“Our lives are defined not by what we do once, but by what we do consistently.”
Tony Robbins
How often in life do you hear or think “I’m stuck in a rut,” “I’m tired of the routine,” “I don’t want to deal with the routine”?
There’s a famous quote floating around online by Paulo Coelho: “If you think adventure is dangerous, try routine — it’s deadly.”
But you always have the opportunity to improve the quality of your life — to change your relationship with the boring routine and make it your conscious ally.
In this article, you’ll learn what routine means from the perspective of the new reality and get 5 recommendations on how to befriend your tedious everyday life.
Routine usually brings up negative associations for us.
Ushakov’s Explanatory Dictionary defines routine as “Conservatism, slavish adherence to an established pattern or familiar skills that have turned into a mechanical habit.”
Until recently, I had the same understanding of this word. However, one fact made me think when I learned that the famous 10-step Korean skincare routine is also called — a routine.
Korean and Japanese women have a morning and evening routine where they apply skincare products one after another while doing a simple massage.
Can you imagine? Every morning and evening, they spend 10-20 minutes on their face and call that time a routine!
At that moment, something clicked for me, and I thought that probably 95% of our time, and for some even more, is actually routine. This is our life “here and now.”
And if our “here and now” is getting us down — maybe something is off in our kingdom.
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What is a conscious routine
Routine is a greeting to yourself from the past. It’s your past desires and manifested reality.
Someone wanted to live separately from their parents, someone wished for a job, someone — for a family. But along with the fulfillment of wishes comes a new circle of responsibility and care.
You wanted a business — you need to organize work processes and think about employees.
Children came along — we forget about nightclubs and start a new life.
You won a million in the lottery — you’ll have to deal with a tax inspector, bank employees, and possibly — investment managers.
A child wants a dog. They think it’ll be great to play with whenever they feel like it. But in reality, you have to walk it, take care of it, go to the vet and for grooming.
And just like that, a desire has turned into a routine. But how to relate to this routine — that’s everyone’s choice.
Someone will say: Awesome! I have someone to take care of and share my biggest secret with.
And someone will start complaining that there’s not enough time and they don’t want to walk in the rain.
What matters is not just the routine, but your attitude toward it.
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Let’s look at everyday life from yet another angle.
What if your daily chores are your comfort zone? You can do familiar tasks on autopilot, without needing to learn new knowledge or skills.
A person is wired to turn yet another challenge into a routine or set it aside for a while.
Imagine driving a car along an unfamiliar mountain road. I’m sure the first trip will be unforgettable and very long.
By the fifth trip, you won’t be afraid to overtake the tractor crawling ahead of you. After a year, the road will be familiar down to every turn and will turn into a boring routine.
Think about it: your routine = your comfort zone. Com-fort zone!
How will you feel about your comfort? Will you thank it for being there, or will you say it’s too dull for you?
Everyone chooses for themselves.
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“Every day is a time to do the right things. Every day we must remember Who We Truly Are. We must learn to live in this New Reality — choosing it every moment and not letting anything or anyone stop us from expressing our True Life.”
Solara Serf, 2017 Forecast
You create your own routine, your own reality. And it’s up to you to choose how to relate to your daily responsibilities.
You have the right to grumble while picking up toys all over the house, or you can bless yourself and thank life for having a home, children, and money for toys.
And at the same time, involve the kids in cleaning with jokes and fun, because the second option definitely won’t drain your energy — it will only add to it.
Your task is to turn every minute of your life into conscious living, channeling the flow of energy through yourself, staying in an abundance of energy rather than losing it over trifles.
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Read below what steps you need to take to live consciously and accept any manifestations of life without pain.
1. Center Yourself
The very first step is often the hardest and most important one.
To turn your life into a conscious and grateful creation, you need to have high self-esteem.
To achieve high self-esteem, you need to center yourself and work through your fears of making mistakes, being noticed, doing something wrong, or going down the wrong path.
For most of my life, I lived with a fairly low level of self-esteem, was dependent on external praise, and was terribly afraid of criticism.
But for the past few months, something has shifted, and I couldn’t quite grasp what it was. It only recently dawned on me that my evaluation of myself and my actions has become steady and calm.
It turns out I can praise myself just fine, and there’s practically no criticism—I was mostly just winding myself up.
I realized that I can now take on all sorts of things without fear or reproach, because my inner critic has fallen silent.
At the same time, I still see my weak points and unprocessed tasks, but my attitude toward them is different.
I understand that if I take on this unfinished business and give it my attention and time, then after a while, my muscles will strengthen in that area too.
Now, much more energy is directed toward action, rather than toward the fear of it.
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2. Set Your Life Priorities
People love to grab onto many things and then quit without finishing, because their energy runs out and their interest fades.
Recently, I came across a thought from an author (Aigul Adylbaeva): “The request in our World sounds like: ‘show me my purpose, help me find fulfillment, help me become happy and creative.’ The request in the Eternal World, sounding straight from the depths of the heart, is – ‘Lord, how can I help you?'”
If you set priorities and act from such a request, consulting with your Higher Self about where you need to go and what to do, then making decisions and holding a vision is much easier than following the crowd and living by others’ desires.
For myself, I wrote down my life priorities, which include making my home cozy, practicing facial yoga, spiritual development, working with texts, and much more.
I calmed my scanner mind by listing and affirming the areas in which I am interested in developing long-term.
If I devote even half an hour a day to something on that list, I already feel that the day was not wasted.
When you look at life from this perspective, it turns out you are doing a lot of necessary and useful things.
And all efforts, even if they are multi-directional, still converge at a few specific points.
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3. Audit Your Routine
Everyday tasks and your attitude toward them, just like the people close to you, are the best mirror for yourself and your awareness.
They illuminate your true attitude toward life. Because habits and daily actions are your choice and decision.
That’s why the best thing you can do for yourself is to conduct a routine audit every day.
Listen to yourself — which everyday tasks evoke a neutral feeling or joy, and which ones evoke negativity and rejection.
After which activities do you feel filled with energy, and which ones drain it.
When, even for just a week, there’s a “bell” that rings whenever dissatisfaction or joy arises from what you’re doing, your awareness increases many times over.
4. Say goodbye to or change what drains your energy
After you’ve tracked what drains your energy, what triggers negative emotions in you, and what prevents you from moving forward, make a decision about what you will do with those tasks in your life.
There are many options.
- Some tasks can be stopped altogether because they are simply outdated and no longer serve their purpose.
- Delegate something to someone else who can grow through the tasks you’ve outgrown.
- Reconsider your attitude toward a certain part of your tasks and breathe new meaning into them.
- Create a funny ritual.
I always hated dusting, but now once a week, my kids and I arm ourselves with rags, turn on some high-energy music, and go fight the dust monster! Fast and fun!
The main thing is your conscious decision and vision of life.
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5. Introduce into your life what you are missing
Think about what you are missing in life that could give you extra strength and energy.
A cup of coffee with a friend at a café, a head massage, theta meditation, painting with watercolors?
Center yourself, allow yourself what fills you up, and bring it into your daily life.
The more you engage in what inspires you, the greater the return from the world.
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For me, group meditation has become a monthly routine. I fill up with energy and connect to the group field.
This is one of my life procedures.
For inspiration, watch Tony Robbins’ video “How to Change Yourself in 10 Minutes a Day?”. His daily tuning is 3 minutes of focusing on gratitude, 3 minutes of prayer for loved ones and friends, and 3 minutes of concentration and visualization of achieving his three most important goals.
Don’t think I’m giving advice from a sheltered place. I live thirteen hours a day to the accompaniment and in the company of my two-year-old son.
Often, several hours pass before I can write down a thought for an article that came to me during breakfast.
But, firstly, I understand well that my reality is not static and is constantly in motion, and secondly, my attitude towards time has changed.
There is no feeling that “everything is passing me by,” “I won’t make it.” On the contrary, I have understood and accepted this aspect of abundance in relation to time — there will be enough time for everything!
And even five minutes a day can change my future life. A conscious life.