As we know, everything is in our head. Both pain and joy, and the beliefs that cause them. And while we have no questions about joy, only a few enjoy suffering.
I invite you to figure out where the false beliefs that cause so many difficulties come from, and how to free yourself from them.
After all, only in a clear head is there space for joy.
Where your ideas about life come from
Think about where your beliefs, ideas about life, opinions about what is right and wrong, and what you should strive for come from.
Consider what is the source of your values, priorities, and fears. Notice that if everything in life is sacred to you, for another person, perhaps only what satisfies their needs is sacred.
If your happiness lies in achievements, then another person’s happiness might lie in contemplation. And when you strive to comprehend the soul, someone else might strive to comprehend atomic energy.
Your mentality, political, religious, philosophical opinions, views on life and nature, are to a large extent the result of social programming.
Let’s check:
You have seen that your thinking is a reflection of the culture in which you live.
Let’s look at where this leads.
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What your life is built on
The inner voice you have from birth becomes quieter and quieter over the years. The more false beliefs you absorb, the quieter it sounds.
Life becomes dreary, even though the plan is fulfilled: education is obtained, a family is created, property is bought, a career is built.
A feeling arises that something important has been missed.
Maybe you didn’t try hard enough, and you need to repeat the cycle, putting in more energy? Or, maybe this is simply not what you were created for?
Something inside whispers quietly: “This is not me, not mine.” But you continue to perform daily rituals accompanied by faithful servants — anxiety, confusion, disappointment, and dissatisfaction.
If it’s time to say goodbye to this, do the following: write down on paper all the ideas you have believed:
- I need to wake up early / I sleep too much,
- I need to work hard / Life is not for pleasure,
- I need to give birth before 30 / I have delayed having children too long,
- Children must obey their parents in everything / My children should be more obedient,
- You can’t make money doing what you love / You shouldn’t turn your favorite activity into a profession.
Set this list aside for a short time. We will return to it very soon.
For now, let’s look at what else life can be built on, if not on beliefs.
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What is the true foundation of life
What happens when your Higher Self finally says, “Enough, I’m tired of this. I want freedom from these ideas!”?
The little house built from false beliefs begins to crumble. Despite the fear, you are filled with determination; an inner strength emanating from your heart supports your aspiration.
You suddenly change your lifestyle, your circle of friends, refuse to follow others’ opinions, and open yourself to the new.
A life born from the call of the soul literally plays with colors and radiates light. You feel lightness and joy, even if you encounter many trials.
You have the long-awaited understanding that you are on the right path. Your inner voice becomes calm and confident, able to withstand the onslaught of external voices, no matter how threatening they may be.
If your Higher Self is already ready to shake off the labels hung upon it, return to the list of beliefs you have bought into. Look at it carefully.
As you speak each idea aloud, observe the sensations in your body. Perhaps you feel a tightness in your stomach, pain in your chest, or heaviness in your head.
Ask yourself: am I ready to question these beliefs?
If your answer is “yes,” continue reading.
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How to Step Beyond False Beliefs
It is commonly believed that a person’s main conflict lies in the opposition between feelings and reason, the ego and the superego.
In reality, the mind is a tool of the spirit. Conflict happens when you give this tool full authority.
The inner call is roughly suppressed by societal beliefs, cultural stereotypes, and psychological programs.
Be attentive to everything you are asked to believe. And be attentive to what you yourself impose on other people.
Remember, if you have a positive opinion, it means somewhere a negative opinion exists, and vice versa.
But behind all opinions stands a single Life. Cultivate in yourself the habit of questioning any beliefs, even the most reasonable and logical ones—both yours and others’.
Write down your beliefs that you sincerely consider to be yours and correct:
- You must always tell the truth,
- You cannot be late,
- People must be polite,
- Rain is bad weather,
- A person must work.
Ask yourself again: am I ready to question these beliefs?
If your answer is “yes,” then the remedy will help you.
Read about the 6 steps that will help you rewrite old beliefs into new ones.
The Remedy That Eliminates False Beliefs
How do you know you are 100% right? Could it be otherwise? Question your own opinion.
Gather all the beliefs you sincerely hold yourself (those that create pleasant sensations in your body) and those you disagree with (those that cause tightness in your chest, anxiety, and other unpleasant sensations and feelings).
Now, in silence and solitude, ask yourself the magic question and freeze for 2 minutes so the answer can come to you from deep within.
The magic question that dissolves all barriers and suffering is this: “Is it true?”
Now apply this question to your beliefs:
- I need to wake up early / I sleep too long — Is it true?
- I need to work hard / Life is not for enjoyment — Is it true?
- I need to give birth before 30 / I have delayed having children too long — Is it true?
- Children must obey their parents in everything — Is it true?
- You can’t make money doing what you love — Is it true?
- You must always tell the truth — Is it true?
- Being late is not allowed — Is it true?
- People must be polite — Is it true?
- Rain is bad weather — Is it true?
- A person must work — Is it true?
Having dissolved all this garbage of false beliefs, you will hear the voice of your true Self.
It will become much easier for you to breathe, live, accept, and love yourself and other people when the wall of individual opinions no longer stands between you.
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Striving to meet imaginary demands, a person can sometimes drive themselves crazy, losing their lightness, spontaneity, and common sense.
Life flows in its own amazing way. As the Bible says: “The ways of the Lord are inscrutable.” So why do we strive to do everything against the flow of life, lining up in a neat row of managers and economists?
Why, when life leads us forward, do we forcefully pull it back or to the side, just because public opinion says so?
And is it really as significant as we are used to believing?