“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
— Buddha
You have heard many times and told yourself that you deserve better, are worthy of love, prosperity, well-being, harmonious relationships…
But this phrase has already become cliché, turned into a banal expression.
Sometimes it happens that you keep telling yourself you deserve it, but when the moment comes to declare it to others, you become confused and stay silent.
Your soul leads you along the true path, but you reach the right door and are afraid to open it.
What does “value yourself” or “I deserve” mean?
How can you cultivate this feeling within yourself so that you project your own worth in every action, thought, deed, in any situation?
Let’s try to understand why it is so difficult to learn to fully value yourself.
You don’t believe you deserve better
Everyone has their own areas where you still doubt that you deserve or are worthy.
Someone wants to become a mother but hasn’t succeeded yet, someone cannot find “their” life partner, and someone puts up with unworthy treatment of themselves.
And these are all people who have been working on themselves for a long time and know that to get something truly worthwhile in life, to truly change it, you need to change a lot within yourself.
And they do change, they move mountains!
But why, having done so much for yourself, for your environment, and for the planet, do you still doubt that you deserve it?
10 tips to help you realize your worth.
Confirming Your Own Worth Is a Challenge
When you declare your intention to the universe, higher powers begin to guide you toward its inevitable realization.
And this means they provoke you to cultivate from within the feeling of “I deserve.”
Life throws uncomfortable situations at you where you are forced to confirm your worth.
But it is not always easy to do. This is because emotional pain, trauma, and fear of asserting yourself and your needs are hidden inside.
That is why you are thrown back, and you have to face similar situations over and over again.
Sometimes it is very painful, but the only way to stop this vicious circle is not to run away, but to gather your determination and insist on your own.
The group meditation “Recognizing a Woman’s Worth” will help you feel like a treasure that needs to be cherished and cared for.
What Will Help You Learn to Value Yourself
Allow yourself to look at the problematic situation from a slightly different angle. It gives you the opportunity to show self-love in life and set boundaries.
For example, you ordered something, came to receive a specific item, but they give you something completely different. You gather your inner strength and say: “No! I will not take this!”
You provoke a conflict, declaring: “I deserve to get what I wanted!”
Such a moment in life comes when there are no other options. You understand that you can no longer give up on yourself.
You have to go into conflict, even if you are a peace-loving person. And without complaints, with a sense of self-worth:
“This no longer suits me. I now perceive the world completely differently. I have grown!”
See also: Three components of your value
Value is your attitude toward yourself, how much you love and accept yourself.
There are as many opinions on this as there are people. But several important unifying points of feeling your own worth can be highlighted.
Read about them in this article.
You always deserve the very best without any merits. Simply by birthright.
Regardless of what you do and how you live.
Apply this to all areas of life, to your innermost desires. If you have doubts inside, pay attention to your feelings.
It is not enough to know that you deserve it. The mind understands, but there is no inner feeling that it is so.
Identify for yourself those areas in life where you are not sure you deserve more and direct your focus there.
What programs, what attitudes prevent this feeling from being born?
See also: The Pyramid of Self-Worth. How to move from evaluating yourself to unconditional value
The “Flip” Technique
If you find yourself in a situation where your boundaries are grossly violated, where you are not respected, plans are ruined, perform the “flip” technique.
For example, if someone addresses you rudely, and it causes you a state of discomfort, switch your attention.
Do not give in to your resentment; give yourself a specific affirmation – “I deserve respect!”.
Do not dwell on the fact that someone was rude to you: “How dare they!”. Focus on the specific phrase: “I deserve respect!”.
And if I deserve respect, I make a choice either not to communicate with this person, or to stop their actions, or to declare that I will not tolerate such a tone.
You have the right to do so.
A state of discomfort is an indicator that the part of you that is confident that you deserve it is sending you a signal.
Use it to learn to see where you are undervaluing yourself.
This simple technique will help you in any situation where you feel discomfort from not being worthy of something.
See also Inverse Polarity, or why what you don’t want comes true
For example, you dream of a family, but inside you doubt that you deserve family happiness. As soon as you see a happy couple, you feel a sense of discomfort inside: “I don’t have this.”
Do a flip. Tell yourself: “And I deserve happiness. And I will have it.”
Imprint these phrases into yourself, force yourself to believe, because it really is true.
The more often you apply this technique, the stronger your confidence will grow that you deserve everything you dream of.
If you have not yet taken the free course “Activation of Unconditional Love through the Chakras”, we recommend you do so.
Unconditional love is the healing force of the Universe, capable of transforming any trauma, any pain into light.
If you still find yourself in situations where you give up on yourself due to a lack of belief in your own uniqueness, do not step back, trust your soul.
It will surely find the shortest and most favorable path to the full realization of your worth.