The entire year of 2023 is turning us inward.
The main task of 2023, as I see it, is — for some once again, and for others for the first time in their lives — to allow yourself to disconnect from the influence of external circumstances and develop an important skill: regardless of what signals come from outside, to react from your own goodness.
Everything that happens is aimed at this turning inward. And one of the signs of a victim is a focus directed outward.
Read on to learn how to say goodbye to the remnants of the victim within you.
The Main Sign of a Victim
The main sign of a victim is wallowing in their own suffering.
The victim consciousness has been cultivated over the past decades. The victim wallows in their suffering, but most importantly, they have no power.
A victim of circumstances in the 3D world — you are nobody, you have no name, you control nothing, you have no power, you have no authority, you cannot choose, you can do nothing at all.
The only thing a victim can do is react to incoming signals: turned on the TV, heard bad news, that’s it; opened the news, read it — the euro, the dollar is falling, something else is happening, that’s it, they can do nothing.
Their focus is turned outward, because their whole life they react to external circumstances, they are entirely out there. For a victim, it matters who said what, where, how. How someone looked, how they reacted; they evaluate themselves through other people.
If a young man didn’t choose me, I am bad. It’s not that he isn’t suitable, it’s that I am not good enough. And they receive confirmation from everywhere: “you are nobody and nothing,” “you are worthless, you control nothing.”
Imagine yourself riding a bus at breakneck speed, the driver is somewhere up front, and you are sitting in the back where there are no windows, and you don’t know where you are, you just get thrown around at the turns. That is a victim.
Only when a victim begins to take responsibility for their commitments, for their word, for the promises they made to themselves — that is, to increase their level of responsibility — do they exit the victim state across the bridge of 4D.
Because on the other side is total responsibility for your life, for yourself, because any thought instantly materializes, any emotion instantly manifests. And you will not cross this bridge until you are completely pure.
This phase of purification, which we are going through now, is needed, it is necessary. Right now, everything inside the body that is tied to this victim is rising up: where you avoid obligations, where you don’t keep your word, where you run from responsibility, believing that the state should, the government should, the municipality should, the husband should, the neighbors should, the children should, and I owe nothing to anyone.
See also: How to find balance between grievances and recognizing your own worth
The First Step to Letting Go of the Remnants of Victim Consciousness
On the other side is total responsibility, but not in the sense of a burden, a heavy load, but where you are in charge.
You are driving this bus, not sitting in the back not knowing what to expect, but behind the wheel. And you have a full view: you see where you are going, and you can stop anytime you want, wherever you want.
Between one and the other is heaven and earth. And this is the path of taking on responsibility, obligations; it is total growth.
First and foremost, the victim takes responsibility by acknowledging that everything that has happened in their life, they created.
Why don’t people want to leave the role of the victim? Because it’s hard to admit that all those I’ve been blaming my whole life turn out to have nothing to do with it. It was me.
This is difficult to do because when you admit it, you sink into a feeling of powerlessness: “How am I going to clean all this up now?” You don’t have the strength yet.
And so it begins to rise through situations, all this inauthenticity, so that you can see it. Only not through the usual lens, but where you give away your power, where you shift responsibility for yourself onto someone else.
Track the remnants of the victim manifestation. Some people simply need to finally see that you have the opportunity to act differently.
See also Adulthood and Responsibility. How to Level Up Responsibility in Different Areas of Life
From Choice to the Fullness of Choice
The slogan for what comes next in the new life is that choice has appeared. And then the fullness of choice will appear. The victim does not choose.
“Either-or” is not a choice; it’s mutual exclusion. Choice is when there is something to choose from, at least three options; only then does choice begin.
Then you learn to use this choice, understanding that the responsibility is on you.
But as long as you are at the victim level, you are afraid of the consequences. Why can’t I choose to quit my job or stay? Because I need guarantees that if I quit, everything will be fine, and if I stay, everything will also be fine. And so on endlessly.
But there are no guarantees there. When you are inside yourself, in your power, in your light, your love, it doesn’t matter whether you are at this job, without a job, at another job, on vacation; you preserve yourself.
You understand that there are certain difficulties and you look for a solution. But the main thing is, you don’t tremble under these circumstances: whether you were fired or not, whether you got a salary or not, whether you were promoted or not, whether you received a bonus or not.
It has no effect on you. In fact, the same actions happen, but you don’t tremble because you feel good, harmonious, balanced, regardless of these external actions.
See also Why a Person in a Victim Consciousness Lacks the Ability to Choose
Be Centered, Sovereign
Simplify within yourself, be centered on yourself, on your heart, on your power, like that Terminator, whom nothing affects, no matter what happens outside. There’s no other way.
Many people don’t like the word “self-sufficient”; again, from the point of view of dualistic logic: “Does that mean I’ll never have a man?” This is about something else entirely.
This divergence will be felt colossally going forward, because a person who thinks through this duality will cease to align with those who have moved beyond it.
Self-sufficiency and sovereignty are about how I feel and not falling into codependency, not having a meltdown, because my entire focus is within.
Then you essentially have a choice; the law of freedom and choice comes into effect. Up until that moment, you potentially have a choice, but you can’t use it because you look at everything like a chameleon whose eyes are pointing in different directions, but you can’t grasp anything.
There’s a huge safe, locked with all the locks; you know there’s money inside, but you can’t open it. You don’t have the tools.
And full choice becomes available when full responsibility is present, along with a sense of the unity of everything and everyone, when you understand that you are interconnected with all.
See also: Why you choose between bad and worse and how to move to multi-variant choice
Communication. Look for points of agreement
When you don’t see eye to eye with someone on an opinion or worldview, it’s not a reason to part ways. Look at what unites you, where you do agree.
Whatever phrase you utter, whatever dialogue or correspondence you have, a dual opposition, a confrontation, and so on is written into it. Therefore, the second step is to see it, and the third step is to act. Many people, even knowing this, stumble here because they realize, “Now I have to do it this way.” That’s why slogans don’t work.
I can promise myself a thousand times that I won’t yell at my child anymore, but it lasts until the next trigger. This is the time when we approach that moment when “the man said it, the man did it,” total alignment with what you think, feel, and do.
This can be called the master line, when you are the master of your emotions, the master of your thoughts, the master of your sensations, the master of your actions.
See also: Changing the configuration of reality and two scenarios of internal change in connection with this
Summary
If you’ve worked through the victim mindset, watch what comes up around the topic of responsibility, because the bridge from 3D to 5D lies through responsibility.
The bonus that comes as a reward is the ability to choose not from two options, where there’s a choice without a choice, but from a multitude of options, to truly manage your life, to truly make changes.
But first, drop the ballast, untie all those logical inconsistencies living in your mind, and don’t forget to apply and take action.
What remnants of the victim consciousness have you discovered in yourself?
This article is based on a live stream from the #разговор_на_диване (couch talk) series “The Next Stage of Evolution”