You understand that the usual order needs to change, but you no longer have the strength for yet another restructuring. New actions are added to the previous ones, temporary solutions accumulate, and life still demands attention in several places at once.
The ability to adapt has its own capacity. It is made up of a reserve of strength, the ability to remain in uncertainty, available ways of acting, and the skill of reviewing the load in time.
When the usual “patches” stop helping, you have to look anew at how work, relationships, and everyday affairs are structured. Here it is important to preserve yourself and the ability to recover, to give temporary solutions clear boundaries, and to free up strength for change.
The topic of the meeting and observations after September
in the video: 00:04
In September I was writing down my thoughts and observing my reactions, gradually piecing together scattered observations into a single picture. That’s how the theme of adaptive capacity came about: many of us are already so overloaded by change that the next restructuring triggers inner resistance.
What is currently making it hardest to readjust
in the video: 04:11
In May I had a breakdown related to inner disappointment and a strong unwillingness to readjust once again.
October and the beginning of a new cycle
in the video: 06:12
I see the last three months of the year as harbingers of the next cycle. In August, during the planetary galactic New Year and the Lion’s Gate, codes and instructions for the soul are downloaded. In October and November, the energy of the following year begins to be read, so the transition from September to October can feel very abrupt.
September was connected to completion and rebirth. Its pressure could be felt even when nothing special was happening on the outside. Now we have time to notice resistance, to revisit the directions and reference points with which we are approaching the new year.
What adaptive capacity is
in the video: 09:18
By adaptive capacity I mean the available ability we have to withstand change and uncertainty, to revisit habitual decisions, and to find new ways of acting. At the same time, we preserve ourselves and the ability to recover. For me, that last part became the main reference point.
For many years we have been learning flexibility: going around obstacles, changing the route, adapting to circumstances. And yet this ability has a limit. At some point you want to say, “Little pot, stop cooking,” because you can no longer fit yet another change into your life.
Returning to avoidance and the familiar rut
in the video: 12:23
The other day I caught myself in a familiar avoidance strategy: once again I put off facing the problem until the very last moment. As in the years of self-doubt, I wanted to hide, like a child who announces, “I’m in my little house.” When Maris drew my attention to it, I began to review recent events and saw the bigger picture.
In the first half of the year we traveled a lot, and in the summer we visited Altai and the sea. But September pulled us back into the routine, and only on the weekend did we get out for a walk in Kalyazin. Even after active changes, you can imperceptibly slide back into a well-worn rut, from which you have to pull yourself out all over again.
The four components of adaptive capacity
in the video: 14:41
Adaptive capacity has four components. The first is connected to your reserve of strength: how much time, attention, and physical energy you currently have for mastering something new. Fatigue, irritability, sleep disturbances, and difficulty concentrating can leave you without the resource for the next step.
The second component determines the ability to remain in uncertainty. Can you move when you don’t yet know how everything will end? If you need guarantees first for any decision, the unknown quickly stops movement.
The third component shows the number of available ways to act. You may see a single familiar path or notice other possibilities: simplify the task, ask for help, change the deadlines. Under stress, the space of options often narrows to two frightening outcomes.
The fourth component is connected to the ability to revise the workload in time. Here it’s important to notice at what cost changes come and to allow yourself to give up some tasks. For workaholics, perfectionists, and people with good-girl syndrome, the previous standard easily remains even under much more difficult conditions.
When one component falters, finding a solution is easier. If several falter at the same time, a feeling arises that you are drowning. The very division into understandable parts already helps: instead of solid uncertainty, landmarks appear by which you can see exactly where support is needed.
The mind loves a familiar map of reality and strives to use it again. You walk along a familiar road and may not notice that much around you has changed. The phrase “I’ve already heard this” also easily switches off attention, although current circumstances require looking at the familiar anew.
Situational adjustment and architectural restructuring
in the video: 23:11
Situational adjustment helps when the usual way stops working and you find a replacement for it. Gasoline becomes more expensive or less available, and a person cuts back on trips, switches to a bicycle, plans refueling differently. This is how we adapt a single action to changed circumstances.
But it happens that many such replacements have accumulated, and life itself doesn’t get easier. The analogy with renovation feels close to me here: you bought new curtains, and then saw that for the sake of a new vision you’ll have to tear down walls. The scale of the task changes, and individual cosmetic tweaks no longer help.
The YouTube example and rethinking work on Telegram
in the video: 25:29
When YouTube’s operation in Russia became restricted, we began using other platforms more actively and moved our videos to Kinescope. We had to download the recordings, upload them again, and replace the videos on the websites. The audience got the opportunity to watch the broadcasts, but our workload noticeably increased.
Later it became clear that we had only partially solved the previous task. YouTube also brought new people into the project, and other platforms did not replace this function.
The decline in activity was influenced both by the restrictions and by the fact that we were recording courses and holding broadcasts less often. Now I have to rebuild the work with YouTube and record separate videos for it.
With Telegram, it became necessary to rethink the very approach. People began visiting the channel less often: some read messages once every few days, some only on weekends. This means information needs to be provided in advance and take into account that a person may see a large batch of posts at once.
We revised the formats, removed what wasn’t working, brought back answers to questions and a more lively presence in the channel. Simply switching to yet another messenger didn’t solve the whole task. It was necessary to take into account how people now use the platform and how to maintain connection with them under these conditions.
This example clearly shows why it’s worth clarifying the function of each tool. What is it for, what need does it fulfill, what task does it solve? When you see this task as a whole, it becomes clearer what exactly needs to be restructured.
When you need to rethink your entire way of life
in the video: 29:40
In relationships, you can smooth over one conflict after another, but the overall atmosphere in the family remains the same. In financial matters, you can close individual gaps, but the constant feeling of lack persists. Then it’s worth looking at how this entire area of life is structured.
This is how the need for an architectural restructuring arises. You reconsider the conditions under which everything happens, your rhythm of life, priorities and interaction with others. It’s important that they correspond to your current values and to who you have become.
It’s precisely the scale of the upcoming changes that can give a feeling of powerlessness. You’ve already spent a lot of energy on “patch jobs,” and now you see how much more there is to reconsider. It’s especially hard when such a need arises in several areas at once.
Reserve of strength and resource for changes
in the video: 34:05
The ability to be flexible doesn’t yet mean that you have the strength for restructuring. You understand that it’s time to change jobs, complete some process or learn something new, but all your resource goes into maintaining the existing order. Therefore it’s useful to ask yourself directly: at the expense of what resource am I going to restructure this?
Changes that you didn’t choose yourself are especially difficult. Even habitual actions begin to require additional effort: for one service you need to turn on a VPN, for another turn it off, somewhere you have to use a different browser. These little things repeat every day and also drain your strength.
If there isn’t enough resource, time for replenishing it should appear in your schedule. September showed me this through intense irritation that rolled in almost every week. At some point I decided: after the Friday broadcast I would close my computer and until the end of the weekend I wouldn’t go to any websites or into work.
A weekend in itself doesn’t yet mean recovery. If after a work week you need to catch up on sleep, do laundry, clean up and buy groceries, there may be no room left for rest. Sometimes even two free days turn out to be too few, so pauses have to be deliberately built into the rhythm of life.
Time to exhale should appear in the calendar as concretely as a workout or a meeting. If a major forced restructuring lies ahead, the need for such a reserve increases. A trip also doesn’t always replace rest: it can be an active switch and at the same time require energy.
Precision helps a lot here. Instead of the general “Everything is bad, I have no strength,” it’s important to name exactly what is missing: physical strength, time, or free attention. When you write down a specific deficit, it becomes clearer how it can be replenished.
Uncertainty and the boundaries of a temporary solution
in the video: 42:10
Uncertainty is hard to come to terms with, especially when you’re used to seeking a final solution. But you can acknowledge a solution as temporary and give it clear boundaries. Such a period has a beginning, an end, and a moment when you’ll look at the result.
For example, you can give yourself a week to be between heaven and earth, without rushing the choice. Or set a deadline for testing a new way of working. When we launched our platform, we agreed that testing would run until the end of September: people report issues, and we fix the essentials.
When the deadline ends, you check what came of it and make the next decision. If the option didn’t suit you, you can look for another. It’s important to respect the designated boundary so that a temporary stage doesn’t turn into endless repairs.
A big task also becomes clearer when you break it into intermediate stages and define what a good result will be at each of them. That way the mind sees a manageable stretch and can notice progress. A task stretching years ahead without clear reference points easily evokes a feeling of hopelessness.
Even permission to laze around for a couple of hours or to be in a state of not understanding can be made concrete. Instead of the usual self-criticism, you can give yourself this pause. The entire further path may still remain unclear, but you’ve already moved a small interval into the zone of certainty.
Everyday rituals as a familiar anchor
in the video: 46:34
When there’s a lot of the unknown around, familiar everyday rituals help you feel a sense of certainty. You already know how the morning begins and what simple action follows the previous one. In moments of decline, such a familiar sequence can be very supportive.
In Riga I had my own morning ritual: I would load the dishes into the dishwasher, turn on the coffee machine, make coffee, and step out onto the balcony. Then I’d turn on music and dance a little. I repeated this sequence even when I really didn’t want to get out of bed.
The familiar actions gradually helped me get going, my mood improved, and I could move on. For another person, a similar role might be played by sports or some other familiar rhythm. What matters here is the anchor that already exists in your life and that you can return to.
How to see other ways of acting
in the video: 48:06
When we change a system, it’s very easy to simply carry the old order over into it. The new platform is already here, but you keep doing everything the way it was before. I’ve caught myself and my team doing this: letting go of familiar paths can be surprisingly hard.
As long as you’re looking only from within the old framework, many solutions remain outside of it. That’s why I remind myself of the rule of four scenarios. To the two familiar frightening outcomes, it’s worth adding a good one and even a fantastic one, so you can see more possibilities.
A new way of working with materials on the site
in the video: 49:47
In my work on websites, getting acquainted with vibe coding helped me see other possibilities. Now, on the broadcast page, you can jump to the right moment in the video, read a summary, or choose another convenient way to engage with the material. Once such an option exists, the question arises: why didn’t we do this earlier?
It’s important to notice the very moment when you’ve hit a wall with the one familiar move. After that, you can clarify the goal again, simplify the task, change the timeline, or ask for help. Changing the tool brings results when the new way truly fulfills the function you need.
Revisiting your workload and redistributing responsibilities
in the video: 53:44
Any adaptation uses up resources. If restructuring has been added on top of your previous responsibilities, the overall load has grown, even when you can’t yet see the finished result. During such a period, it’s important to allow yourself to lower the bar and revisit your usual volume of tasks.
You may be used to maintaining perfect order, cooking several dishes, exercising, and studying at the same time. But when you’re unwell or facing a big change, your previous demands on yourself become heavy. In my courses, I constantly remind people of this—people who, even after surgery, try to keep pace with everyone else.
When you’re learning the basics and rebuilding from scratch, some of your other tasks will have to be postponed or simplified. Otherwise, the new will pile on top of the old, and there will be no room left for the rebuilding itself. It’s helpful to look at your life concretely: where are you still demanding your previous level of output from yourself?
Repetitive actions can also be revisited. In online work, neural networks have helped me a lot: if the same operation is performed dozens of times, we look for a tool that lets us organize the process differently. In other areas, you can redistribute responsibilities and negotiate with loved ones.
At home, my family started finishing up and running the dishwasher in the evening. I’d get up in the morning, and the dishes were already clean, and all I had to do was put them away. For me, this small redistribution turned out to be very noticeable: part of my usual morning chore was already done.
How to free up space for a new architecture
in the video: 58:25
If situational adjustments have stopped working, you have to ask broader questions. How will I live and interact with people now? If I were building everything from scratch, how would I do it?
In such a restructuring, all four components are needed at once: strength, the ability to withstand uncertainty, new ways of acting, and a reconsideration of workload. There are still no guarantees, and the scale of changes can be very irritating and frightening. That’s why it’s important to consider what work you are actually doing right now.
I gave myself the summer to ripen for changes. We didn’t run courses or record new cohorts; I traveled a lot. I needed time to detach from the way everything was set up and to see another option.
Sometimes behind a chain of small things, exactly this kind of big inner restructuring is hiding. By analogy with renovation, you’re already changing the layout of walls and windows, even though you started with just the curtains. Here it’s especially important to free up space, accumulate resources, and unload yourself from other tasks.
What to do about the reluctance to act and unclear thoughts
in the video: 1:03:44
When you have to do something you really don’t want to do, it’s worth clarifying your own thoughts about it. What do you need this for, what goal are you solving, what pros and cons do you see? Part of the uncertainty arises because much inside remains unformulated.
Thoughts seem clear while they’re spinning in your head, but when you write them down, gaps are discovered. You begin to see what exactly is stopping you, what the advantages of refusing are, what consequences you fear. Such specificity helps you approach the upcoming action more consciously.
For this, you can use a journal, a mood note, or free writing. I like how people have started writing in the “Klyuchiki” app: they unload from themselves what previously stayed inside. Gradually, the skill of formulating your own thoughts appears.
I also continue to notice where I don’t want to act and where avoidance kicks in. And before moving on to the next idea, I myself need to exhale, finish immersing myself in one task, and give space to another. This pause is important to take into account just as much as the work itself.
Conclusions and the main guideline of adaptability
in the video: 1:10:20
The main guideline for the capacity of adaptability is that you can go through changes while preserving yourself and your ability to recover. If there is too much uncertainty, it’s important to create more understandable moments in everyday life. If the usual options are exhausted, you need to expand the space of ways of acting again.
For a big restructuring, it’s necessary to free up strength and time. The previous volume of tasks, constant tension, and the demand to figure everything out immediately can take up all available space. The opportunity to exhale helps you prepare for what truly requires your participation.
Turning the uncertain into the certain and giving yourself room to exhale
in the video: 1:13:12
For me, the main guideline sounds like this: we turn the uncertain into the certain and give ourselves the opportunity to exhale. This skill is made up of concrete decisions about your time, strength, and workload.
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