“For every circumstance is a gift, and in every experience lies a treasure.”
Neale Donald Walsch
How well you live your life, whether it flows in a negative or positive direction, depends entirely on you.
A significant role in this is played by the ability to accept any circumstances: unpleasant situations, painful states, and social conflicts.
To develop the skill of “acceptance,” let’s explore what it really is and how you can learn to accept.
What is Acceptance
Acceptance is a new level of understanding.
It is the understanding that everything that has happened to you is needed for some reason.
The understanding that the problem always comes from within you outward, manifesting from the inside through external circumstances. You receive what you broadcast to the World.
The outer World signals to you, through a situation, what to pay attention to WITHIN YOURSELF.
The understanding that accepting a situation does not mean agreeing with the injustice happening to you, nor does it mean submitting to circumstances.
To accept means:
- To agree that the situation has already been created and that you need to move forward based on the presence of this fact.
- To agree that you cannot change the events, but you can understand them differently.
- To find the reason why this situation arose in your life, and understand how to act so that something like this doesn’t happen to you again.
What is Important to Learn to Accept
#1 Accept Yourself
It is difficult for a person to accept themselves when they are dissatisfied with themselves.
Accepting Yourself means agreeing with all your strengths and weaknesses. Agreeing that a human being is an imperfect creature.
Acknowledge that you have the right to make mistakes, that you don’t have to be perfect at everything.
And that you don’t need to live up to others’ expectations of you, you don’t need to please.
#2 Accept Other People
It is difficult to accept others if you don’t understand that people who cause you pain (from your point of view) are not actually the source of that pain.
Through such people, circumstances show you what you need to pay attention to within Yourself.
If you can’t accept a situation with one person and instead blame them, a similar situation will arise with others.
Because the world will keep signaling to you, “pay attention to the source within Yourself,” until you realize the essence of the problem itself.
When you accept the people around you, you realize that people can be unfair to others.
At the same time, you don’t judge people’s actions or condemn them. You understand that people cannot live up to your expectations.
Accepting another person can be compared to maternal acceptance. A mother easily accepts the mischief and any actions of her small, unwise child.
Acceptance is the ability to understand that a person will NEVER change.
#3 Accept the Situation (Circumstances)
To accept circumstances means to agree that there are things in this life that do not match your vision and perception of the World. That everything has a right to exist.
Both what you perceive as positive and what you perceive as negative.
Because the concepts of “positive” and “negative” are relative. Just like the concepts of “good and bad,” “difficult and easy,” “pleasant person and unpleasant person.”
All these qualities are assigned when a judgment is made. And it is not at all necessary that what you liked will also please others.
Or that what is unpleasant for you may very well cause delight in those around you. Because everyone’s criteria for evaluation and perception are different.
Take the weather, for example. There are days when it is unpleasant for you. But you accept this fact and don’t try to change the weather.
And the fact that, for instance, you don’t like rain doesn’t mean that everyone else dislikes this natural phenomenon. There will always be people who really like the rain.
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Why it is important to learn acceptance
By not accepting, a person wastes a lot of strength, energy, and time resisting circumstances.
If a person cannot accept circumstances, they constantly replay what happened in their thoughts, and relive the experience every time.
By acting this way, a person only destroys themselves, both emotionally and physically.
It is also important to understand that there will not be fewer unpleasant situations and disappointments in your life, but by learning to accept, you will begin to act in a way that is not harmful to yourself.
First and foremost, the ability to accept is needed by you personally, not by the participants in the events that are unpleasant for you.
It doesn’t matter what events happen in the external world; what matters is how you react to these events.
Non-acceptance can be compared to a poisonous drink that you drink yourself, but expect that the harm will be done to the “bad” person.
In other words, to accept is first and foremost to take care of Yourself.
By learning acceptance, a person becomes a more harmonious individual. They become stronger, calmer, more balanced, and free from dogmas and opinions.
Such a person is difficult to manipulate.
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How to learn to accept
Step 1. Agree “Yes, this happened”
Do not confuse this point with resignation.
To resign yourself means to agree that the situation is inevitable, that you are ready to bear the burdens of hardship for the rest of your life. To resign yourself is to submit to circumstances.
But to accept a situation means to agree that it has already happened, while understanding that there is always a way out of any situation, including this one. And as a rule, there is more than one way out.
All that remains is to find that way out.
Step 2. Find the reason “why it happened”
Every situation contains a “pearl of wisdom”.
Think about why this situation happened to you. Realize what important thing it is revealing to you.
Thank all the participants in the events, don’t forget yourself, for the new perspective on what happened.
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Step 3. Move forward without looking back
Move forward without looking back at “I know how to avoid this kind of thing.”
For example: you left the house and it’s raining outside. You had to go back for an umbrella. You wouldn’t get offended and complain about the rain, that it’s inconvenient for you.
Even if you do grumble a bit, you certainly won’t stay stuck in that state for long.
Accept it as a fact and based on this situation, next time before leaving, look out the window and grab the necessary items right away so you don’t have to come back.
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3 techniques for acceptance
Technique #1 The Acceptance Breath
We offer you a very simple practice for accepting everything and everyone.
It’s called the Acceptance Breath and is done in the morning, as soon as you wake up.
- Go to the window, greet the new day, and declare your readiness to accept any events in your life that will happen to you today.
- Ask the Higher Powers to help you and guide you through difficult moments.
- Express your intention to see the depth and wisdom in every step, in every circumstance of the coming day.
- Take a deep BREATH, joyfully accepting all the gifts of this day!
#2 Affirmations for self-acceptance
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Technique #3 Wave your hand at everything
At one of the webinars for clients of the Keys of Mastery Training Center, Alena suggested this practice:
“There is one gesture that escapes most people in difficult moments.
When you raise your hand up and say in exasperation, ‘To hell with it…’
We are cultured people, so let’s call this gesture ‘Waving your hand at everything.’
It means you are handing over the solution of this situation UPWARD, for example, to your higher self, your guides, your spiritual teachers.
Instead of banging your head against closed doors, enter a semi-meditative state, raise your hand, and sharply lower it down.
Thus, you relinquish responsibility for all the grips of the 3D world and hand it over to higher powers for the highest resolution of the situation and the highest good.»
Many wrote after the webinar that the gesture worked in a difficult situation. Experiment with it yourself.
And don’t forget to keep your focus on what truly matters to you.
Proving the injustice done to you, or taking care of Yourself?
Share in the comments which circumstances in your life are the hardest for you to accept!