How do you understand the meaning of partnership between a man and a woman? What do such relationships include?
According to a live survey on the topic of partnership, participants wrote that it is energy exchange, reciprocity and trust, harmonious equal relationships.
We touched on this topic a little in one of the broadcasts, and an article about relationship types has even been written. Read it here.
In this article, we will look at what factors determine partnership.
Self-sufficiency of both partners
When you grow in a relationship, you become whole and self-sufficient, healing traumas and piecing yourself together.
If you are a whole being, then you are a person who has taken responsibility for your life. It is not they who are to blame, it is you who creates.
At this level, by the principle of like attracting like, you can attract a whole, strong, and self-sufficient person who, in turn, is also going through their own path of development.
And here is the question: if you have become self-sufficient, will a “semi-finished product” suit you?
For example, when a strong woman attracts a weak partner, or a handsome man attracts a plain Jane.
Being self-sufficient does not mean always being strong, on top, or in a resourceful state. If there is a semi-finished product next to you, and at that moment they are trying to get the love from you that they are counting on, the relationship may fall apart.
At the same time, self-sufficient women who have taken their power still agree to less, to settling for what is available. The fact that you are developing, you take for granted, but the fact that the other person must also go through a path of development, you do not think about that.
What are the relationships of two self-sufficient people like. What to expect
If you have nevertheless attracted a self-sufficient person, what will happen to the roles? After all, society holds the opinion that a man is a prince on a white horse, a breadwinner. There are also many stereotypes about women.
Will these roles remain in a self-sufficient relationship?
Everything will be turned upside down. When you manifest and call upon such a partner, you are not even ready for what a self-sufficient man truly is.
You need to understand that sometimes you will want to “get into” the man with all your might, but he may put up such a wall that you will not like it.
Two self-sufficient people are two strong individuals. If a misunderstanding suddenly flares up somewhere, it will be a battle of titans, because each carries their own truth, has taken their own power, and is unlikely to want to compromise. That is when the moment of agreement surfaces.
When the “ears” (traumas, the desire to play the victim) and the roles that were played before show up, they will need to be rewritten from scratch.
To think about how it will be now: who handles finances, who handles the family. This is also a difficult path, and nothing is prescribed here, there is no instruction; everything must be written from scratch.
Therefore, if you read any love stories, stories of happy relationships, absorb them, listen, and pick for yourself the relationship model that resonates with you, gather it bit by bit.
I recommend reading Pamela Kribbe’s “Yeshua,” which describes relationships very well, as well as Aurelia Louise Jones’s “Telos,” which also outlines the relationship models of the Lemurians in the fifth dimension.
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Relationships of self-sufficient people in moments of failure
Most women want a man to be strong and self-sufficient, but ignore the flip side. Are you ready for it? Because a strong man can be very categorical. And if he disagrees with something, your idea will bounce back and hit you in the forehead.
Every coin has two sides; there are ups and days of failure, days when you enter survival mode. The task there is to survive, awareness shuts off, and a rigid scenario begins to play out even if it is cleared of trauma.
And if both of you are in such a state, it can be difficult. And you need to be prepared for this.
Such a state helps to survive a stressful situation, but it can also deeply wound another person.
If you fall into a state where you want to be coddled, pitied, supported, and next to you is a person with a rigid scenario activated, and you are not vibrationally aligned with them at that moment, what will you do then? Will you retreat into resentment and complaints?
What is the difference between strength and self-sufficiency
In society, the concept of strength is greatly distorted. We are talking about self-sufficient equal partners.
If we talk about the center of strength, the solar plexus — it is a dictator person, a suppressing manipulator. This is strength in the 3D understanding.
In the 90s, when it was necessary to be flexible and able to adapt to new circumstances, women took everything into their own hands. And then another concept of strength emerged — being a donkey that took everything upon itself, including the man.
This is also a distorted understanding of strength.
There are two states for any person: a resourceful state with awareness, and a state when you are out of resources. At that moment, awareness is absent.
Trying to be self-sufficient is useless; it is not a state of mind, but a state when you have freed yourself from trauma. It is a process of working on yourself, and self-sufficiency appears here as a result.
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What to Do If Your Partner Does Not Support You on Your Path
Everyone’s paths are different, and each person walks their own. It doesn’t matter how you came to God, to the top of the mountain: some have a fast highway, others go through windfalls and obstacles. The point is that you got there.
Respect the other person’s path. A loved one does not necessarily have to walk the path exactly as you do, and no other way. The main thing is that you both develop. The key word here is “both.”
Often there is a confrontation between different spiritual schools. And each person can have their own point of view.
Where does this craving for support even come from?
Remember moments in your life when you made a decision. It was yours, you were confident in it, and you went against everyone. You didn’t care what anyone said.
All doubts come before making a decision; if you have made it, then that’s it, period. You move forward, you have taken responsibility. And support is not needed.
When is it important to be supported? When you are on the weak side.
And here, it’s not even the support itself that matters—that you are going in the right direction—but that you are supported as a person.
Self-sufficient people need support, but of a different kind—in general. Do not confuse this with understanding or sharing a worldview.
It is important that you are allowed to be weak, to vent emotions; what matters is involvement, empathy, the understanding that there is a person nearby who is with you on a heart level.
Therefore, understanding of the mental may not exist. Support is usually backed by understanding, but what should be there is acceptance, regardless of whether you share the point of view or not.
There is a type of people who do not need someone nearby during a difficult moment. They are self-sufficient on their own.
Their task is to close off, sit in their burrow, lift their spirits, and move on.
You arrive at this through trial and error. And if you are like this yourself, tell your partner about it so they are aware and understand what is happening with you.
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What to do if you are developing, but your partner is not
Accept this as a fact and see what happens next. Free yourself from the claim that your partner must also change.
But there is one catch here. It happens that a partner is developing, but in their own way.
There is a theory of 12 paths. For example, you are walking along path No. 1, and your partner is walking along path No. 6, but since you do not see similar signs, you conclude that they are not developing.
Firstly, men develop completely differently, perhaps not through relationships, more often through business and self-realization.
It happens that men already come with a ready-made, accumulated potential, a different one. And by comparing your path with his, you draw incorrect conclusions.
How this manifests itself.
You work a lot on yourself, and when your man begins to feel that the gap between you is already too large, he takes one step and catches up, becoming on the same level as you.
From the outside, it looks like you are working hard, while he has only taken a single step; you are uprooting so much from yourself, while he exerts almost no effort.
The phenomenon is that you are two communicating vessels. But when you develop and have no goal of changing the other person, he has no other choice to maintain the relationship — he is forced to step up.
Therefore, the first step is accepting his choice, accepting that he is not developing. At the same time, you understand that this will not last forever. When you reach a certain point and see that everything is lost — both the heart connection and the sex — you ask yourself whether this suits you or not.
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When agreements stop working
All agreements work until the moment you are not to blame for what happened.
If you are not the cause of this collapse, then the agreements work, but if you are to blame yourself, then layers of anger, dissatisfaction, and grievances often begin to surface.
What to do in existing relationships
We have many unmet needs, and if we are talking about self-sufficiency and about not fulfilling them at the expense of another person, then we need to find ways to replenish them: music, books, various forms of creativity.
This allows you, without shifting responsibility onto another person, to replenish your unmet needs: for some, reading fantasy if there is a lack of magic; for others, sports or theater.
In existing relationships, the goal of both is important — to preserve the relationship. If one develops, the other, for better or worse, catches up. If one burns with desire to change and the other does not, then you cannot force affection here.
On “Leaders” and “Followers” in Relationships
In a partnership of two self-sufficient, whole beings, there are no leaders or followers.
If I am strong, does it mean a weakling ends up next to me, and vice versa?
If a weak person is next to you, as long as you are in a resourceful state, you harmoniously complement each other. But if you collapse, the weak person begins to demand attention to be rescued, drowning you even more.
For a strong woman, it is important not to be drowned. If a woman is left alone, she will recover in a short time. But when a weakling is nearby, he drains attention to himself.
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What to do if there is harmony on all levels except sex
Dig into the topic of beliefs about sex.
Sexual-spiritual-emotional orgasm. This trio is possible in a single whole, unfortunately.
When you enter a 3D relationship, you have a sexual orgasm. Then the soul asks for an emotional, spiritual orgasm.
But if there is no sexual component, which is natural as long as we live in physical bodies, look for limitations regarding sex.
This is exactly the same as when the spiritual is opposed to the material. Somewhere inside sits the idea that you exalt the spiritual, emotional, heartfelt above the sexual. You place sexuality in the negative.
When you return this harmony back, everything will begin to recover. But you need to start with beliefs, with healing sexual trauma.
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Watch the recording of broadcast #43 On Partnership, part 1, where we examined these and other questions.
Share in the comments your understanding of partnership between a man and a woman and how much your relationships correspond to it?
In the second part of the article, you will learn why a fulfilled woman needs a man, what the relationships of self-sufficient people are built on, and how to manage a family budget.