How often do you encounter problems and troubles? Do conflicts with other people happen in your life?
Surely there are some that have been going on for years. You’ve already tried many methods to resolve them. But without success.
It seems to you that you are in a dead end, in a hopeless situation. This depresses you, but you still keep fighting.
You desperately resist accepting the situation, because there is a belief that this is a sign of weakness, hopelessness.
In this article, you will learn what to do to resolve a problematic situation and how humility can help you with that.
What is humility
“The humble one — who has humbled themselves, who lives in humility,
in gentle devotion to providence, in awareness of their own insignificance.”
Dahl’s Explanatory Dictionary
What do you know about humility?
This concept carries a religious undertone at the level of mass consciousness and, in the traditional understanding, has a shade of weakness:
- Humility — the absence of pride, a readiness to submit to another’s will.
- Humility — awareness of one’s own weaknesses and shortcomings, a feeling of contrition, repentance, modesty.
- Humility — the realization that a goal is unattainable.
Doesn’t it all look hopeless?
As a client of the “Keys to Mastery” project said: “Humility is when you agree with the whole heap of problems, with the entire heavy burden, and make a promise to yourself to carry it for the rest of your life.”
In reality, those who have experienced true humility find a different meaning in this word.
Humility is the cessation of struggle, it is laying down responsibility for resolving the situation and trusting higher powers that the situation will be resolved in the best possible way for everyone.
A simple example:
You are sitting in a boat and rowing against the current. You row and row with the oars as long as you have strength.
The moment comes when your arms go numb, and you drop the oars.
The current carries you away, and you realize you have ended up exactly where you needed to be.
What is the value of humility
We are used to resisting humility, but if you look at this term from a different angle, it turns out there is no need to fear its arrival.
At the moment of humility, relief and liberation come.
It allows you to reach a new spiritual level where you gain the support of higher powers.
Humility is not weakness, not a victim state.
Humility is liberation from struggle.
How to come to humility
5 stages of experiencing a problematic situation
#1 The emergence of the situation
The first stage is the emergence of an unpleasant situation that caused a strong protest.
Examples:
- A husband (wife) is jealous, suspects infidelity. And you have nothing to do with it. You constantly make excuses, prove to him (her) that he (she) is wrong.
And he (she) gets even angrier, doesn’t believe you. You prove and prove, but your arguments are unconvincing to him (her).
- Your mother constantly harasses and criticizes you, and you try to live up to her ideals of a good daughter, but without success.
- You try to protect your inheritance interests, but run into a wall of misunderstanding from relatives.
#2 Attempts to solve the problem on your own
This is the phase of unbridled activity. For people engaged in self-development, it is reinforced by the belief that I am the Creator, that everything is within my power.
You push through every door, try all sorts of methods that the mind throws at you. But the mind is based on life experience, on the life scenarios it has seen.
At this stage, the spiritual component is absent.
There are only physical 3D actions, which are dictated and controlled either by the developed ego or by the person’s personality.
You are not looking for new opportunities. At this level, they are unattainable.
#3 Despair
The moment you realize that no methods work, you fall into deep despair. You believed that you could do it, but the result is absolutely nothing.
When despair washes over you, something clicks inside. And you realize you just need to accept that this is how it is. Enough! Whatever will be, will be!
Let’s recall our examples from life:
- You stop proving to your husband (wife) that you are a faithful spouse and allow him (her) to think whatever he (she) wants.
- You admit your mom is right: “Yes, I am a bad daughter! You have no other, and you never will!”
- You agree to give up your share of the inheritance in favor of relatives.
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#4 Humility
“You cannot solve a problem at the same level at which it was created.
You need to rise above this problem by moving to the next level.”
Albert Einstein
At the stage of humility, all the driving motives that made you beat on all those doors, they are gone, they no longer work.
You remove your personality, your ego from this process. You take away the strong attachment to the result you want to see.
You hand it over to the higher powers for resolution for the highest good of all participants in the situation. And then everything begins to unfold.
This is how humility works.
Until you reach this point of despair, until you become humble, the situation will not be resolved.
That is when this moment of consciousness enlightenment arrives.
The difficulty of humility is that you don’t know what the result will be without your participation. Are you ready for an unexpected turn of events?
Allowing this to happen is a manifestation of strength, wisdom, and the arrival of the next stage — acceptance.
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#5 Acceptance and its difference from humility
When you take the reins of control away from the ego and hand them over to the higher powers for resolution, you realize that the situation needs to be accepted just as it is.
First, you learn to humble yourself with the fact that you cannot influence the situation in any way, and then the moment of acceptance arrives.
Humility differs from acceptance in feeling:
- Humility — sadness: “it didn’t work out, oh well…”
- Acceptance — peace, the realization that this is how it should be.
That is, humility is not yet satisfaction, but it is no longer suffering.
Acceptance is a more advanced option.
If humility comes from hopelessness, then acceptance is a conscious feeling.
See also How to learn to accept and why it is important
Most likely, you will not achieve humility through willpower alone, but knowing this algorithm will make it easier for you to let go of the situation.
Alena Starovoitova on humility
How to Resolve a Situation with Humility
#1. Shifting Your Focus
It can be of two types:
1. Accidental shifting, through external circumstances
But, as you know, nothing is accidental.
Your “Higher Self,” seeing that your ego won’t let go of the situation, creates events in your life that can shift your attention for a certain period of time.
During this time, the situation resolves itself.
This happens if you:
- Cannot accept the situation (you can’t consciously force humility), and your physical strength is running out. To keep you from completely losing your inner resources, your higher aspects take this step.
For example, a mother can’t get her child to sleep for several days. Each day feels like torture for both of them. You can’t just let the situation run its course, because the little one is the most precious thing, and life energy is absolutely necessary.
- Are not spiritually mature enough for humility, and you’re wasting a lot of energy trying to solve a certain issue. The shift happens to correct your path.
If in the first case you want to accept the situation but can’t, then in the second case, humility can only arise on a subconscious level.
This method won’t work for long-standing conflicts. If you’ve been beating your head against closed doors for years, simply shifting your attention won’t be enough.
2. Conscious shifting of attention
You can’t solve a certain issue, so you consciously accept the situation for a time and focus on other matters, or shift your attention to something neutral.
During this time, your grip loosens, and the situation either resolves itself or an idea comes to you on how to solve it.
#2. The Pyramid of Power and Light
It must be said that humility plays a significant role in this method.
If you go into the pyramid, leave your problem there, and then continue to think about it, nothing will be resolved.
What matters is how much you trust the higher powers to handle the situation.
How to create your own pyramid of light and power
#3. The “Wave Your Hand” Practice
We offer a simple practice that, when performed, will help you move from despair to humility.
You’ve probably heard of this folk method for “solving problems,” where you’re advised to raise your hand, wave it, and say: “Ah, forget it…!”
We’re just going to refine it.
Enter a semi-meditative state, raise your hand (or you can do it without raising your hand), and say:
“I hand over the resolution of this situation to my ‘Higher Self,’ my guides, and spiritual teachers, for the highest good of all involved.”
Be prepared for unexpected twists. Things don’t always turn out exactly as we would like.
Your task is to allow the higher powers to do all the work for you.
The ability to accept a situation with humility is a new turn in your spiritual evolution.