The theme of self-belief recently unfolded before me from a completely new angle.
I realized it’s the main thing in our lives. When we believe, that we even exist.
In principle, belief is key. When we believe in something, in someone — that thing exists in our lives.
We believe everything is good — and so it is, we believe life is a struggle — same thing.
So, self-belief is like acknowledging the fact of our existence. That we exist, that we have qualities, that we are valuable, that we are capable of something.
And, in my opinion, self-belief is some kind of foundation, the bedrock of our lives. And if there is no self-belief — it turns out there is no full life either. What do you think of that twist?
Everything we do, everything we create, is built on self-belief; it’s the foundation of our relationship with ourselves and the world around us. We exist, and we are already able to create our own lives.
This is an amazing discovery for me, and I want to share my realizations with you in this article.
Do I even exist?
I probably never believed in myself. Not believing in yourself is like denying your own existence. And I know where the roots of this disbelief come from. From childhood, of course!
Disbelief is always a multitude of doubts — in yourself, in making decisions. And as a result — a lot of effort and *pfft*, nothing. Many people, especially in our country, have absolutely no belief in themselves.
It would seem they acquire so much knowledge, skills, and abilities — yet they still travel as if on an ungreased cart, instead of a jet plane. Does that sound familiar to you?
And this little quirk exists in practically everyone. I see people wanting to do something in life, fulfill themselves, build relationships, achieve material well-being, and so on. But they run around like a hamster on a wheel, stuck in one place.
Because, what you don’t believe in — it’s as if it doesn’t exist. A very unusual feeling. For example, someone who doesn’t believe in God, a Higher Power — for that person, it doesn’t exist, right?
How to Believe in Yourself
What to do? How to believe in yourself? Because it is possible. I want to recommend a few simple but very important methods for this.
1. Get to Know Yourself
First and foremost, you need to get acquainted with yourself.
Understand what your strong qualities are, and what isn’t your forte. What talents you have, and by talents I mean what you love to do and are good at, even the simplest things.
Someone has a talent for communicating, someone for cooking deliciously, someone can see beauty, and someone is good with technology. And all of this is your talent.
Explore yourself, understand — who you even are.
After all, before you start being friends with another person, you get to know them. It’s that stage where you want to learn as much as possible about the person to understand — are you on the same wavelength? Is this person interesting to you? Do your values align?
You need to do the exact same thing with yourself! Just get acquainted. Because we live and don’t really know anything about ourselves.
See also: How to Gain Personal Wholeness
What is personal wholeness, and more importantly, what does it specifically mean for you? Check — perhaps many problems in your life are connected precisely to the fact that you have lost your wholeness and just can’t seem to regain it…
2. Define Your Goals
Another point important for self-esteem is your goals.
Do you have them? Do you have a vision of who you want to be in a year, in 5 years? This also shapes our self-esteem and self-belief.
When you just go with the flow and don’t know where you’re headed, self-devaluation can also occur. But when you have a goal, and it doesn’t matter how global it is (though the higher, the better), you already somehow see yourself there, ahead.
Who are you in 5 years? What are you doing? What qualities do you possess? What else do you need to develop in yourself? These questions will help you decide in the present moment as well, choose your development priorities.
I’ll add that when setting goals, you need to understand that they are not set in stone. They can change in accordance with your inner transformation.
Self-belief gives you the strength to move forward, but to move, you first need to know where you’re going. On the other hand, when you have this vision, there is motivation and belief appears.
3. Look at your environment
What kind of people are in your environment? Do they help you develop, move forward, or do they drag you into a swamp of bad habits, empty talk, and inaction?
At this stage, make a decision about who to continue communicating with and who to minimize contact with or cut off entirely. Because it’s known that our environment has a huge influence on our personality.
Through the people who are close to you, you can get to know yourself better.
Perhaps you will want to find someone who has already achieved success in their field, who will become an example for you and inspire you to move forward.
Read, How relationships with your environment change in the process of your spiritual growth.
4. Ask your loved ones how they see you from the outside
Another way is to ask your loved ones and friends — what do they see in you? What interesting character traits or skills?
Ask them: “What do I do best, in your opinion?” And from the answers, you will understand what valuable things others see in you. And this is another step towards self-belief.
After all, our self-belief is based on recognition by other people. When we are recognized and valued, it gives us strength. On the other hand, it reflects your own attitude towards yourself, your worth.
Also read How to Find Your Uniqueness — A Simple Way
Understanding your uniqueness is one of the first steps to knowing yourself and spiritual development.
But many, if not most, have no idea what is special about them… what is inherent only to them and no one else.
I’ve offered you several options to get to know yourself. There are other ways to get to know yourself better and start believing)) At least a little!
And when the process of getting to know yourself is set in motion, you will pay more attention to yourself. You will continue the acquaintance with yourself, and your self-belief will grow.
Remember that you are the most important thing you have! Believe in yourself!