In life, in response to some statement, we hear the phrase: “I am mirroring you.”
The people who say it understand that much in our world is a mirror… including the people around us.
To some extent, this is true. But only partially.
Since different “mirrors” reflect different facets of our perception of reality.
Read more about the “mirror” principles, as well as what kinds of relationship mirrors exist, in this material.
Mirror Principles
Reality manifests itself in two forms: the physical, which can be touched, and the metaphysical, which lies beyond our perception.
Both forms exist simultaneously, interpenetrating and complementing each other.
Your reflection in the mirror is your metaphysical image, and it is real.
Our world can also be imagined as a giant mirror, on one side of which lies physical reality, and on the other side — the metaphysical space of potentials.
And unlike how you look at yourself in a mirror and see a reflection, the material world acts as a reflection, the image of which is intentions, goals, designs, plans.
The space of potentials serves as a matrix, a template, according to which assembly takes place. All information about what should happen in the material world is stored there.
The mirror divides the world into two halves, into the real and the imaginary, the metaphysical.
What is on the material half develops according to the laws of physics, instantly reacts to direct influence, and an illusion arises that direct influence can achieve some results.
Now let’s take a closer look at the “mirror” principles.
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Principle #1. The world, like a mirror, reflects your attitude towards it
The world reflects your thoughts back to you. If you feel sadness, anger, or annoyance, the world turns to you with that side and shows corresponding events.
If you are joyful, the world immediately responds and shows you everything from a joyful perspective.
Why does the world more often show negative events and situations? The answer lies in the second mirror principle.
Principle #2. Reflection is formed in the unity of soul and mind
People often have a disconnect between what they think and what the soul wants.
Unity is achieved in most cases in a negative key, because it is easier for the mind to believe in bad things than in good ones.
When you are afraid of something, do not want it, everything turns upside down in your soul, and the mind confirms: “yes, that is exactly how it will happen.”
But for something good to happen, you need to train your mind so that it wants the same thing.
You have probably noticed that if you want something with all your heart, and your mind agrees that you can get it, it easily comes true.
And if before this required years, then months, now it can happen literally in a few days. The situation unfolds in the most wonderful and beautiful way.
The most important thing is not to allow doubts of the mind and to make the soul want it.
See also 3 signs that will help determine a true desire
Principle #3. The mirror reacts with a delay
If you are trying to manifest something insignificant, it can happen within a few hours.
This delay can be used to your advantage. If you cannot connect your soul and mind, constantly confirm your intention: “I want this, I deserve this, I know this is how it should be.”
And then it, albeit with a delay, will still react.
If you were thinking about something yesterday, the mirror reflects it to you today. The same principle as in the law of cause and effect.
What you have today is the result of your past thoughts and actions or inaction.
The mirror is coated with an amalgam of different shades: warm and cold. Thanks to this, in one mirror, when you look into it, you like yourself, in another you do not.
So in life, you can apply an amalgam to your mirror — form the coloring of your reality, change your attitude towards yourself, towards the world, towards situations, and your surroundings.
Choose your phrase, your mantra, which will run like a red thread through your choices and decisions. It will guide your life.
For example: “The Universe takes care of me.”
And in any situation, especially an unpleasant one, remember your mantra and say it, keep your thoughts under control.
When you accept the situation internally, everything will unfold in the best possible way.
Confirm to yourself that the world truly takes care of you, no matter what.
This does not mean you need to be passive; you do this to form a mindset that no matter what you do, everything happens in the best way, everything always works out favorably.
Here are some affirmations you can use to reprogram your thinking from negative to a positive perception of life.
Principle #4. The mirror states the content of the relationship, ignoring its direction
Fears and doubts are realized instantly. If you strive to avoid something, you risk encountering it.
The mirror reflects the content itself, the very essence.
If you relate to something with joy and love, the world shows you this beautiful facet.
If there is a lot of negativity in your life, undesirable events, and what you want does not happen, you are walking in a vicious circle.
You observe reality, express your attitude towards it, and the mirror of the universe reinforces your attitude towards reality.
To break out of this circle, switch from the reflection to the image itself, in other words — from the outside to the inside, take control of your thoughts, reactions, and beliefs.
See also What are shadow aspects of personality and how to return to your true self
Principle #5. The mirror reflects (realizes) everything you do NOT want
Think not about what you do NOT want, but about what you strive for.
Most often, a person knows what he does NOT want and constantly thinks about it.
The universe, like a mirror, reflects his thoughts back to him.
Remove all words with the particle NOT from your vocabulary: dissatisfaction, rejection, unwillingness, disapproval, hatred, uncertainty, lack of success, failure.
And all words with a negative meaning.
Shift your focus from what you don’t need to what you want. Replace it with an equal but opposite.
If you think about how you don’t want to go to work, imagine what you would like to do. Instead of thinking that you are tired, think about how you could treat yourself.
See also Inverse Polarity, or why what you don’t want comes true
The habit of thinking negatively is reinforced by neural connections in the brain. Direct your efforts to break them and create new ones.
Do something new every day, do familiar things differently, take new paths, create a mood for yourself. And with your mood, you choose the colors of your reality.
What will help with this: an affirmation, a mantra at night and upon waking, meditation, a focus on the beautiful (nature, art).
Complete the exercise “Today is an amazing day in which I live” from the training seminar, part 1 (the exercise starts at 26 minutes).
Now let’s look at how mirrors manifest in relationships.
5 mirrors of relationships
The first mirror reflects the present moment
Animals and children are good mirrors. They reflect precisely those unconscious attitudes and emotions that are currently guiding you.
Modern children have a fine intuition; they clearly read your mood, inner state, and energy, and through their behavior, they point out what you need to pay attention to.
If you do not speak or act according to your feelings, do not accept emotions, and hide them from yourself and others, children quickly pick up on this falseness and immediately react to it.
If a mother is tired and does not allow herself to rest, continuing to do household chores while ignoring her fatigue and emotional state, the child will point this out to her through inappropriate behavior: being capricious and making noise.
How to change the situation:
Say what you are actually thinking and feeling: “I am tired and want to rest,” “I want to be alone for a while,” “I am angry, I am sad, I am failing at this and that.”
After that, ask the child to sit quietly.
Children reflect your shadow sides. If you do not accept a certain quality in yourself, the child will mirror it back to you, behaving in exactly the way you find unacceptable.
In such cases, the “I-statement translation” technique works well. Join the “Dance with the Shadow” course to learn to recognize your shadow aspects and restore your wholeness.
The second mirror reflects critical judgments
If you judge certain qualities in a person, you will encounter people who will reflect them.
If you are honest and judge dishonest people, you will be deceived.
Learn to accept what you judge.
Test your relationships with loved ones. What irritates you about them? What qualities? Think about what exactly they are mirroring back to you?
Bless the people you judge, feel gratitude toward them.
Read: Why some people annoy you for no reason.
The third mirror reflects what was lost, given away, or taken from you
If a person was not loved enough by their parents in childhood, they will seek love externally in adulthood to fill an inner void. They will enter numerous relationships, break up, never finding what they are looking for.
When you find yourself in a situation where something is taken from you, you have an opportunity to learn important things about yourself.
You are shown what you have lost, given away, or what has been taken from you. And often it is shown in a distorted form, so that you would take it back.
When you encounter such a mirror, ask yourself: what does this reflect in me?
You see the part with which you have lost contact. If you understand what you have lost and reclaim that part, you will gradually regain inner wholeness.
See also How to regain wholeness of personality
Check: perhaps many problems in your life are precisely related to the fact that you have lost wholeness and cannot regain it…
The fourth mirror reflects the dark night of your soul
This mirror shows the greatest fears you have experienced in different areas of life: work, relationships, children, lifestyle.
When you cannot/do not want to leave your comfort zone (fear of the unknown, fear of change), even though you know you can no longer live this way, the current situation begins to deteriorate.
Deep down, a desire to change something appears, turning into an irresistible temptation that you cannot resist, which pushes you forward.
Eventually, an explosion occurs, and you find yourself in the situation you feared most.
Such situations may occur more than once in a lifetime, but the first time is the most painful.
If you find yourself in such a situation, do not despair, because you have the resource to handle it.
We are only given trials that we are strong enough to endure.
The purpose of this mirror is to heal your deepest fears. Therefore, it is important to understand why you are clinging to this.
The fifth mirror reflects your perfection
Conduct this test.
Track your cultural level, personal, emotional, athletic level, your level as a wife, homemaker, mother, and so on.
Rate yourself on a 4-point system: excellent, good, not very good, poor.
When you do this, you will see that it is impossible to be “excellent” or “good” in all parameters.
After that, ask yourself: by what criteria did I evaluate myself?
Any evaluation is a comparison of someone with someone else. What could be the standard in each of the levels or areas?
All comparisons can only be justified if you compare yourself with yourself.
Compare yourself in the past and now, how you reacted then and now, award yourself medals for this.
When you stop comparing yourself with others, you will learn to see what you have achieved, begin to value yourself, and see the perfection of your own soul’s embodiment.
Whatever you do, it is all perfect.
What is happening at this moment is perfect in itself. In this lies your growth and development. Accept it with joy.
Each mirror is a step to a higher level of personal self-improvement.
You begin to realize your creative powers, your potential, and understand your divinity.
See also How to remember the divine within yourself and what it means to be a divine mirror for another
For more details about mirrors of relationships, see parts two and three of the training seminar “Mirrors of Relationships”.
Part 2. My Uniqueness
Part 3. Five Mirrors of Relationships