Today, fans of the holiday celebrate Valentine’s Day. But there are people who, for various reasons, do not like this day.
We invite you to look at this holiday from a different perspective and simply remember the wonderful feeling that is available to a person.
Remember that there is love in your heart, that beyond everyday affairs there is something more sublime and beautiful.
This is a good reason to remember how the feeling between you and your partner was born. A reason to visit parents you haven’t seen for a long time and give them attention and love.
This is a time when you can share love with loved ones and open yourself to love. We don’t often remember our relatives.
We don’t often have the opportunity to tell them: “I love you.”
The Legend of the Holiday’s Origin
According to legend, the priest Valentine was imprisoned for secretly performing marriages between lovers when it was forbidden.
He was sentenced to death. Before his death, the loving Valentine wrote a declaration of love to his beloved girl — a valentine, where he spoke of his love, and signed it “Your Valentine.”
It was read after he was executed, and the execution itself took place on February 14.
Since then, valentine cards in the shape of red hearts have become a symbol of this holiday.
Love is a Multifaceted Concept
Let’s look at it from all sides. It is love for a man, and for a woman, and love for parents, and for children. It is also a sublime love that has no relation to gender.
And most importantly, it is love for Yourself. This is something that should never be forgotten.
Most people do not know, do not know how, and do not understand what it means to love themselves. They always put someone else first.
The State of Being in Love and Love
Being in love is a bright state that lasts for a short time. Behind it, a deep layer of feelings called love unfolds.
But this layer of feeling quickly becomes dusty. If you close an apartment and return a year later, everything will be under a thick layer of dust.
It is the same with feelings. If you do not remember them, cherish them, and care for them, they dull.
Gray everyday life and obligations clutter relationships. The heart closes.
A holiday gives a reason to remember that you have a heart in your chest. It is alive and beating.
Approach a loved one, hug them, touch them, kiss them. Especially if this is not customary in your parental family.
There are parents who cannot hug their child. They want to, but they were not taught this in their time. Express your love to them.
The more and more often such manifestations occur, the better.
Love Is Never Unhappy
On Valentine’s Day, people are divided into three categories:
- Those who are in love or love
Such people celebrate this day with a romantic candlelit dinner.
2. People who suffer
They are lonely. These people have a love crisis. They do not like this holiday. The reminder of feelings hits them.
People with heartache inside find it hard to see loving couples around.
3. People who are neutral towards the feeling of love
They have forgotten, do not remember, do not know, or do not need it.
It is customary to divide love into happy and unhappy, but this is not so. Everything related to love is hidden inside you.
When you love, it is your talent, your gift. It is in no way connected to another person.
This is the difference between conditional love and a deep feeling.
Conditional love involves setting conditions: you go shopping, bring home money, do this, act that way, and then I will love you, be nice and beautiful.
But when a person feels a flow of love from within — it is not tied to a specific object of affection.
It is a deep feeling that one is fortunate enough to bestow upon someone.
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Experiencing unrequited love is possible when we impose obligations on a person, suffer, and attach feelings to a specific character.
This is a personal choice for everyone. You can suffer endlessly, or you can move on. Each person goes their own way.
How hearts close
Being vulnerable is difficult because much depends on the environment.
If you have many friends and loved ones who support you, expressing feelings is easy. When the heart opens, everyone around becomes kinder, softer.
But if you have many ill-wishers, or you are in constant conflict with someone, when you open up, you may get hurt.
A closed heart is a defense that you yourself reproduced since childhood.
But do not blame your parents for inflicting these traumas on you.
Because it used to be normal to use blackmail towards one’s children: “if you don’t obey, you are bad, I won’t love you.”
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The heart closes itself off from small troubles. Everything accumulates bit by bit, through little things: when you are insulted, looked at wrongly, or ignored.
In marriage, the heart closes due to daily routine. You seem to love your husband, but amid family cares, there is no time to show extra tenderness.
In the end, everything turns into a flat, dreary state, where you run like a hamster on a wheel and no longer notice anything. Until something happens, and you realize something is wrong.
How the opening of the heart occurs
Some insignificant trifle touches you so deeply that it becomes a trigger.
Inside, there is an explosion of emotions, tears after one harsh word spoken by a loved one. It is as if a dam has burst.
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From the side of loved ones, this is not a malicious provocation; they do it to pull you out of this state of routine.
When you deeply feel this, the heart opens, and everything superficial falls away.
Tears in this case have a cleansing nature and allow love to open up.
Try to move away from resentment, from emotions, look with a fresh perspective and remember: Here he is, next to me — a dear, close, and beloved person with whom I agreed to live or be near.
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Story of transformation
At that moment, the heart opens and overflows with love.
This is a resourceful state, when through love for a person, you open the resource of love within yourself.
An awakening occurs, a shift into a state of unconditional love for everyone.
Treasure such moments, remember them, and rejoice when similar things happen to you.
Extremes in expressing love
Those who read spiritual literature know that every person has a soul, which must be learned to see, respect, and value.
But this does not mean that you should tolerate humiliation, betrayal, or total disrespect. Or find excuses for such behavior from a partner.
Always choose YOURSELF in such relationships. Base your decision on whether you want to see such a person in your circle, and whether it is pleasant to interact with them.
You can love them even from a distance, if being together causes pain and suffering.
Learn to love unconditionally
“Love is not for something, but just because” — this is a loud phrase that many say, but few practice. Especially at home in everyday life.
Try to feel love for your husband when he behaves not as you would like, or when you feel embarrassed for him.
Can you show love to a child when they are disobedient or rude?
Take any situation and apply it to everyday life, to relationships with your mother-in-law, with your parents. If the pictures do not differ, then you have done a good job.
It is one thing to say that you love, another — to be able to feel love for your loved ones at any moment.
If there is nothing behind the loud phrases, they are just words.
Even if you are alone, celebrate the day of love.
Perform a ritual — light beautiful candles, sit for ten minutes watching them, filled with the confidence that you are worthy of love.
Nearby, the person who can express and show you their feelings will surely appear.
To those already in relationships, I wish you to feel renewal, a rise to the next level. To feel the depth of the relationship, no matter how long-standing and enduring it may be.
May you be filled with this state for a long time to come!