There are people who don’t tell anything to their loved ones, let alone strangers, afraid of being vulnerable, afraid that some secret of theirs might be revealed. Others simply don’t want their plans to be ruined by interference, or even condemnation.
There are those who, on the contrary, seek closeness with their relatives (parents, brothers, sisters) and suffer from the lack of spiritual, emotional kinship.
Read why the soul chooses such relatives, whether it is worth sharing your plans with loved ones, and how and why to do it.
Maximum program — being transparent. What it means
Comment from a broadcast participant: “I can’t talk about personal topics, I’m afraid of revealing some secret.”
My favorite metaphor — imagine that everyone around you is a telepath. The maximum program is to make yourself comfortable in that situation. Everyone knows everything about you, all your secrets, thoughts, innermost desires, and so on.
This is called being transparent. It is important to achieve a state where nothing bothers you, nothing can hurt you, you have no reactions, everything inside is balanced, attuned to you, to your inner content.
Then no one can catch you at anything, you are not afraid that something intimate will be revealed that you might be ashamed of — hello to shadow aspects.
I look at the world from a perspective where everyone sees everything, or feels, or reads, or hears your thoughts. Everything secret becomes apparent.
And a secret is everything that is shameful, ugly, feelings of guilt, and so on. All of this is rising now so that all the stones in the bosom, all the skeletons in the closet are seen. One way or another, we will all come to this transparency.
Collective creation. Is it worth sharing your plans with loved ones
Second point. Why share personal things with someone — personal plans, personal goals? You are a transparent vessel; you have your own plans, and in principle, it is not a secret. But is it worth sharing them with everyone, or even just with relatives?
To this day, I do not share anything with anyone. There are a few close friends I tell, but not just for the sake of telling, but if there is benefit for someone in it.
I am a creator; I create. When I do it alone, I only encounter resistance from reality, certain societal rules, and so on.
What happens when you share plans? Other people get involved in this process.
Who has ever tried to decide as a family where to move? For example, I want an apartment, but my husband wants a house. Or I want to live in the city center because I love various entertainments, and it is important for me to have access to shops within walking distance, but my husband wants to live outside the city, and so on.
And what about when there are many family members? Try to reach a unanimous decision. It is a difficult process; you have to come to an agreement with everyone.
This is precisely collective creation, in this case, family creation. Everyone has their own point of view, and all of this must somehow be brought together.
And here we are, by sharing some information, some plans, we include a huge number of people, most often of a completely different vibration. Because we share not with those who are in tune with us, but with our surroundings, with colleagues who generally do not care about us, with relatives.
In terms of sharing, we have slightly different tasks. If you are centered, in harmony, in balance, you radiate this outward, thereby spreading that wave and maintaining a field around you that allows people to attune.
For some, whose lives are in complete disarray, simply being in your presence is a unique chance to attune.
Therefore, the point here is not to avoid sharing, not to tell anyone anything, but simply to think about why, with what purpose you are doing it.
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In this article, I explained in detail the complexity of interacting with close ones, particularly parents, and why you should not share everything with them.
Why you are left alone when you feel bad
Previously, many questions came up about why, when I feel bad, no one remains nearby, friends disappear, and all relatives are out of reach. It would seem that support is needed right now, to share your grief, your state, but the person is left alone.
There is a deep meaning in this. Because at that moment you are undergoing serious internal processes, and it is important to make decisions within yourself. And when you have come to an agreement within yourself, after that, all people appear.
It is no coincidence that this dynamic exists, when all external signals are cut off, so that you can be inside, to decide for yourself.
And when you have a request to be patted on the head, you will be patted, but it is not necessarily good for you at that moment. You have to live through it yourself.
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Why we choose such relatives, such a family line
What role do relatives play from the perspective of soul development?
To incarnate on Earth, one had to take on a portion of karma, a portion of suffering for working through. We grew through suffering.
Therefore, we chose as relatives not those with whom it is good, but those with whom we can rub corners to discover something for ourselves, to overcome.
Many people here believe that family should support you. It was supposed to be for working through issues.
This was very clearly visible. As soon as you get married, a second family appears, and hence those jokes about mothers-in-law. We grew up with this.
Therefore, sharing everything with them is very strange. If you needed them, you chose them to grow through opposition with their help.
That is why it is rare for those who are in harmony with you to be from your own family; they usually meet separately. It is rare to find unanimity within a family.
Although everything is changing now. Mothers and daughters come to our project, or sometimes young people first, who then bring in their parents.
See also Relationships with parents from a spiritual perspective. Acceptance as the foundation of relationships
Do you share your plans with relatives? What kind of relationship do you have with them?
The article is based on the broadcast “11 Ask KM”