This article examines two common questions from project participants about interacting with loved ones.
Why does it happen that the state of your loved ones, their mood and choices, have a negative impact on you, drain you, and throw you off balance.
How to interact with loved ones, especially with “low-vibration” husbands
One of the common questions from female project participants: “My husband is immersed in negativity, he knocks me out of my resourceful state. What should I do?”
This implies that I am so advanced, while my husband is in a victim state.
If you are in the position of an observer who looks at everything happening from a higher perspective, with love and acceptance, then there is no judgment or control. You easily remain within yourself.
When you watch a movie, you don’t get involved in what’s happening; you don’t take it to heart.
But many people stumble precisely on judgment, and some also have a sense of superiority: “They are in negativity, but I am above it.”
Every person lives through the moments they need to live through for their highest good, no matter how it may appear otherwise.
A huge group of people are going through their lessons, finishing what they haven’t finished playing out.
When you are in agreement with yourself, you fundamentally do not get involved in what is happening with other people.
But if it does affect you, then most likely you are deceiving yourself about how much you are in a harmonious state. It means you are also not in harmony and not in neutrality.
When you are self-sufficient, you don’t meddle in the affairs of other people, even the closest ones, but they also don’t affect you.
This is the sovereign field, the space that you build around yourself, and nothing alien has access to it.
Although we are cleaning up the topic of codependency, it still appears when you adapt to another person’s behavior depending on their actions and reactions toward you. And this shows up in many places.
You read each other, push each other vibrationally and energetically when you are in the same space. Your task is to hold your own field, to be centered on yourself. What happens to your loved ones only concerns you when you engage. Ask yourself: Why am I engaging?
See also Spiritual Growth in a Couple. 10 Rules to Help You Grow Together
Manifestation of Spiritual Ego
To everyone writing about low-vibration relatives, I recommend looking at what you are putting into that phrase. Because your principle of 3D opposition is playing out in full force.
If someone is low-vibration, that means I am high-vibration. This is called “pride” or a developed spiritual ego.
With a developed spiritual ego, you cannot radiate love, neutrality, and acceptance, in which state you can come to an agreement with anyone or decide that you do not need it.
How to Help a Sick Mother If She Does Not Want It
Another common topic is doing good without being asked: “I want to help my sick mother, she refuses, and I am exhausted…”
Do not violate the will or choice of another person. For such cases, there is the Pyramid of Light and Power, where you invite the person with the permission of their Higher Self.
If you intrude into another person’s life or will without asking, you will experience a strong backlash. You cannot force a person to be healthy or happy.
Health and happiness are a personal choice for everyone, and each person individually grants permission for healing.
Every illness has its causes. If a person is not ready to address the causes, you are trying to go against the current.
Exhaustion occurs when you work through yourself. That is, when you are not an empty transparent vessel through which energy flows.
Most often, egoistic motives come into play; you want to attribute the merits of their healing and transformation to yourself.
If this is the case, you fail because at that moment you cease to be transparent, and you develop a personal stake. You expect gratitude, that they will appreciate you, praise you, and so on.
At that moment, you are not in the channel; you are working through yourself. You think you know better what is best for your mother, placing another person below yourself.
See also: Who and when to help. Motives and principles of helping others from a spiritual perspective
Admit it, are you falling into the trap of spiritual ego?
The article is based on a broadcast from the #ask_KM section Ask_KM #3