Over the last two years, matrix structures related to self-worth have continued to rise, because it’s impossible to be present in the new when you don’t value yourself.
For most people, the concept of self-worth is tied to some kind of achievements, successes, or recognition. Moreover, there is no difference in definitions between self-worth and self-esteem.
Let’s try to figure this out.
What is the difference between self-worth and self-esteem
Let me give you an example. The artificial division between the 3D world and the 5D world. In the 3D world, there is the concept of “self-esteem” — a commonly used term.
What am I basing my self-evaluation on? And here the matrix structures crawl out: to be successful in the 3D world, you need to compete, you need to have that “successful success,” you need to have more money, you need to be cooler than everyone around you.
All the desires and wants of an ordinary person are aimed at this.
And when you don’t get what you want, you start to envy. Because there is always someone more successful than you, there is always someone with more money, comfort, and freedom.
This is all “3D-ish,” but that doesn’t mean it’s bad; it’s just that principle of separation that was originally built in. You are always in opposition to someone.
There are 8 billion of us on the planet, you cannot be better than everyone else at everything.
So it turns out that self-esteem — I evaluate myself based on what I see around me, and therefore it is low by default.
But if we proceed from the terms of the 5D world, then it’s self-worth.
Many have learned to evaluate themselves, to praise themselves for some victories and to scold themselves if something didn’t work out.
If it didn’t work out the first time, that’s it, the whole world falls apart, because inside there is a belief that everything should work out on the first try.
Few people always get everything right on the first try; usually, you have to make an effort, change things, tweak things.
And in contrast to all of this — self-worth.
Suddenly it turns out that I have nothing to value myself for, I don’t know what to value myself for. I have no idea what I want, where I’m going, why I came into this world. How can I value myself?
Instead of self-worth, many have a feeling of guilt and colossal shame programmed inside them, basically for their very appearance on Earth.
This artificial opposition pulls two concepts in different directions, but the essence is one. On one side — how you value yourself through the prism of these beliefs, and on the other — it’s about worth.
To simply value yourself, you don’t need all these external enticements, you need to be attuned to yourself, so that your mind, heart, and soul are in harmony.
And here a whole array of possibilities opens up.
By default, almost everyone has it programmed inside: you have to love for something, you have to be grateful for something, you have to value for something.
It is very difficult to internally integrate the understanding, the vibrational state, when I simply value, simply love, simply give thanks. And this is not connected to any specific actions.
The more you cultivate this within yourself, the easier it becomes to accept that I am worthy of everything simply by virtue of being born, and not because I did something, achieved something, or arrived somewhere.
These are two different paradigms. That’s why I use these two different metaphors, 3D and 5D, and it immediately becomes clear.
These are two worlds that are very difficult to intersect. Not because they are separate, but because they are completely different ways of life.
And right now, all of this is being rewired.
See also: Recognizing the Value of Your Presence on Earth. Markers Worth Paying Attention To
Valuing Yourself in the Little Things
There’s an interesting thing about self-worth. Have you ever noticed that successful people can be kind of gray, average?
At one point, this was a huge revelation for me. I met a woman, a successful business coach, she had her own training agency, tons of credentials, an MBA trainer.
But when I talked to her, I started comparing myself to her internally. If only the person had some unique qualities and talents, but she was average in everything.
But back then I thought, “where are you and where is she.” I was a tutor right after school, living in poverty, I had walked away from everything and didn’t know what to do. And here was this person, seemingly successful, but mediocre.
The difference was self-confidence. This person valued absolutely everything she could do, and she showed it completely naturally.
Even now, I can’t say I’ve reached the level of an ace at presenting myself, at talking about what we do. It always seems like people will want it, they’ll see it themselves. They won’t.
It’s that ability to present, to show, which comes from you valuing how beautifully you brushed your teeth, how nicely you arranged your breakfast on the plate. These little things are valuable.
What’s more, don’t we all do this towards other people when we encourage good behavior in our children and husbands?
Karen Pryor’s book “Don’t Shoot the Dog!” has a second subtitle called “How to Train Husbands and Children.” With Pavlov, good behavior is reinforced, bad behavior is punished.
We all know this. What’s more, we’ve been unconsciously implementing it our whole lives, and some people even do it intentionally.
But what about doing the same for yourself? All those tools you use for others, you need to apply them to yourself as well.
No matter what topic you pick up now, we’ll end up at the same place. We do a lot of things, but since our focus has been totally directed outward for years, you can’t automatically transfer everything you do and show for others onto yourself.
It takes effort, awareness, and understanding that I need this for myself.
See also: Why It’s So Hard to Learn to Value Yourself
Self-Worth and the Analogy of Royalty
It’s important to learn to value yourself not just for some achievements, but simply for who you are.
Self-worth includes two words: “self” and “worth.”
There isn’t a single word here about profession, not a word about husbands, children, not a word about money. There is only self and worth. Why do you think that is?
Imagine a queen, a princess. When a royal person walks down the street and goes into a little shop to chat with a vendor, or buys something at the market, what feeling do they do it with?
A royal person does it royally. And people, seeing them there, treat them like a celestial being who has descended to earth.
If you maintain this feeling of self-worth in every moment, and moreover, if you infuse it into everything you do, the question of your value in your profession, your value in relationships, your value as a parent simply won’t arise. Because that is a trap of the mind.
The moment these thoughts appear, you have no foundation. You don’t value yourself; there is no intrinsic self-worth.
Because if it’s there, you will feel like a queen, even if you’re doing something you don’t like. You will feel like a queen even sitting on the toilet.
But for many, self-worth is assumed to be about certain qualities. In reality, it boils down to “not good enough.”
What value can you have when you’re sitting on the toilet? I gave this example on purpose because the mind is shocked. The mind doesn’t understand because it can’t find value in this.
If self-worth is present within you, you will be vastly different from someone similar standing next to you who lacks it.
I berate myself, I torment myself — that is the past, and it’s completely impossible to exist in the new when you don’t value yourself, when you don’t feel from within, in every single moment, even sitting in the bathroom, that you are inherently worthy. I am exactly as I need to be.
See also: Three Components of Your Value
Who among you succeeds in valuing yourself from within, in experiencing this self-worth, knowing that you are precious simply because you exist?
This article is based on the group meditations Beacons of the Path and Self-Worth and Acceptance