How do you think chakras and relationships in a couple are connected?
There is a direct connection between them, because each chakra is responsible for a specific area of a person’s life.
Since people are constantly in communication with each other, relationships are one of the important areas in everyone’s life.
An exception is if a person lives in seclusion somewhere, for example, in Tibet, where the social circle is very limited. Unfortunately, interaction between people is not always harmonious.
If you are interested in understanding the reasons, read this article.
We will look at why, in order to create quality partner relationships, it is important for the chakras to be balanced.
When there is complete compatibility in sex, but everything is complicated in the relationship
There are seven chakras located in the human body. Sexuality is the second chakra.
When people in a relationship are compatible in the first and second chakras, everything is great in sex, but there is a gap in other areas.
The first, root chakra is responsible for interaction with the material world.
A man who has an imbalance in the first chakra is a materialist. Such men are interested in money, attracted to luxurious cars, entertainment, girls, and sex. They feel like machos.
There is another manifestation of personality when the first chakra is hyperactive — a gigolo man.
In all other chakras, the partners do not match, starting with willpower, for which the third chakra is responsible.
- The third chakra, the solar plexus chakra — this is what you want, where you are moving;
- The fourth, heart chakra — how you interact with people;
- The fifth, throat chakra — how you express yourself;
- The sixth, third eye chakra — how you perceive the world;
- The seventh, crown chakra — connection with the cosmos.
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When your lower chakras are empty, you will attract a partner who has only the first two chakras active.
You have built everything in the upper ones, but you have not passed through the lower ones because you have a block from your mother, for example. Since childhood, when raising girls, parents tried to instill stereotypes:
drawing arrows on the eyes — a prostitute, sitting on a boy’s lap — shame, disgrace, etc.
Twin flames, when entering into relationships, match on all seven chakras. And this is not about energy. These are seven coincidences at the level of consciousness, since each chakra center is a certain level of consciousness.
Read about why you attract certain partners into your life in the article How the merging of partners by chakras occurs
If the lower chakras are unbalanced, what partners do you attract
If a woman has an imbalance in the lower chakras, she attracts men with active lower centers. And as a rule, trauma attracts trauma.
Men whose first chakra is overflowing are males, with a clearly expressed masculine self. Their task is to shift the energy into the center of will, the center of self-expression, which is located in the solar plexus.
Here it is important to understand how a child’s chakra system unfolds as they grow up.
The first chakra in a child develops up to the age of one, when they receive the mother’s attention, love, and warmth of relationship.
In the next year of life, the second center is activated. At this time, the child learns to voice their desires and express emotions. This manifests as tantrums, where the child lies down, kicks their legs: “Give me, I need, I want.”
Then comes the two-year crisis, when the child learns to separate themselves from their mother; this is the activation of the solar plexus, the center of will. Children at this age push and insist on having things their own way.
How will a child understand that it is uncomfortable to walk if one foot is in a rubber boot and the other in a shoe? By allowing them to do it. They will feel uncomfortable, come back, and change their shoes.
Or a child wants to measure puddles, but their parents do not allow it. Because they do not understand that this is an important task for the child. It is not just a whim or a silly desire. This is how willpower is activated, and detachment from parents occurs.
When the center of will is activated, it begins to control the first and second centers, the “wants.” Understanding comes that you cannot always get what you want right away; sometimes you need to eat first and then enjoy a candy. This is where a child’s willpower begins to manifest.
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If the center of will is not formed, a male will grow up for whom sex comes first, and he is unable to control himself.
Such a man gets a sexual desire and runs off. What children, what family for him? He lacks responsibility, which should, in principle, be formed by the age of two.
But if you have emptiness in your lower center, you attract such men to yourself, drawing trauma to trauma.
Until you activate your lower centers, your situation will not change. As soon as you heal this part of yourself, you will no longer need such males. They will go on to seek those who deny sex.
You can activate the first lower centers both through consciousness and through energy practices.
Read more information about chakras in the article Chakras: How to Use in Everyday Life
Where to get willpower, or how to open the solar plexus chakra
If willpower is weakened, it needs to be developed.
Otherwise, you will encounter a manipulator, an abuser, who will do things to you on your behalf. A person cannot live with weak willpower.
Most often, such a person is surrounded by people with a hyperactive third chakra. You come across bosses who are tyrants, a husband who is an abuser, a child will grow up to be someone who disrespects their mother.
How many women complain that their sons grow up and start to bully their mothers. Such children do not grow up out of nowhere.
As a rule, situations have repeated many times in life, but you did not learn your lessons — with your grandfather, with your father, with your husband. So your son becomes the same for you.
Turn on awareness and develop the center of will, otherwise you will follow a harsh scenario.
For developing the will center, any Thai practices are suitable, where Qi energy is accelerated.
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If the solar plexus chakra is hyperactive, how to balance it
Learn to remove excess energy from the chakra, to balance it if it is hyperactive.
Start by delegating to men those functions that rightfully belong to them.
A woman’s strength lies in weakness; sometimes just allow yourself to play weak.
You can learn this by doing simple things. Don’t drag your suitcase up the stairs at the airport or anywhere else; instead, grab the first man you see and ask for help.
When you board a train, ask: “Could you please lift my suitcase up?” When you get off: “Oh, young man, please, I need your help.”
At first, it won’t be easy because you’re sure you can handle it yourself, and now you have to ask for help. Replace one reflex with another: not “do everything myself,” but ask a man.
A strong woman will attract a weak-willed amoeba who will be glad that someone takes care of him, money is earned, and everything happens on its own without his involvement.
Partnership is two strong, self-sufficient, mature, and adequate people. Look for an adult for yourself. And to do that, you need to be a little kitten who wants to climb onto someone’s lap and relax, not a thunderous woman.
Even if it’s not hard for you to do men’s work, like changing light bulbs or unclogging a sink, and it seems easier to do it yourself — stop yourself, leave men’s work to a man.
The article “Excess of Feminine/Masculine Energy: How to Achieve Balance” will help identify an imbalance of energy toward the masculine or feminine principle.
Share in the comments: in what situations did you recognize yourself? Have you noticed a connection between chakras and relationships in your couple?
The article is based on materials from the live stream #разговор_на_диване “Assorted Questions on Relationships”