I hope you’ve already seen your uniqueness and even identified some special skills and qualities that are inherent only to you.
But for some reason, you’re in no hurry to develop them, openly express them, or share them with the world. And deep in your soul, you feel discomfort at the thought that you need to do this.
At the same time, you want to diversify your life, fulfill long-held desires, but you put them off for later, explaining it by a lack of time.
And when time does appear, you find a bunch of reasons why you shouldn’t do it right now.
- Why do we postpone the arrival of the rich and interesting life we dream of?
- Why don’t we use the gifts given to us by the generous Universe?
- How can we learn to use our natural potential to achieve harmony and success in life?
In this material, you will learn the reasons why you reject your true Self and how to unlock the flow of creativity within you to express your uniqueness.
How You Reject Your Uniqueness:
4 Reasons
Parental Criticism and Indifference
When a child shows their parents the results of their creativity, shares their achievements, they expect approval, admiration, and support.
But what do parents often reply? “You could have drawn it better,” “You did this wrong. How many times do I have to teach you?”
Or they glance indifferently, mutter “Good job,” and go back to their own business.
A parent’s opinion is authoritative for a child. In such cases, the child loses interest in the activity and concludes that it is insignificant.
This is how the creative flow gets blocked.
We are vulnerable when showing our creations. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable means opening your soul to everyone.
Try the “Five-Dimensional Heart” meditation, the main focus of which is on opening and healing the heart at the 3rd-4th-5th dimensional level.
The Belief That Creativity is Nonsense, a Waste of Time
Parents, for the sake of upbringing, teach a child order and discipline.
You’ve probably heard from mom or dad more than once:
“First, do your household chores (homework, etc.), and then you can do whatever you want,” or
“Stop messing around with nonsense, you’d better review these rules (insert your own example).”
“Nonsense” usually refers to a child’s expression of creative talents, doing what they love, what feeds the soul.
At the same time, parents don’t wish anything bad for their children. They act with the best intentions.
Essentially, cleaning, going to the store, and cramming rules are considered more important than the development of the soul, following its impulses, and knowing oneself through creating something new.
What’s the result? We end up with a person who has suppressed emotions.
They do anything except what they want to do. It’s forbidden for them.
In a worse-case scenario, the child grows into an adult who doesn’t even know what they like.
The life of such people is boring and monotonous: work, home, family and household duties, and in their free time from all that — escaping from themselves by watching TV or sitting at the computer.
But the meaning of life isn’t in washing floors; it’s in enjoying the process of living every single moment of life.
(Although for some people, even washing the floor is a pleasure. And each time it’s done in a new way).
Comparing yourself to successful masters
«The only person you should
compare yourself to is the person you were in the past. And the only person
you should be better than is the person you are right now…»
Sigmund Freud
If you’re already creating something but are afraid to share it with the world, it means those childhood fears are still inside you — the fear that someone won’t like your creation.
Just as you feared your parents’ ridicule as a child, now you fear the judgment of professionals — those who are currently an authority for you.
Talented writers work “for the drawer,” artists paint pictures that no one ever sees. And how many treasures are lost within us that we don’t even know about?!
This fear is understandable. The results of creativity are a reflection of the soul, of what we feel.
Of course, it’s scary to open up to the world if you’re not confident that it will be appreciated, that the world will accept it.
Don’t compare yourself to professionals.
No matter what you do, no matter what you’re engaged in, no matter what you excel at, there will always be someone who is at least one step ahead of you.
It’s better to compare your past self with your present self.
Devaluing your talents and creations
«Nothing that we can do is useless for the planet.»
Byron Katie «Loving What Is»
Why do we devalue our talents and skills? Usually, we don’t even notice them.
The things we do best are our unique qualities and abilities.
We don’t value this because we don’t consider it a talent. It seems to us that since I can do it, everyone can do it. But that’s not true.
By locking our true Self inside, we deprive ourselves of joy in life and deprive others of joy as well.
You hide your creations, your best qualities, your insights from the world, thinking: “Who needs this?”
But since you received it from above, through the divine flow, it means someone needs it. Someone is waiting for this information, this painting, this song, this invention.
The question isn’t who needs it, but that you cannot help but create. By being ashamed of your impulses, you push away the divine within you.
Accept with gratitude and honor what comes to you through the creative flow and show it. Rejoice in it.
And gradually, the amount of this magical energy will increase, inspiration will visit you more often, and your self-worth will grow.
Your life will be filled with color.
See also: Why it’s so hard to learn to value yourself
Use the “Flip” technique in moments when you feel undervalued or when your boundaries are being invaded.
How to learn to express your uniqueness
Acknowledge your divine essence
Stop diminishing yourself and your abilities.
Remember yourself as a child. How you weren’t ashamed of anything, weren’t afraid to express yourself in different ways.
Children are creators in their purest form. Take a lesson from them.
When you block your creative flow, you stop being yourself; you block the flow of life in joy. You put on a mask, and your talents retreat into the shadows.
By accepting the divine within yourself, you learn to love and accept yourself; you come to know yourself through creative energy.
How do you know what you are capable of if you never do anything new?
Trust that you can create and co-create, bringing forth something new and unique.
Look at how everything in nature is arranged, how thoughtfully it is all designed. What unique creations fill our planet.
How rich and diverse the animal and underwater worlds are, the kingdoms of plants and minerals. Everything radiates beauty.
Just imagine the scope of the Creator, of the Universe. And we all possess the same ability to create something wondrous.
Learn how to reclaim the lost parts of yourself in this material: “Inner Treasure Hunting: How to See Your Hidden Gems.”
Befriend Your Inner Child
Get to know your inner child. Learn about their desires, feelings, and what troubles them.
Remember yourself as a child and write a letter to your adult self from that child. What would you say to your present-day self?
The more often you communicate with your inner child, the more you learn and accept.
Heal the wounded aspects of yourself that manifest through painful reactions to certain events in your life — 3 opportunities for healing.
Remember What You Loved as a Child
Make a list of activities you loved to do as a child.
Perhaps it was drawing, sculpting with clay, dancing, or cutting out paper shapes. Everyone has their own unique set of favorite pastimes.
Choose one thing and do it. Don’t be afraid to look silly.
Allow yourself to do it. No one is watching you. Release that energy.
You become freer; tension and complexes fade away.
Perhaps when you remember a favorite activity, you’ll see ways to bring it into your adult life.
For example: a girl loved drawing paper dolls and cutting out clothes for them. As an adult, she suddenly discovered her abilities as a stylist and fashion designer.
Can’t remember? Sign up for a painting or dance class, or visit a pottery studio.
Or watch a master class online and try to follow along with the instructor.
If your parents or older siblings laughed at your creativity as a child, believe me, now they will admire and be proud of you.
See also: How to Stop Admiring Others’ Talents and Unlock Your Own
Accept Your Bright Shadow Aspects
We repress not only negative qualities from our consciousness, but also our talents.
Remember which skills and abilities of other people you admire.
These qualities and talents are, to some degree, also present in you. These are your gifts.
By accepting them, you release a huge layer of energy that you can channel into developing these talents.
The transformation seminar “Dance with the Shadow” will help you with this.
Let go of your fears
Release the fear associated with expressing your true self, the fear of failure.
Even if you don’t succeed at something or do it poorly, allow yourself to do it anyway, since you want to.
Don’t set any standards — focus on expressing yourself and opening your soul.
Take a meditative journey to the Tree of Power and gain access to an inexhaustible source of inner strength.
Balance your sacral and throat chakras
The sacral chakra is responsible for creativity and desires, and thanks to an open throat chakra, you can express yourself in various ways.
A lack of desires, creative ideas, boredom, and pent-up emotions signal an imbalance in the sacral chakra.
Self-doubt and fear of self-expression point to a problematic throat chakra.
To learn more about your energy system and balance your chakras, sign up for the course “7 Keys of Mindfulness 2.0”.
Make peace with your inner critic
Criticism you heard in the past is remembered by your subconscious and later reproduced as your own thoughts.
This is your inner critic.
If you constantly go along with it, you will never change or start creating something new. You will always be afraid that you won’t do it right.
Thank it for caring about you, because the inner critic’s function is to keep you from experiencing pain and disappointment.
And when you hear that grumbling again, say: “Yes, I know I might not succeed. But I still want to try this.”
I hope I’ve inspired you to take action. Have you already remembered what you’d like to try?
Don’t put it off. Start right now!