I don’t remember who said these words or when, but there is truth in them: “With age, old age comes to everyone, but maturity comes to far from everyone.”
Despite all the mindfulness, inner work, and self-development, there are moments when every woman thinks about her age. Isn’t that so?
In this article, I want to shift the focus a little and show the advantages of a mature age.
I decided to write about this based on my own experience. And in doing so, to cheer up all those women who might sometimes feel the blues about it or whose mood suddenly spoils over a trifle.
This is a vision of age through the prism of my perception of growing up and the feeling of true maturity.
How to understand and accept your age. 3 phases of realizing maturity
Very little has been written about this, as it is a rather subtle and delicate topic.
As a result, a woman literally has to feel her way forward. She stumbles, gets bumps and bruises, but doesn’t give up and keeps moving forward.
There are several phases that a woman goes through when she crosses a certain age threshold.
Phase #1 — Getting to know your age
In the early stages of realizing your age, your mood regularly spoils, and emotions run high.
Excess weight suddenly appears out of nowhere, health problems begin to show or worsen. Hormonal levels change. Parents grow older.
Children grow up “too fast.” A woman is visited by a vague feeling — something needs to change, but she doesn’t yet know what.
Phase #2 — Accepting your age
Life goes on, and the woman begins to get used to and come to terms with her age in all its manifestations.
She kind of gets drawn into the process of physiological aging, but still hasn’t found answers to her questions, and this bothers her. This is a period of trial and error.
Go through the “Evolution of a Woman” meditation, which will help you feel filled with love, wisdom, and acceptance from within, so that you can radiate these feelings outward.
Phase #3 — Discovering new opportunities and advantages of age
At this stage, the woman begins to feel the advantages of her age based on the previous stages she has gone through.
She frees up more personal time and space for herself, her development, and self-improvement. This could be: meditation, yoga practice, reading, massage, a bathhouse, walks, reflection, creativity.
She often changes her job or even her profession. The children have grown up and become independent. The woman learns to build new relationships with them.
And with her spouse, she transitions to a new level of partnership. Her sexuality also changes in unimaginable ways.
It is in the third phase that a rethinking of life experience occurs. A vision opens up of how the woman has developed, how she has changed and continues to change, what she is striving for, and what she truly wants from life.
The third phase is a portal for transitioning from a state of hopeless aging to a state of conscious maturity.
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Differences between old age and maturity
In this table, I’ve gathered basic markers of accepting your age from different perspectives.
The comparison could go on, but even this is enough to feel the striking difference in attitude toward life and yourself in the first and second options.
Of course, you want to constantly remain in a “mature” and conscious state, but that doesn’t always happen.
Old Age or Maturity. How to Maintain and Develop the State of a Mature Personality
- Keep in mind the image you are striving for and want to live up to. Let this be your beacon in the sea of life. Add to the list (in the table above) the characteristics and advantages specific to your mature personality.
- Be conscious. Before reacting, become aware of what you are experiencing and feeling in that moment, and only then react.
- Take care of your physical form. Train your body. This doesn’t necessarily mean exhausting yourself with diets and intense workouts. It’s enough to listen to yourself when choosing food and practice yoga 2-3 times a week, or go for a brisk 30-40 minute walk.
- Raise your energy level. Do breathing practices, meditate, take an energy shower, simply rest and deeply relax. Seek out your favorite methods for restoring and boosting your energy levels.
- Engage in creativity. Creativity and creation are directly linked to raising your vibration level. For example, I am very inspired by drawing in the “neurographica” technique, writing articles, knitting, and cooking. And I literally regress to childhood when I’m fussing with my grandson!
How These Practical Actions Help
Throughout daily life, you are exposed to many influences. It’s not always possible to be conscious.
You don’t always adequately assess your state and control your reactions. As they say, no two days are the same.
Personally, these simple actions help me process and transform all accumulated negative emotions, disappointments, feelings of guilt, resentments, and automatic reactions that trail behind from daily interaction with the world and people.
Thus, you bring order within yourself and balance your inner emotional state. And your little ship once again sails on the waves of life, holding course toward the beacon called “maturity.”
On one hand, the actions are simple, but on the other, they require your constant attention to yourself and to your inner dialogue.
The meditation “Golden Sun, Silver Moon” is intended for those who want to reach a higher, qualitative level of life. Go through it to step out of the old reality into a new life. The meditation is also aimed at rejuvenating the entire body.
What You Get as a Result:
- You become calmer, more centered.
- People and situations that used to drive you crazy no longer irritate you.
- You become genuinely generous and loving for no reason.
- You don’t want to lecture anyone or hand out advice.
- You forgive easily because you no longer hold grudges.
- You don’t get drawn into other people’s games and scripts.
- You feel fullness, contentment, and inner peace.
- You calmly cut out the excess and invite into your life what you truly need.
- You are simply happy.
Dear women, enjoy yourselves and life! Love yourself and life, and you will see how many surprises and gifts await you.