In the previous article, we discussed negative programs affecting women’s lives.
The desires to find a partner, get married, have a child, and fulfill oneself as a mother and wife do exist. But we must not forget that these are all roles.
Many confuse roles with purpose, mistaking them for the meaning of life.
They attach too much importance to these desires, which prevent them from seeing and knowing themselves.
In this article, we will explore what female purpose truly is.
What causes women’s suffering
Women who are, in one way or another, influenced by the programs described in the first part of the article constantly compare themselves to friends, colleagues, and acquaintances they consider more successful.
These successes are measured by the ability to play the desired roles.
“She is prettier than me, braver, luckier” — that is what I used to think when looking at other girls who had a husband, partner, or children.
There came a moment when I grew tired of tormenting myself with such thoughts, and I asked: “Why does it come so easily to them, but not to me? Am I worse?”
Much time has passed since then. I have gone through personal crises, uncovering traumas and healing from them. Many things have changed in my life, including my beliefs and attitude toward myself.
Now I want to share the conclusions I have reached.
When a woman is overly focused on the desire to play a role (to marry well, have a child, be loved) — she abandons herself.
For her, purpose equals a successfully played role. Society dictates standards of beauty and success. If a person lacks a spiritual core, a clear direction of where they are going, they risk becoming unhappy.
But it is not society that is to blame, but the unwillingness to look inside oneself, the inability to establish contact with one’s soul, and the misunderstanding of one’s own desires.
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If a woman chooses society’s opinion, and God forbid, if by some generally accepted standards she does not fit into the norms, she is doomed to be unhappy.
This feeling intensifies when seeing successful, beautiful women who have achieved everything. From a spiritual perspective, this reaction does not appear so that you can once again convince yourself of your unlucky fate.
The universe presents this to you so that you can find the strength within yourself to break out of this cycle of limitations and the influence of social roles, and claim what is rightfully yours.
To reveal yourself, to show yourself to the world: Here I am!
The soul seems to say: “Well, when will you finally pay attention to yourself?!”
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Why it is important to distinguish roles from purpose
The desire to play the role of wife, mother, beloved woman, if they evoke a poignant feeling of “but I don’t have this,” prevent you from seeing your true self.
Your task is to be able to see yourself behind these roles. You are your own main treasure. But when you turn outward due to a sense of lack, you diminish yourself.
If your vector of attention is directed towards fulfilling a role, then you are oriented towards the external, not the internal.
And then suffering is inevitable, because the external is not permanent: a husband may leave, youth may fade, and standards of beauty, after all, change.
But you always have yourself, your soul and its desires. And one of the soul’s desires was to be born with exactly this appearance, with this character, to these parents, in this country.
Since this happened, it means that with all these components you can fulfill the tasks of the soul most fully.
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What is a woman’s true purpose
By pushing roles into the background, you will see that behind them hides the real, the true, the permanent. That which you do not need to chase, it is always with you.
You have already fulfilled your main task by being born in a female body. And you are not obligated to fulfill roles.
It does not matter whether you became a mother, a wife, or possess a beautiful appearance; even if you do not accept yourself as a woman, you still are one.
Thus, you are already fulfilling your feminine purpose.
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How to switch from roles to yourself
Imagine a large field of flowers. Some have already bloomed, while others are just about to. You are these buds, and your time to bloom will inevitably come.
But it depends on you whether you allow yourself this. Whether you will believe that you are a woman, that you are the Universe, that within you lies an inexhaustible source of love.
You are a bud of the most beautiful flower, about to bloom or already in bloom, only you cannot quite believe it.
All you need to do is realize that you are this precious, most beautiful flower and allow yourself to open up, to show your beauty to the world.
And this is impossible to do while rejecting yourself and squeezing into some standards invented by people. Today they may be one thing, and tomorrow another. But you are who you are.
If you open up, acknowledge that you owe nothing to anyone, and above all to yourself, begin to take care of yourself, put your own interests and desires first, you will begin to fill from within with strength and love.
And people will inevitably be drawn to you who want to admire the unique beauty of your soul. They will want to bathe in your source of unconditional love, to be in the field of your very own vibrations.
This is the essence of the feminine purpose: when you value yourself, you give from a state of fullness.
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What to do if you want to fulfill one or several roles
Want to play roles? No problem. Just don’t put them at the forefront, don’t make them the meaning of your life.
Stick to a clear line, stay focused on what is truly important and true.
Only then can you stop being dependent on your desires and allow life to take its course.
1. Stop fighting yourself and your destiny
Accept your life at this given point of existence exactly as it is. Perhaps the purpose of your soul is to be right here, in these circumstances.
Sometimes we ourselves choose such life challenges so that, while in them, we transmit strength, wisdom, and unconditional love to other people.
Showing by our own example that you can be happy under any circumstances. I don’t have this or that, but I live, I love, I am happy.
2. Free yourself from the obligation to fulfill any roles
You don’t have to prove anything to anyone, you don’t have to live by someone else’s orders.
Feel free from roles and listen to whether you really want what you are thinking about, or if it is a program imposed by society.
Then you will have the opportunity to choose whether to play a particular role or not.
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3. Allow for the possibility that you won’t be able to play the role
You really want to have children, to get married. Imagine that perhaps you won’t be able to have them or won’t get married.
What will you do then? Is it fatal? No. You can live. You are living without it right now. And it’s up to you to choose how to live. Regretting what didn’t work out or enjoying every day you live.
I gave birth to a child quite late. But without allowing for the possibility that I might not have children at all, nothing would have worked out. It was hard to imagine such a thing, but I managed.
I remembered examples of acquaintances who don’t have children. It’s fine, they live, and quite happily. They have their own interests, time for themselves, for travel, and a meaning in life.
I decided that I wouldn’t die either if I didn’t give birth to a child, but would direct my energy toward self-development and realizing my plans, that is, inward.
After that, I was able to let go of control and release expectations. And then everything happened on its own.
4. Launch the healing energy of the collective consciousness regarding the female purpose
If you are constantly evolving spiritually, but fears of not starting a family or being alone still persist in your consciousness, perhaps this fear does not belong to you, but to the collective consciousness.
Consider the thought that one of the tasks of your soul in this incarnation is to help humanity heal this fear, and no one besides people like you can do this.
Look at your problem not as a personal failure, but as an opportunity to participate in transforming the world.
Surely, not only will you gain what you dream of after this, but you will also give that chance to every woman on the planet who chooses not to submit to societal standards, but to choose the true female purpose.
For this, we already have a tool — the meditation “Healing the Feminine Principle.”
If this information resonates with you, create an intention to unite together with others like you in a Circle of Light with the goal of healing outdated thought forms, fears, and distortions related to the female purpose.
Perhaps, for you personally, this is the most important step left to take in order to realize yourself in this aspect as well.
Do this without expectations that it will be exactly so.
In conclusion, I want to say that you are already valuable as a woman in your own right and deserve all blessings by birthright, regardless of completed or uncompleted tasks, regardless of the conditions you were born into.
Maintain your vertical, protect your soul, separate the true from the superficial. Treat roles more simply, as an opportunity to play a game.
And if this is for your benefit and serves the development of your soul, you will certainly have the opportunity to realize yourself both as a happy, beloved woman and as a mother.