Very soon, all the points of unprocessed trauma that prevent you from expressing your true self will be brought to light.
For example, many people have a recognition wound (feeling undervalued, unloved) that originates in childhood.
Learn how this can manifest, when the need for external recognition turns into a trauma, and what the secret of its healing is.
When the need for external recognition turns into a trauma
The need for recognition is on the list of basic human psychological needs. Everyone wants to be recognized by their community, loved ones, friends, and colleagues. This is a normal desire.
But this need is not always met. It usually begins in childhood, when parents, teachers, or caregivers devalue a child’s achievements. If this happens often, trauma develops.
In adult life, the trauma is masked but never disappears. In the times we are living through now, absolutely everything that requires healing is being brought to light, including the recognition wound.
If you feel an inner dependence on other people recognizing your merits, this trauma may become acute right now.
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For example, you need recognition that you are a good wife, a good mother. Then “reverse” situations may arise where you feel that this recognition is lacking.
The need for recognition in specific areas of life
Sometimes the need for recognition arises in a specific area of your life or activity.
Overall, you are a fairly confident person, but when you start mastering a new activity (business, sports, or in our case, spiritual mastery), a need appears for approval and recognition from more experienced, authoritative people in that field.
I had this a long time ago. I so wanted someone to measure me, to tell me I was great, including vibrationally, that all the work I was doing was not in vain.
The need for external recognition means there is an inner feeling of being undervalued from the outside. For example, if you are active in business, you want the authorities in that field to recognize you. You want this recognition from the perspective of that community.
You don’t need general recognition that you are a good person, only in the area where you are in the formative stage and your confidence in what you are doing has not yet strengthened.
So, in my time, I needed the spiritual community to recognize me. Someone seeks recognition from a business perspective, someone needs it from investors. The topic doesn’t matter.
This part that asks for recognition sits inside. In today’s times, it is manifesting strongly in many people.
See also: How to overcome dependence on others’ opinions
Find out what actions can help you get rid of it.
How to heal the recognition wound
Peace begins with you. If you want to have something in your life, give it to yourself first.
The meaning of the quest for recognition is to show you that you are the one undervaluing yourself and still looking outward for validation.
Everything is within. If you yourself devalue your own victories, then what do you expect from other people? The outer world simply mirrors back to you what is inside you.
There is no one worse than your own inner critics and vicious trolls. You may have long broken free from external influence (parents, environment), but the program of self-judgment continues to work tirelessly.
Your task is to acknowledge yourself as an adult who takes responsibility for your actions and thoughts and is capable of giving yourself everything you need, including love and support.
If you have discovered this wound in any area of your life, and felt that some part of you lacks recognition, your task is to fill that part from within with love.
Until you do this, nothing further will unfold. Enter a state of acceptance, realize that your attention to yourself is primary, and let go of your attachment to external approval. Then your inner need for this recognition will disappear. And everything will begin to unfold.
Recognition from others will come, but you must first resolve this issue with yourself, not from the outside.
See also: What it means to love yourself. 15 signs that indicate you love yourself
Please share in the comments whether you have been feeling a need for recognition from others lately? In what area of life does this show up?
This article is based on a group meditation from May 5, 2021, and a supporting 4k broadcast for clients