What prevents you from being honest with yourself

This article is an invitation to honestly look inside yourself: what you are truly ready for, what you are hiding from yourself, and what is preventing you from moving forward.

Find out how you deceive yourself, what happens as a result, and what will help you be honest with yourself.

Let’s fantasize together. If you learned the specific date of the transition to 5D, what would your reaction be?

Some would feel panic, some — joy, in anticipation, chaos in thoughts. Some would feel anxiety, interest, fear that they won’t transition, that they will remain in what is.

Many of us are prone to self-deception.

There will be people who remain in a state of acceptance that everything is going as it should. This news would not change anything for them, because everything that could be done has already been done, and the results have been obtained.

There are not many of them on planet Earth.

First of all, many will rejoice: “Hurray! Finally! Let’s go!” These are those very empty slogans behind which there is nothing.

When a person has personal experience of living through certain states, they will not have empty slogans. Behind every phrase they utter or write, there is a powerful flow.

But if they haven’t lived through it, then from the outside, emptiness will be read in all their loud words.

I have repeatedly encountered the topic of love. You can say many beautiful words about love, especially about unconditional love. But when you actually encounter a person, look at what they do, how they behave in different situations, you understand that it doesn’t even smell like love. There is nothing there at all.

Honestly admit your shortcomings to yourself

A small percentage of people, for whom this is already an accomplished fact, will continue with their own affairs.

But few people will honestly look at themselves, at their lives, at the situations they faced today, in order to apply maximum effort for the necessary changes in the remaining time.

And even if they do, the catch lies in fear. Acting from a state of fear — what if I slip through, what if it works out — is initially a path to nowhere.

Here, it is important to honestly admit to yourself that you fell short somewhere, and immediately begin to deal with the situations you are facing.

There is no more time to put things off. Unfortunately, only a very small percentage of people will start to shift in this direction.

We all know what is wrong in our lives. We all know what we should change in ourselves. But few have enough willpower and self-discipline to start taking these steps day after day, despite the resistance.

At the end of the day, honestly look at what situations you encountered today and how you came out of them. In a state of acceptance, harmony, balance? Great! Give yourself a round of applause.

Or did you fail, lose your composure? Each such situation is a big signal: “pay attention.”

We are on the threshold of tremendous changes, but to move forward, you need to clearly understand that the old life, the old reality, no longer exists. And therefore, we have no opportunity to indulge our negative thoughts, engage in self-soothing, or replay some beautiful spiritual truths in our heads.

And yet, day after day, continue doing what you have done for decades: still throwing tantrums, still taking it out on your children, still waiting for someone else to show up and solve your problems.

At the end of today, look at what situations you encountered. Were there your personal points of failure in them? Did you radiate light and love everywhere? Were you kind and compassionate? If not, at least add them to the list.

In a week, take a look at them and don’t wait for someone to announce a transition date. It’s not about the transition. It’s about whether you are a participant in the process that is beginning to unfold.

Why situations escalate

Why might escalations of situations arise in different areas of life?

Imagine that somewhere inside you there are energy blocks, emotional blocks, some unprocessed traumas, everything accumulated in this life and beyond.

And then you find yourself in a powerful stream of light. You cannot avoid being in it, because the Earth and the entire solar system are bathing in it. We are bathing in it.

What was previously hidden begins to become apparent. On the other hand, the Higher Self loads a package for the soul of what it will have to work on in the next cycle. And this gradually begins to seep through and enter the mind from the soul level.

For those with a strong connection to the soul, you begin to soar, but for those with a weaker connection, what does not correspond to the upcoming tasks begins to surface.

This is a moment of verification. We verify the goals we wanted to achieve and those we have achieved. And there, a large spiritual machine begins to turn and examine: on one side, the desires of your ego-personality, and on the other, what your soul wants to realize. And where the correspondence lies in this.

And when there is a discrepancy, it is clearly demonstrated to you. This is precisely why an escalation begins in relationships, at work, and so on.

It rises to give you the opportunity to finally see what is preventing you from moving forward.

If this is necessary for fulfilling your mission, a chain of events will push you, force you, until it gives you a kick.

Life often puts you in a position: if you don’t want to do it the easy way, you will be forced to do it the hard way.

And then we say — evil fate. No. It is your own resistance and unwillingness to get moving.

See also About exacerbation after working through emotional blocks

Where the Universe is kicking you

I will give an example about myself.

When Maris and I met, I drove a car. I drove perfectly both in the familiar city and in the surrounding areas. I did not go beyond the limits because I am an insecure driver.

When Maris appeared, he took the wheel. And my skill of driving on the highway remained, but not in the city, and even more so when we moved to Riga. Until in 2021 Maris rushed off to Moscow and was absent for several months.

I realized that you cannot go to the sea by taxi all the time, I could get there, but how would I get back? I went to restore my driving skill. The sea outweighed everything. Living near the sea and not going to the sea, or constantly finding someone to take you there, is not an option.

Now I am in approximately the same situation, I need to somehow learn to drive around Moscow. But I am not yet morally ready, but I already understand that I am being kicked out of there.

So look at where the Universe is also still gently kicking you. It does not do this for no reason.

We have become too good at calming ourselves down, telling ourselves how good we are or, on the contrary, how bad we are, that nothing will work out anyway. It is just that while you are sorting through facts as separate ones, you do not see the global nature of this picture.

But if you write down at least two or three words about each situation that threw you off balance during the day, and then flip through them a week later, you will find that it is all about the same thing. You just do not see it.

See also The rule of three signals. How the Universe teaches you

Look for pearls of wisdom in points of failure

We love the end result but don’t know how to enjoy the process, especially when it’s not very pleasant. We want everything at once. No hard work, no self-improvement, no pulling out the little hooks we grab onto and cling to. But I’ll just manifest now and say: “Everything is great with me,” and immediately everything will be fine.

You’ll have to put in the work to reach that vibrational frequency where it can actually work that way.

So notice every point of failure, every low-resource state, every moment you had an emotional reaction. That’s a pearl of wisdom you don’t yet understand.

Instead of pretending you don’t know what to do — know.

It’s the same as with the topic of weight loss. Everyone knows what needs to be done, but few see it through to the end.

So, the next time you hit a point of failure — for some it’s dissatisfaction, for others anger, for others endless irritation — remember my words.

Find that little pearl and see what inside you keeps getting triggered again and again.

See also: How to find wisdom in an unpleasant situation

How we deceive ourselves

In the “Acceptance Workshop” course, over three weeks we did a huge amount of work and uncovered a large volume of misconceptions and illusions.

The course required a lot of writing, recording, and keeping a mood journal. At the end, I suggested flipping through your notes and counting how many times participants mentioned the words “obligated” or “should.”

And I liked one participant’s comment: “I’ve been living by the principle ‘I don’t owe anyone anything’ for so many years, but I reread all my recorded thoughts, and almost every sentence has ‘should’ in it.”

You can think and believe whatever you want, but life shows you something completely different. You don’t notice it, you don’t pay attention.

And it cannot be said that you are deliberately deceiving yourself; it simply does not reach you. 

Because we have installed a powerful spiritual filter of how it should be and how I want it to be, and we have unlearned how to see it as it really is in reality. 

Two or three years ago, at the “Exit from the Matrix” Marathon, we talked a lot about the virtuality of the mind. But the “Acceptance Workshop” showed the volume and depth of this virtuality. 

What prevents you from being honest with yourself? What truth are you afraid / unwilling to see?

The article is based on a broadcast from the #conversation_on_the_couch #152 Honesty with Yourself section

Based on the original Russian article from Keys of Mastery (kluchimasterstva.ru), published since 2010.