In almost every piece of content, broadcast, or stream we produce, we touch on the topic of mental limitations, talking about the need to step beyond their boundaries and rewrite limiting beliefs.
But how do you do that? How do you rewrite them into something that works for your highest good?
This article will discuss exactly that. We will look at examples of limitations in different areas of life. You will learn why your limitations are invisible to you and how to move beyond them.
Why Your Limitations Are Invisible to You
There is a small group of people who know about their limitations and do nothing about them. This inaction is linked to the benefit the person gains from that limitation.
The mind of such a person understands that nothing will happen or change on its own, but their inner 3-D part tirelessly hopes for it.
In reality, limitations are not visible or obvious to the mind. Therefore, the majority of people remain unaware of what limitations are guiding them.
There are no ready-made lists that include ALL possible limitations for human nature.
Mental Limitations and Personal Responsibility
To understand or realize something, you need to look at the situation with at least an “adult mind.”
When you fail to achieve what you strive for, it does not mean that “some forces are preventing” it from happening.
Think about what you are afraid of, what you are resisting. “They won’t let me” is shifting responsibility. External circumstances originate within you.
For example, a person is looking for a better job and constantly encounters obstacles. As a result, they begin to convince themselves that “some forces” are opposing a successful outcome.
If you find yourself in a similar situation, ask yourself:
- What part of you believes you are unworthy of the job you would enjoy?
- What are you afraid will happen next if you get your dream job?
By honestly answering such questions, you will uncover your own mental limitations that block the realization of your desire.
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Uncovering a limitation can turn the situation around
Uncovering a limitation can turn the situation around – without any additional action on your part.
Let’s consider a specific situation using the example of the limitation “no money.”
Your non-resourceful state may be indirectly related to the limitation “no money.” When you get irritated with your children and lose your temper, it doesn’t mean you are a bad mother.
Often, such a reaction is a consequence of the unconscious belief “no money” (for a nanny, for rest and a change of pace, for help around the house, etc.).
At the same time, the woman simply does not see “where the legs grow from” (she does not see her limiting belief).
Example.
A woman has an elderly bedridden mother.
The mother is already in a state where the elderly person “has been lying down for a long time” and takes revenge on everyone, finding satisfaction in making life difficult for her loved ones.
The woman’s intention to somehow change the current situation does not work at all.
As someone observing the situation from the outside, I suggested to my colleague a way out: rent an apartment for her mother in the next building, hire a caregiver for her, and visit her mother once a day while being in a resourceful and good mood.
After calculating the financial costs, the woman discovered that to implement this idea, she would only need to conduct four more client consultations per month. And the issue would be resolved.
The woman was stunned that such a simple solution had been “invisible” to her.
An even greater shock for the woman was that exactly one week after a possible way out of the situation was found, her mother passed away.
Thus, when a way out of the situation emerged (meaning the mind’s limitation was highlighted), the person’s mission was fulfilled.
The woman realized that there was no need to live in bondage for a lifetime. In response, the space unfolded the situation.
Examples of limitations from personal experience
Limitation — I cannot travel abroad
At one time, I worked as an English teacher at a school for 9 years. In those days, traveling abroad for a middle school teacher was an unattainable dream.
A single mother with a small child and a small salary had no chance of being allowed to leave the country for a trip abroad.
Despite practicing Simoron and other techniques, it never even occurred to me that I could go to London. The thought simply wasn’t in my head.
Mind limitation — adapting to the work schedule
I have always been a big workaholic.
Only about two years have passed since I managed to get rid of this harmful habit. Now I don’t work on weekends and try to finish the main work tasks by Thursday, so I can complete what’s necessary on Friday morning and be free.
Until recently, I coordinated all my trips with my work schedule: first I planned my work schedule, and then I adjusted my trips and leisure time around it.
Only recently did I realize that I have stopped being a workaholic. And now I can prioritize not my work schedule, but my desire to go somewhere, meet with friends, and relax.
It would seem, where does this block come from. These are the remnants of a former limitation, a trace of an old life when everything was scheduled by the hour. But enough time has passed since giving up workaholism to start learning the habits of a free person.
Earlier I could not do this because I did not have the financial means. But now I have both the financial means, and the time, and the desire…
See also How to work with thoughts to make a conscious choice — an important condition
Financial limitations and self-esteem
Situations related to financial limitations, one way or another, highlight other limitations — those related to self-worth.
When faced with such situations, for example, in the professional sphere, you are forced to answer a number of questions:
- what is your uniqueness as a specialist/expert;
- what niche in your field of activity are you ready to occupy in order to get a greater financial result;
- what target audience are you ready to work with, etc.
Another common situation is that you find it difficult to tell a client the cost of your service.
If every time you do this, it throws you off, turn to practices for attracting clients of a different level.
The fear of stating your rates is directly related to a lack of understanding of your own value.
As soon as you begin to see what your uniqueness as a specialist consists of, you develop a special inner feeling that allows you to calmly raise your rates.
As a result, a target audience of a different level starts to be attracted to you.
To activate the influx of clients of a new level, use any practices for expansion. Expansion opposes limitation.
Go through the "Rock Garden" meditation. You will see the limitations that stand in the way of prosperity and will be able to clear your inner space so that the flow of abundance, money, and well-being manifests in your life to the fullest!
How to overcome the limitations of the mind
The universal principle of overcoming limitations
Any meditation helps to go beyond the mind, to expand.
The insights you experience (including during meditation) are the result of your expansion beyond the "box" of the mind, which digests all the facts you have fed into it.
To better understand the workings of the mind, let’s consider a metaphor with a computer.
The mind is a symbolic computer. You buy a new computer. Until you install software on it, it will not work.
When you use search to find information on a computer, you can only find the files you previously loaded into it.
To go beyond limitations, you need to expand, activate the mode of seeing the new.
Working with specific limiting beliefs (in different areas of life: relationships, money, etc.) is an example of a particular case.
The universal way to overcome limitations involves two key points:
- expanding yourself (using any practices/techniques that allow expansion);
- mastering the new (incorporating the new into your experience).
Use 4 practices to expand your consciousness.
A technique for uncovering invisible limitations of the mind
You can define a limitation as follows: when it does not even occur to you that things could be different (that you could choose something else, do something differently).
When you catch yourself thinking of something as “impossible” for you, ask yourself the question: “Why is this impossible? / Why can’t I do this?”
Write down your answers in detail.
For example, say to yourself right now: “Let’s go to the Maldives today.”
Notice what first comes to your mind in response to this suggestion (why you cannot do it).
The first (and most common in the 3-D format) answer option: “There is no money.” Most issues in life are solved with money. Money is always available.
The question: “Why can’t I / don’t I want to do this?” shakes up the mind, and the mind, like a computer, begins to produce answers from its software.
In our example, these would be answers like:
- I have work tomorrow;
- who will take care of the child;
- who will water the flowers, etc.
And the most common answer is no money.
Use this technique (“Why can’t I do this?”) to bring your limitations to light.
Take any topic (area/situation) of your life, ask yourself the question: “Why can’t I do this?”, write down the answers in detail. And in this way, you will uncover your own limitations.
See also How Illusions Limit Your Life
Want to understand what illusions are, which will help broaden your perspective? Then this material will help you.
How to Replace Limiting Beliefs with Empowering Ones
Write down in a column everything that hinders/limits you. For example, “I believe that”: there isn’t enough for everyone; rich people cannot be honest; you can’t earn much with your brains, etc.
In the next column, write down beliefs opposite in meaning (replace with an equal but opposite one) — what you would want instead.
This way, you exchange, give away what limits you, and invite (take) what you want instead.
From this moment on, you start living that way.
Every time you are tempted to think/feel/act based on what you wrote in the first column, you stop yourself and recall what you have written in the second column.
If you “messed up” (didn’t remember in time), you repeat like a mantra: “Next time I will try to do it differently (name how).”
And so — time after time, time after time — you change your focus. You just have to do it.
To find what hinders/limits you, be open. Read articles, comments, observe yourself, look at others’ experiences — ideas/insights will start clicking.
To understand how to replace with an equal opposite, refer to the cycle of broadcasts “Cosmic Laws.”
There is one recipe — DO IT — through a stupor, through “I don’t want to,” through failed attempts, you keep DOING.
Are you satisfied with what you have now? If yes, that’s great. If not, you cannot do without the first step (when you give away non-working things and replace them with working ones).
This is one of the basic principles of transformation.
You can do this mentally. For example, read books, attend trainings – study information about limiting beliefs, what they are like, how they work.
There are ready-made lists of limiting beliefs – look for them through various sources.
There is another way – through the “here and now.” If you encounter a situation “now,” you deal with it right now.
Today, without delay, as soon as you “stumble upon” something, sit down and write: in one column – what about this bothers you, in the second – what lies behind it (what you want/how you would like to react/what to do/how you would like to see this situation).
There are no magic pills. This is truly hard work and the only way.
Read also: How you create illusions to justify inaction
The new as a condition for expansion
Behind limitations usually lie your traumas, unprocessed emotions, the past, your ignorance of the new that exists.
Incorporating the new into your life is an important condition for expanding consciousness and going beyond limitations.
You involuntarily limit yourself also because you simply do not know that there is something else/new, that things can be done differently.
When you seek new information, new sensations, new experiences, you expand your boundaries.
Expansion is also the ability to see and include the new within yourself.
You always took the same route to work; today, take a different one. You always vacationed in the same country; this time, vacation in another.
The new gives impetus for reaching a new level. With the help of the new, you take a step where you have never been before. You take a step into the unknown with trust.
See also The process of depth and expansion. Which aspects of worldview it will affect and what to pay attention to
Accepting limitations as one of the conditions for liberation from them
When your consciousness expands and you begin to see more, at first you may react aggressively to the manifestations of others in the “old reality.”
This is normal. “Ideal” aggression is a very constructive state. With its help, you learn to defend yourself, set boundaries, assert yourself.
When you begin to see the limitations of the mind (including in other people, in the system, etc.), it naturally starts to irritate you what you see.
Turn to acceptance. Mistakes do not exist. Mistakes are important experience.
At every moment of life, you do the best you are capable of at that moment. You act based on your level of consciousness, learn to accept yourself and your experience, and also learn to accept others.
If you do not accept another person and their experience (equally mistakes), you show arrogance. Often arrogance is a consequence of simple ignorance (lack of knowledge), when you do not understand the mechanics of the ongoing processes.
Every person is in “their place” every second. This “place” is the cumulative result of all the actions, emotions, thoughts, and choices you have made before.
Strive to go beyond the current “place.” Read, learn about yourself and the new.
See also: How to Prescribe a New Paradigm of Thinking
Saw a Limitation – Take Action
When you see your own limitation, thank yourself for seeing it, and the space for showing it to you. Write down what you realized (your limiting belief).
Most people, even after seeing their limitation, do nothing with it. But there are those who, upon seeing it, take action.
For example, they dive into their fears to dispel them. Track what you are clinging to, what you are holding onto, what you do not believe in.
The questions “How” and “Why” are questions from the mind.
For instance, to stop resisting and accept, you do not necessarily need to know what exactly you are resisting or why it is happening.
Declare your decision: “I stop resisting.” Proclaim acceptance and accept.
What methods help you see your limitations? We would appreciate it if you share your life examples of how you discovered your limitations and what you did with them afterward.
The article is based on a broadcast from the #conversation_on_the_couch section “Limitations, Expansion, Novelty”
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