Philosophers, sages, and spiritual masters say that within every problem lies a pearl of wisdom, and often more than one.
If you view everything happening in your life from the perspective of a creator, you know this to be true.
Once you step onto the path of conscious living, you need to be attentive to everything happening around you — to live in the present moment. But this comes with practice.
Can you already, on autopilot, extract grains of truth simply by turning on your awareness?
From my own experience, I can say it doesn’t always work, especially when you’re in the thick of unfolding events and emotions are running the show.
- How do you find wisdom in a difficult situation?
- How do you understand what recurring troubles and conflicts are trying to tell you?
Use these 5 methods to break free from the vicious cycle of problems.
Why we refuse to look for the cause within ourselves
It happens that even when we are already Creators, we cannot or do not want to take responsibility for a specific traumatic event that has occurred in our lives.
For a while, we continue to play the role of the victim, exhausting ourselves physically and mentally.
Let’s name a few common reasons why this happens:
1. Fear that you will have to experience pain
Behind every problematic situation lies a trauma we received in the past. The subconscious tries by all means to protect us from pain, distracting us from solving the problem.
But if this trauma is not healed, you will constantly attract such situations, experiencing the same pain over and over again as you did the first time.
Maybe it’s time to stop running from the problem?
Choose for yourself:
- either constantly receive new and new doses of pain,
- or dive into the past once to free yourself from it and heal the wounded aspects of you.
It’s like treating a bad tooth. Yes, it’s unpleasant! But if you endure a little, relief will come.
2. It is beneficial for you to feel like a victim
Why is it beneficial to be a victim?
You can remain inactive, continuing to complain about life. There will always be friends in misfortune who will support you, blaming the government, the bosses, etc.
You get attention by telling stories about your troubles, illnesses, and tragic circumstances.
In reality, you lack love, and you attract attention in this way.
You feel guilty about some problematic situation. But guilt is a strong feeling that exhausts the nervous system.
A person cannot consciously experience it for long. Therefore, it is repressed from consciousness, turning into grievances.
And in your troubles, you begin to blame anyone but yourself.
In all these cases, the state of being a victim “saves” you. But this is self-deception, which can be recognized by your state of mind.
You can learn how to stop needing the love of others from the material “15 Steps to the Inner Source of Love”.
3. You don’t see the obvious (blind spot)
A blind spot manifests either in one specific issue, or a person lives out of alignment with the truth they proclaim.
It is so difficult for them to accept the obvious that they repress it into the unconscious.
They constantly seek answers to their question, instead of honestly looking at how they live and calling a spade a spade.
The article How to Decode 3 Signals from the Universe will help you see your blind spot and understand the wisdom of the situation.
4. You haven’t reached the «boiling point» yet,
You, realizing that you created the traumatic situation yourself, put off resolving it because the issue isn’t acute enough yet.
Most often, we agree to change ourselves when it is already unbearable to live the old way.
It’s impossible to constantly be in a state of revising your beliefs. But if you consider yourself a creator, a master, honestly admit:
«Yes, I created this situation, though I don’t yet know why.
And I take responsibility for what happened upon myself and will definitely deal with it later, when the time comes.»
So, we have dealt with the obstacles that prevent us from seeing the precious pearls of experience, thanks to which we can change our lives for the better.
5 ways to find wisdom in an unpleasant situation
“You sometimes reach the simplest truths by roundabout ways”
Erich Maria Remarque
It is not always easy to recognize a problem, but if you have the desire to see what truly lies behind it, these recommendations will help you.
1. Enter the state of the Observer
Being inside a situation, it’s difficult to think clearly. You are biased in that moment and don’t see all the facets of the problem.
Try to step back and look at it from the outside using the “Soaring Bird” and “Cinema” meditations.
2. Write the problem down on paper
Take a sheet of paper and write down everything you think about the situation that has arisen.
It is important to write by hand. By involving your body in this process, you engage the subconscious.
When you just think about a problem, thoughts go in circles. This process is endless. Insight is nearby, you feel it, but you can’t grasp and formulate it.
You seem to understand the truth, but the chaotic stream of thoughts prevents you from focusing on the main thing.
Writing down thoughts by hand solves this problem.
3. Write an angry letter to the offender
For a shift in consciousness to occur, when you switch from the state of a victim to the state of a creator, free yourself from emotions.
Try not to make a scene, but rather describe your grievances against the offender in an angry letter.
Don’t mince words, write whatever comes to mind. Paper will endure anything. Name the feelings you are experiencing about the situation that happened.
Write until you get tired.
Read what you have written out loud several times. By voicing your feelings, you give them an outlet.
There is no need to send this letter anywhere. Burn it or tear it into tiny pieces.
After this procedure, relief will come, and you will see the root of the problem.
4. Use I-Statement translation
If you haven’t burned that angry letter yet, use it in this practice.
Rewrite it, changing the pronouns.
Instead of addressing the offender, substitute the pronoun “I”. For example: not “YOU hurt me,” but “I hurt myself.”
Read what you’ve written. Now do you understand that it was YOU who put yourself in such an unpleasant situation?
You hurt, deceived, and under-loved yourself.
This simple technique clearly shows that the world, like a mirror, reflects your attitude toward yourself.
5. Do “The Work”
And here’s another way to find wisdom in a problematic situation and step onto a new level of spiritual evolution.
It’s offered by the author of the book “Loving What Is,” Byron Katie.
The author claims that we are not disturbed by the event itself, but by our thoughts about it. By letting them go, we become free from negative experiences.
This method consists of two stages:
- The first allows you to identify your grievances toward others and release your emotions.
- Thanks to the second stage, you will see the absurdity of your beliefs.
What a relief comes when you realize the puzzle pieces have fallen into place. The solution is always right on the surface.
And we understand this only by looking deep within ourselves. What a long path we sometimes have to walk to realize this.
We sincerely hope that your journeys in search of truth don’t drag on and aren’t accompanied by suffering.