Hidden Mechanisms Blocking Your Money #4
I hope you’ve had enough time to see your money myths and decide on a new paradigm of thinking.
If not, I suggest reflecting once more on the materials from this series of articles:
#1 Evolution of Money Awareness
#2 Programmed Reality
#3 Reprogramming
Despite its seeming simplicity, all of this is a set of working tools that helped me and my clients make a quantum leap into/to abundance.
We left off at the third step of reprogramming limiting beliefs, which goes like this:
Act from your new paradigm.
It seems simple, right? You’ve defined the rules by which you now play, with a clear mind and clear memory…
That’s the thing: with a clear mind and clear memory. In other words, in a state of AWARENESS, because this is your conscious decision.
And I believe you don’t make empty promises and are ready to put in maximum effort to make this happen.
But besides your conscious part, there are many others inside you… for example, the SUBCONSCIOUS, which couldn’t care less about what you’ve imagined for yourself or decided.
Your subconscious holds all your life experience, any trauma or pain, disappointment and resentment… which may not surface as long as you’re in a state of balance.
But I’ve rarely met people who are CONSTANTLY in balance.
A conflict at work, prolonged stress, a child’s or loved one’s illness, a string of troubles, or a breakup with a loved one… and you, without noticing, fall into a completely different, matrix reality.
And in the matrix, the laws of the matrix apply: all those money myths we highlighted in the first articles.
Moreover, in a stressful state, you experience a lack of energy, which triggers your survival instinct.
Instinct implies INSTINCTIVE behavior, or rather, a REACTION — without thinking… because the most precious thing — your life — could be at risk. So there’s NO time to think. You need to react urgently!
Let’s take a closer look at the word RE-action. In the world of internet technology, [RE] means a repeat of something.
And you can only repeat what you’ve ALREADY done. That is, the old way of life, the old way of thinking.
See also: How to Write a New Paradigm of Thinking
Learn what steps you need to take to firmly establish the new paradigm in your life.
Let’s say, as your new money paradigm, you’ve adopted the following postulate:
I deserve the best in life!
That same evening, you go to the mall, see a blouse that flatters your figure and goes well with many items in your wardrobe, look at the price tag, and…
It’s not even about the cost being something you can’t afford; you actually have that amount, but right before your eyes flash your son’s torn pants, an unpaid loan, or upcoming car repair expenses, etc.
And the “best” thing you believe you deserve, by your own decision, gets put off UNTIL LATER.
Maybe this isn’t the best example, but it’s the most common one.
What became the obstacle to implementing a new money paradigm in this case?
— A sense of guilt and putting others first.
See also: 10 Steps to Your Dream
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What instantly throws you back into the matrix?
Guilt holds one of the top spots on the pedestal of falls back into the matrix.
Moreover, this is a purely subjective feeling, based on low self-esteem or an unconscious grievance toward others… Your loved ones might not even suspect what’s tormenting you.
The leader on this list, however, will be shifting responsibility onto others. The so-called victim role, which blames anyone and everyone except themselves.
They blame PASSIVELY, falling into self-pity, or AGGRESSIVELY, making demands.
The essence doesn’t change: a victim cannot live in prosperity because they are unworthy of it.
{People who feel from within that they deserve a lot, and even more, won’t waste time on accusations or demands; instead, they’ll ask themselves where they fell short and what needs to change.}
To illustrate, here’s a recent example from the comments on the “Cash Flow Management 2.0” training:
A phone call comes in with an offer to visit a beauty salon for a free consultation. During the consultation, a woman is vividly told about modern and highly effective cosmetics and is persuaded to buy them for a considerable sum.
How will a person behave in such a situation?
1) If you are balanced and acting from a consciousness of prosperity, you will ask yourself: do you need this cosmetics? Will you actually use it?
If yes, you buy it. If no, you say: “Thank you, I’m not interested.”
If the salesperson/cosmetologist is too pushy, you set the necessary boundary and insist on your refusal.
{I myself recently encountered unpleasant pushiness from a consultant like this. I had to express my displeasure with his “marketing” strategy quite firmly. But I liked the cosmetic line and found it at another mall… but if it weren’t for that first salesperson’s pushiness, I would never have learned about this line at all.}
2) But most women will behave differently. They will NOT be able to REFUSE (Yes, what will they think of me?! It’s awkward! and so on)
And after a while, they will loudly cry that they were CHEATED, DECEIVED… i.e., they will shift the responsibility for their own indecisiveness and inability to say “no” onto others’ shoulders. Or they will suffer from guilt for not being able to refuse.
But the way out of such a situation is simple: see what you stumbled on, draw the appropriate conclusion, and the next time a similar situation arises, gather all your willpower and firmly say NO… no matter what it costs you.
You are either true to your new paradigm of thinking, or you are engaging in SELF-deception!
Not saying goodbye,
Alena Starovoitova