In the Russian internet, everything related to esoterics is distorted. They take a method and they distort it.
There was once a magnificent theme of purpose. What has it turned into? People have vulgarized it: “take your talent and monetize it.” And the majority made the simplest, amoeba-like conclusions: “I won’t do this if they don’t pay me for it.”
Talent and purpose are not about money. You simply self-destruct when you don’t fulfill what you came here for.
And it’s not always written that you will be paid for it. So the litmus test is: if you weren’t paid for it, or if you were on a deserted island, would you do it or not?
So what is the meaning of purpose, how to uncover it, how to recognize your talents?
Who finds it difficult to see their talents
Question: “How to recognize your talents?”
You won’t recognize them at all, because you don’t know yourself. And the one who doesn’t know themselves is the one who doesn’t value themselves. And the one who doesn’t value themselves is the one whose focus is turned outward. Why would I know anything about myself when I am all out there? What matters to me is what Uncle Petya said, what Aunt Masha wrote.
Until you turn your focus inward on yourself, you will not get to know yourself. And turning it inward is super scary and dangerous: “what if I find out I’m a nobody and get confirmation of that.” But you already consider yourself a nobody, you just don’t know anything about yourself.
It can be even worse when I know I’m a nobody, but I’m all decked out in tinsel and sparkles, running around saying, “look how beautiful I am.”
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How to recognize your talents, uniqueness. Examples
Problems with talents arise when you want some kind of template.
It’s easiest to show this using food as an example.
Each of you probably has some place outside the home where they cook a favorite dish that is “finger-lickin’ good.” And it’s never the case that one place, one restaurant, cooks absolutely everything so deliciously. I go to this place because the fish here is amazing, and here they have salads you won’t find anywhere else.
It’s the same with yourself. There is a nuance you usually don’t pay attention to. Because it’s familiar to you. And these nuances are revealed when you end up in a circle of people who grew up in a different society or with different qualities and values.
Let me give an example.
Young children haven’t closed their connection to the world of souls and past lives. There are things that aren’t talked about. A little boy saw absolutely everything: angels, devils, all the things people usually don’t see.
But since no one ever talked to him about it, he was 100% sure that everyone saw it that way.
And while this usually gets shut down in childhood, including by parents and those you go to kindergarten with, in this case, he was like an unafraid crow. No one told him you can’t talk about this. Until, at the end of elementary school, he accidentally let it slip to a classmate when the topic came up. He was told: “What are you talking about? No one sees that.”
After that, it was like a switch was flipped. But the child retained the ability he came with for a long time, simply because he didn’t know others didn’t have it.
The same is true for us. We have certain qualities that we have become so accustomed to that we don’t pay attention to them.
For many, talent is simply “I sing,” “I draw,” “I play”… It’s not about that at all. Someone, for example, knows how to have a wonderful conversation with flowers.
That’s why, when you find yourself in a completely different environment, where people are not like you, this suddenly reveals itself.
Another example.
We encounter different men throughout life. Since I had a trauma of betrayal at one point, I came with it and actualized it in this life through my father, I kept meeting men who ultimately betrayed me, as I saw it.
At some point, finding myself in a difficult situation, I came up with this simple phrase for myself: what’s really important to me in a relationship is not to be understood, but to have someone by my side. The situation was critical and sad, and in the end, I expressed that intention for myself.
Because when someone agrees with you, they will support you. But support someone when you categorically disagree. Just at that moment, offer your shoulder so they can lean on you, rely on you, hold on to you.
Once, I was driving in a car with some friends, a married couple, and one thing led to another, and I said to them: “You are so unique, you have this quality, and you don’t even pay attention to it.”
And because I had been lacking it, and had only just come to understand that this was exactly what I was desperately missing, I pointed it out to them.
And they said, “What, is there something special about that?” I replied, “Just talk to everyone around you — no one else has it.”
So listen to what people tell you, what they draw your attention to — that’s where your uniqueness will be. And how you unfold that uniqueness is up to you.
My uniqueness is that I see things in a non-standard way. Does that tell me what to do for a living, how to earn money? No. But wherever I go, I can apply and use this uniqueness of mine.
The gift of teaching, which doesn’t come from this life but from Lemurian times. Whatever I do, even if I set aside this project, this gift will always be with me. If I went to work as a sales representative, that part would still be there, because it’s a quality of who I am.
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What is the Secret of Uniqueness
We are simply looking for something genius. But the fact that people start smiling warmly in my presence — I don’t pay attention to that, why would I? I need thunder and lightning, for me to walk in and everything to calm down. Then I would pay attention to it.
These are the small properties of that unique vibration that permeates everything. When you attend live streams, what do you come away with besides information? Energy, a state. I simply have so much inner fire that even on my deathbed, I would ignite the people around me.
And someone else is filled with boundless love, for example, Svetlana Dobrovolskaya envelops you with maternal energy. These are all different properties, different qualities that we sense in other people.
With all the abundance available on the internet, we go to different places for different things. Sometimes you need a sense of camaraderie, sometimes you need a kick in the pants, sometimes you want to be patted on the head. And depending on what you need, you will go where you can get it.
And the same thing happens to you — at certain moments, people either come into your life or they don’t. You just don’t pay attention to it.
These are micro nuances, but they add up to a frequency that allows your talent, your purpose, and your uniqueness to unfold.
But it’s hard for the brain because it wants specifics and ready-made answers: I’ll just fill out some questionnaire, and you’ll tell me what my gift is and what my purpose is.
But it turns out you have to figure it out yourself, feel it inside yourself, talk to people. It’s not that hard to ask 10 acquaintances what they value in their interactions with you. Very few people do this because they’re afraid of hearing what they don’t want to hear.
But people are constantly telling you these things from the outside. You just don’t pay attention to it, swept away by something bigger, more global, more brilliant.
Share in the comments what people most often point out about you — what are your qualities?
This article is based on a live broadcast from the #ask_KM #14 Ask KM series.
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