Yesterday, on the first day of the transformation seminar «Dance with the Shadow», I invited participants to take a short journey into childhood.
About 90% of them unexpectedly «saw» for themselves, how constricted and shriveled they felt in their parental home. Even though their parents were wonderful and their childhood was happy.
I am not even talking about those who felt different from everyone else and very lonely among close people.
And this is not surprising!
No matter how hard our parents tried to give us the best, in the process of upbringing they proceeded from their own idea of what might be useful in their child’s future life…
If they themselves lacked something in their own childhood, they tried to fulfill it through their own children. Not always taking into account that the child has their own feelings, their own path, which may differ greatly from their life experience.
As a result, when you first look at your childhood with a «sober» eye, from the perspective of a new worldview and self-awareness, the initial reaction sounds something like this: «How could they have done this to me?!»
A powerful wave of indignation and claims against the imperfection of those you considered your idols in childhood is born inside…
If you are at this stage now, stop for a minute and look at everything from a different angle! From the point of view of your SOUL!
Your parents are NOT people who were imposed on you against your WILL.
They are souls whom YOU YOURSELF chose so that they would perfectly play the role of your parents.
Be assured that you chose them for a very long time and very carefully!
The soul of an 18-month-old child is “near” the parents (more precisely, near one of them, to whom it comes), observing their relationship and deciding for itself how suitable they are for fulfilling the task it sets for itself.
And only after 1.5 years does the moment of conception occur. Think about it: is such a period NOT sufficient to see the whole “inside story”?
Moreover, the unembodied soul, whose body is forming in the mother’s womb, has almost 9 months to decide whether it is ready to become part of this particular family.
If it is not ready, it can change its decision at any moment and leave (physically — a miscarriage, for example).
Therefore, no matter what happened to you in childhood, no matter how happy or unhappy you felt there, all of it WAS PLANNED BY YOU!
And now the question: WHY did you choose these particular parents?
What qualities for adult life did you acquire, thanks to all the clashes with them?
What did they teach you?
In my time, I pondered this question for a long time in exactly this vein.
And finally, I came to the understanding that my dad, with his ability to command and subjugate everyone and everything, which I fought against throughout my teenage years, because of which I ran away 2000 km to study in the Urals right after finishing school, gave me the invaluable gift of facing any challenge head-on, without hiding and without trying to be someone else.
My mom taught me the deepest compassion for the problems and life’s vicissitudes of other people. She always sacrificed herself to provide help and support to others.
Along with this, as a sign of protest against my parents’ behavior, I learned to stop in time and feel the line that is better not to cross… I learned to set MY boundary, protecting my own space and my time.
Which is very relevant to my current lifestyle.
And what did your parents teach you?
How to befriend your shadow and gain access to your hidden energy? This, and much more, you will learn at the seminar “Dance with the Shadow“.