Behind most desires lies an internal conflict.
When a desire comes from the heart, and there are no obstacles in its path, everything enters your life easily and smoothly.
Often people do not know what they want, but this is not the main reason why intentions are not fulfilled. Many do not believe that it will happen.
In this article, we will look at six different reasons and obstacles that block the manifestation of your intentions.
Why intentions are not fulfilled. 6 possible reasons
1. I want, but I do not believe
In my time, I really wanted a car; I wanted it, but I did not believe. This was tied to many limitations within myself.
Firstly, to have a car, you need money for gasoline. I assumed it would come from nowhere, that someone would give me the money; I did not believe I could earn it myself.
With a salary of 6,000 rubles, it is impossible to save for a car, even the simplest one. But I allowed the thought that it might fall from the sky for some of my good deeds.
But! For that, I needed gasoline, winter tires, maintenance, parking or a garage, an alarm system; for that, I needed to understand many things.
When I realized what a heap of things was tied to the desire, the conflict was revealed. And until all these contradictory beliefs were worked through point by point, I operated from a mindset of poverty.
In a state of prosperity, you go, buy a car, and do not worry at all, because when you buy it, you are already in a state where you have money for gasoline, and you have money for everything else as well.
This, of course, depends on what kind of car you are buying, but in a state of prosperity, you think about how to find a comfortable model that meets all your parameters, not about what you will use to fill it up and pay for gasoline.
Therefore, decide what you want and how much you want it. Write down the specific belief “I want, but.” When you write down these “buts,” you will see what to work with.
There may be fear, there may be money. It all depends on what you find. Everyone will have their own set of limiters that prevent the desire from being fulfilled.
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2. I want, but I am not ready…
Another point is “I want, but I am not emotionally ready.”
For example, I want to be the director of a huge corporation. Yes, I hold a position there as some kind of employee. I seem to have the desire, but I am really not ready to handle it.
For a long time, I put off going on stage independently because I felt inside that I was not ready: not ready to go out to people or communicate with them.
I was not ready for the close attention. Everyone has their own parameter. Someone is afraid to speak, someone is afraid to appear.
I stood there many times. But I was not ready to set boundaries in a gentle, calm way and not break down when they were violated. I had my own problem area; when I worked through it, everything happened very quickly.
What about you? What are you not ready for?
In meditations, I often ask to look at one reality and a second reality. The reality that exists now, and the reality where all this has come true.
There, emotionally, everything is very clearly visible. How will I manage money at that moment? How will I relate to the world, to people? Will there be aggression in me? Will the consciousness of poverty be present in me? That is the “ready/not ready.”
What to do in this case? What to do if I see that I want it, but I am not ready? If you see that you are not ready, write down what you are not ready for, and work through it.
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3. I want, but am not ready to take risks…
Another point related to desires. I seem to want something, but I don’t want to leave my comfort zone of safety. I am not ready to take risks.
I have my comfort zone that I am used to. Everything is safe there, everything is familiar. And it seems I want something more, but I can’t do it because I am afraid to step out. It’s unknown out there, there won’t be that safety.
For example, I lived in a small town and suddenly decided I wanted something more. Most people just stay in their small town, just keep getting their small salary. And at the same time, they do nothing, they go in circles. They are used to sitting in that swamp and will do nothing to get out of it. They will just keep complaining.
Most people, not those who come to “Keys to Mastery,” are most often not ready to leave their comfort zone. This is not because Keys to Mastery is so great, but because the people around us are afraid to leave their comfort zone.
And there is also a desire when we expect someone else to do it for us. This is also a blind spot. Many people want, desire, but dad should give it, husband should earn it, someone should do something so that I get it.
And it’s not necessary to refuse help, just learn to take more responsibility, more independence upon yourself. Because to come to creation, it is important to take responsibility upon yourself.
When we desire for someone else to do something, we build fruitless fantasies, sometimes it happens, sometimes people are found. But in the end, it is not creation.
Take away this element from you, the person who gave you all of this, and suddenly it turns out that you are nobody and your name is nothing, because your whole life you have been used to living at someone else’s expense.
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4. To get one thing, I must have another
I must have this and that in order to get what I want.
For example, to buy an apartment, I need to have an income many times higher than I have now.
For the three-dimensional world, it looks like this: I want to find a job, but to get this job, the desired position, I must go somewhere, learn something, do this, that, and the other.
And those who are stuck in transformation have a different focus, but the principle is the same. To become happier, more loved, more reliable, I first need to eradicate an emotion or belief. Two different focuses, but one principle.
First this, I don’t have it, and only then will I get what I want. Thus, you push everything into an indefinite future.
You know, like in Soviet times: I must finish school, enter an institute, after the institute go through job placement, and then start living.
Someone says it like this: first I must get a prestigious job, climb the career ladder, earn a certain amount of money, and then I will think about how to build relationships, whether I need a woman, and whether to have a child and start a family.
This is a very limiting chain. Moreover, no one limits you except yourself. Although it happens that you belong to a family where this was once the norm.
5. I expect ideal circumstances
Another obstacle on the path to achieving what you want is waiting for the ideal situation, the perfect circumstances. When this and that happen, then I will do it. Many people are not even aware of this obstacle.
Sometimes this is tied to perfectionism, when I want everything to be at its best. And the one who gets stuck in transformations may not see the moment that they are putting things off, engaging in self-sabotage, until what is needed appears.
Everything related to work, to money, often arises as an excuse not to do it.
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6. I Want to Change Something External
Another trick regarding limiting beliefs is the desire to change something external. It occurs at the initial level, but for the majority.
If only I had gotten a different man, if I change my partner, if only I had a different boss, and so on.
For those who have been developing and following the path of spiritual growth for a long time, the “ears” are probably sticking out. When I fall into a state of irritation, take offense, or am simply upset, then the ears may appear. And I say “ears” because the state is there, but already in minimal amounts.
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Did you find here your reason for internal conflict why some of your intentions are not being fulfilled? We would be glad to hear your stories and insights!
The article is based on one of the thematic sessions for clients of the Keys of Mastery Training Center in 2012.