On Fridays, I answer questions in a Telegram channel. One such Friday, I started reading the questions. Some asked about work, some about relationships, some asked general questions, but in my answers there was a single common thread tied to choice and focus of attention.
That is what we will discuss in this article. Read on to learn why choice and focus of attention are primary in formulating your intentions.
Old and New Realities Do Not Intersect
There is a rule in geometry — parallel lines do not intersect.
We are currently witnessing a strong stratification of reality. The principles of 3D reality, the old matrix, are embedded everywhere, including at the cellular level.
We were born into the matrix. Many people, for some reason, when we talk about this, do not apply this experience to what happens in life, to their own views, to how they perceive certain situations.
There are two parallel lines: the old reality, the old matrix, and the new reality, the new matrix.
If the old matrix is dominated by separation, competition, confrontation, and overachievement, then the new matrix is based on unity, where you are interconnected with everyone. Here, love and actions stemming from love prevail.
These two lines never intersect with each other. There is a bridge that connects them, the so-called 4th dimension, while on which you begin to analyze, draw conclusions, and take responsibility.
This bridge consists of quite many parameters; you cannot fall asleep in 3D and wake up in 5D. You need to walk across this bridge: dig out and raise everything superfluous from yourself.
The work proceeds through awareness, when you begin to see, both at the level of motives, at the level of desires, and at the level of how you perceive a particular situation.
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Example of the rule about parallel lines in relationships
A trivial example — in a relationship, I want to preserve myself, regain the lost freedom that I gave away with my own hands in the relationship to dependency, dissolving into another person. And at the same time, I want to maintain harmony in the family.
Harmony in the family will be when you break yourself, adapt, meet others’ expectations. He wants it to be this way, so I do it. That is harmony in the family, peace and quiet, the man is satisfied with everything.
But on the other hand, I feel like I’m in a cage, and I need air, space, which is not there, I need self-sufficiency, not to be tied to the man’s whims and desires, when he wants to eat with me, wake up, go to sleep at the same time.
How to combine one with the other? This cage in which I feel everything, and at the same time harmony? These are two parallel lines that do not intersect.
For some reason, many women believe that they should completely merge with a man. And this is what lies at the basis of codependent relationships. But a man always preserves himself, his interests, his social circle.
And as a result, the woman merges with him, begins to live his life and considers this the norm.
Men have this functionality by default, women do not, and we cultivate it in ourselves. It is impossible to preserve both one and the other, everything is determined by choice.
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Example about parallel lines in self-realization
Another situation — you left your job as an employee, the salary was decent, everything was great, but burnout, stress, illnesses one after another. And to save yourself, you leave, you start trying yourself in independent business, in various self-employed jobs.
This is also two parallel lines. On one hand, I want to work for myself, have a more flexible schedule, be responsible for myself, regulate my life independently. But for some reason, there is this catch that the money should be no less than there.
Two non-intersecting lines.
Either one or the other. If we are talking about money, I go for the money, then you need to understand that where I go exclusively for money, there will in any case be a cage, the same cage.
And if I choose the work where I thrive, then it would be strange to expect that it will be exactly the same as there, on the same terms, but with all the advantages.
And then the question arises: why is the path either blocked here or blocked there? Because here your determining focus of attention is key.
Is it possible to somehow connect one with the other
Lately, people often write, I can’t decide.
Choice is primary. It is important to look at what you are choosing, because many take a piece from one reality, what suits them, and then a piece from another reality, and try to connect them. But they do not connect.
Moreover, you begin to be torn apart, you sit on the fence. But it is impossible to sit on two chairs, you either invest in one or you invest in the other.
Therefore, the faster you transfer your entire weight from one to the other, the faster that very state of inner harmony will come, which you are striving for, because the contradictions will stop tearing you apart.
But you want money, after all. If in one reality it is a serious tool, then in another it is a consequence of how harmonious you are, how open you are, how well you have built mutual exchange, including energetic exchange.
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How to spread your wings
When you have already made your choice and completely moved into one reality, you can spread your wings.
It is normal to want money, it is normal to want to earn a lot of money. But you need to understand, when you make this choice, what lies behind it. For some, it is an over-standardized workday, for others, endless training and advanced qualifications, for some, a race for results, for others, it is coming to terms with a lack of time.
Because if I want a flexible schedule, to be independent of anyone, to be my own boss, and at the same time have a lot of money, it may not add up in my head. Therefore, sit down and write it out, look at what is included here, what differences and inconsistencies there are.
When you cross the bridge, you leave everything there and find yourself on the other side.
At the equinox in 2021, we walked across three bridges in meditation. Three bridges at different levels, it doesn’t matter which one you choose, what mattered was to cross. Perhaps someone should repeat it or go through it again.
Tearing apart
To make a conscious choice, draw yourself a picture, but only honestly. If you are interested in money, what do you see beyond it. If you have escaped from self-destruction, then you will not be able to return, that page of life is turned. But if there is no acceptance, then you start to be pulled back, because you are used to having a lot of money, and now everything is new.
I have seen many people who have deeply failed at this. It is a constant feeling of dissatisfaction with life.
But if you have detached yourself from the cage you were sitting in, you need to somehow learn to accept that the circumstances are completely different, and there are different principles there.
And until you accept this, you are treading water in the same place, and there is a tearing going on inside.
In the Middle Ages, there was an execution where a person was tied to horses, and they ran off in different directions. We do this to ourselves in many matters.
Or, for example, a scenario — according to the law, you shouldn’t, you are not obligated, but inside you know that you need to give it. And it’s such a push-pull: how to convince yourself, to deceive yourself.
Those who believe that they shouldn’t on the inside have no doubts. But if doubts have appeared, we make a specific choice and then begin to focus on it.
Where attention is directed, there I invest energy, that multiplies — this is the main law of energy. Accordingly, my attention is the focus, the guiding thread, which I check myself against. Focus is not some final result, not the achievement of some goal, but a direction, a vector.
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How to feel where to direct your focus. Collectors of sensations
You can enter a vibrational state exclusively through feeling, through how you feel in a given situation.
It is time for all of us to become collectors of sensations. If your soul unfolds, take that as your focus and collect it into your piggy bank.
Because we focus precisely on the vibrational state. Does it matter what you do, what you live on, when you are in this feeling of power, of bliss? I think not.
This is a reference point. And in this way we gather, and then we have a tool for comparison: I am engaged in this, here is this feeling, does it bring me closer to being in it constantly?
Everyone can set their own reference point, whether it is an all-encompassing feeling of love or silence and peace. This is your focus, the thread along which you walk. Then you energetically invest in this state.
If you do not take these first two steps — choice and focus of attention — you will be torn in different directions like a swan, a crayfish, and a pike.
Are you familiar with the feeling of being torn apart?
The article is based on a broadcast from the #conversation_on_the_couch section “Choice and Focus Determine Reality”