There is a category of women and girls who attend various trainings and courses to understand how to inspire a man to earn money.
However, one important detail is overlooked: in this way, you are relinquishing responsibility for your own life and independence, relying on your husband. Let him earn the money, and I’ll just be beautiful.
In this article, we will not consider options for manipulating a man; that is a direct violation of the cosmic law of free will and choice. The project’s values are about something else.
Let’s talk about what to do if your husband is not working, doesn’t want to work, and how you can help him want to earn more money.
Why it’s important to be independent and self-sufficient
I want to emphasize that we are not looking for a way to make your husband work and earn a lot while I just sit around and inspire him.
You need to reclaim responsibility for your own life. When you are dependent on a person, you are always in a weak position. Because God forbid something happens to your husband (he dies, leaves you, or something else occurs), you will be left with nothing, unprepared for life, unable to survive.
It is important to gain independence.
Women often face situations where they urgently need to resolve some financial issue, but their husband is, for example, away on a trip. It turns out they can’t do anything themselves because they don’t know how, they aren’t adapted.
Because they are used to having a reliable partner nearby who always handles these things. For them, this is a big challenge that they have to deal with.
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What to do if your husband is not working
If a man refuses to look for work, you take on this part yourself. At the same time, you should have an agreement, not complaints or an ultimatum. This is assuming that you are both satisfied with the family relationship.
You understand that he is a good person, but he just can’t find a job yet and has already given up. Then you take on the function of earning money yourself, and the man turns into a nanny for the children, taking on household duties. At the same time, you drop the complaint that he is this or that for not working.
Here it’s important to understand what kind of relationship you have and who the person next to you is. If you’ve been living with him for more than a year, it’s probably not for nothing. Different situations and periods happen in life. Everyone goes through crises. Today you are on top, lucky with your earnings; tomorrow it’s your husband’s lucky streak.
Things don’t always happen the way you want. Nagging him and forcing him to go to work so there is more money won’t make things better.
You can be responsible for yourself. You have options: either leave the family and start everything from scratch, or, if the relationship suits you, come to some agreement that satisfies both parties, or finally get off his back.
The problem for women, especially those who are divorced and those who live “like a bug in a rug,” is that they have too many complaints about men. Men are not perfect. Very often, we drive them to it ourselves with our attacks and nitpicking.
And then a smiling young woman appears, and he leaves for her, because she doesn’t nag or scold, but tells him how awesome he is, what beautiful gray hair he has, how soft his bald spot is, and so on.
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Is It About the Money
You could, of course, set some limits for yourself and live on a smaller amount. But it’s not always about the money.
Ask yourself whether I am satisfied with the relationship with a man when, say, this has been going on for five years? This way, we shift it from the category of money to the category of the relationship with the man.
Among older women, there are those who live with alcoholic husbands because they think they are no longer needed by anyone and wonder how they will manage in old age. They just endure. There are those who are beaten, and they endure just the same.
Maybe it’s not about the money, but about the relationship? If the question is posed and the answer is: “No, I am satisfied with my husband in every way. He treats the kids well, and as a husband he is great, the only problem is with money,” then we go down the path of helping the man find a goal for which he will want to earn money.
A Man Needs a Goal
Men are conquerors by nature. They need to conquer and seduce a woman. Once they have seduced her, they can relax.
This often happens in marriage. He was a peacock. Once the fortress is overcome, there is less attention and other priorities take over. His principle is to conquer. This is a man’s animal instinct.
Just as a woman has the instinct of a tigress — to protect her child at any cost, and then all reserves kick in. Two different instincts, only a woman’s is directed at children, while a man’s is directed at conquest.
If a man has no goal, then your task is to help him find it, inspire him.
They say a woman inspires a man to earn money because women have more desires than men, and when a man becomes saturated with these desires, movement begins.
If a man has no desire of his own, you can inspire him to do this by talking. Go down this path.
Thanks to their stubbornness, drive, and one hundred percent focus, men quickly achieve certain goals. But this goal must be significant for the man so that he can see what it is for.
If your desires don’t inspire him, find what he himself likes. Some are interested in cool cars, others in active recreation or fishing. You know your own husband.
If you find such a goal, it will be both inspiration and motivation. Because when everything is sluggish, he doesn’t put in much effort. Well, if there’s none, there’s none; if there’s some, that’s what there is.
Some serious action is needed.
Are you inspiring your husband to earn money?
This article is based on webinars with answers to questions from the course “Happy Partnership” (no longer available for purchase)