she had wanted to, changed the situation a couple of years ago.
Yes, it would have been painful, scary, unpleasant, there might have been purges, there’s no way around it. But it’s not fatal.
And by going through it, opening up new facets of herself, looking at them honestly and acknowledging them, she would have freed herself and the space for new events in life and a new turn of development.
By looking honestly at yourself and your problems, you do the greatest good for yourself, releasing what has held you and your soul in a vice for many years.
By going through this, you become purer, stronger, wiser. You become closer to yourself and your soul.
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What the practice of honesty will bring to your life
- Your karma will be cleansed;
- Energy will circulate properly;
- Difficult situations will untangle;
- Your energy will stop being drained by problems created by dishonest situations;
- Your nerves will be calm, your head and soul will be clear;
- You will live with a light heart and an open soul;
- You will no longer have to do things you don’t want to. At the same time, you will have the strength to act as you see fit, in accordance with your conscience;
- The space around you will clear, and your circle of friends and insincere people will thin out. Only those who truly love you and value your friendship will remain by your side;
- You will gain the strength and the chance to start living a real life, sincere and courageous, to be yourself in any situation, to live openly, purely, and simply.
It’s important, when making any decision in life, to ask yourself – where does my decision come from? From which emotion? From a feeling of love and honesty towards yourself and others, or from resentment, anger, or something else?
Think about it, take a look – can you call your relationships with your husband (wife), relatives, parents, and children honest? Why are you doing what you’re doing?
How do you treat people? What guides you when you make one decision or another in life? Look at any unpleasant situation in your life. Where do its roots come from?
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Your life belongs exclusively to you, it is YOUR choice and YOUR responsibility. Don’t be afraid to act honestly, don’t be afraid to lose something in the process. Later, everything will be returned to you a hundredfold.
Know that every time you correct a crookedness in your life, you are straightening your path, clearing it, and as a result, your road will lead you to where you are meant to be.
And happiness will come. It will, for sure. I know this for certain! Wishing everyone HONESTY!