It is no secret that in the Keys of Mastery project, we view any questions from the perspective of spirituality, metaphysics, and energy. This article is no exception.
I identify three basic concepts on which relationships are built: with loved ones, with colleagues, relatives, friends, and acquaintances. And I invite you to familiarize yourself with them, try to apply them to your life, and see how these principles are realized in your own experience.
Three Basic Concepts in Relationships
Basic Concept #1 — Making Contracts at the Soul Level
Before incarnating on Earth, we, as souls, carefully plan all the experiences we wish to have during our incarnation.
We prescribe absolutely everything, the smallest details, all possible potentials that will help us pass or assimilate a particular lesson.
For example, your soul, before incarnation, decides that it wants to fully experience what self-love is.
To feel self-love and learn to express it, a counteracting method is required — the absence of love in life. Situations will appear in your life time and again that will help draw your attention to the fact that you do not love yourself, that you put other people first, do everything for others while denying yourself.
And then people will be drawn into your life who will help you pass this lesson, demonstrate and show you that it is time to pay attention to yourself, shift the focus of attention from the external world to the internal world, and finally understand that you deserve the very best. And this begins with self-love.
Thus, situations are planned, and possibly people who may participate in this.
One can imagine it as a tree, at the root of which is the concept of “self-love.” From it extends a trunk — situations where you do not love yourself, and many branches and leaves that show the potentials of how this can develop in life.
It contains all, absolutely all the people you have met in life, or those you could have met but did not.
Does this mean that everything in our lives is predetermined, that we live according to a script we cannot change? No.
Because only potentials are prescribed, and whether you use these opportunities in life or not depends solely on you and your choice.
Moreover, much will depend on the speed at which you progress. Some people need decades to finally begin to understand that it is enough to humiliate themselves, enough to please others, that you are the most important thing in this life.
And for others, it takes only one experience, perhaps quite rough and harsh, to understand and quickly switch. It all depends on the speed of your development, on how and to what extent you are able to engage with a situation and work through it.
Therefore, if at the very beginning, in the early years, you passed this lesson and learned it, then the potentials that were planned, as if it were to last for many years, will no longer be realized.
Then you already have the opportunity to choose other situations, other experiences that you want to have in life.
It is important to understand that we ourselves, as a soul before incarnation, make contracts, sign agreements with certain people that they will play a particular role in our lives: “if someday I find myself in such and such a situation and I need such and such, please do this.” This is what the contract looks like.
“And if I don’t pass this lesson, don’t accept this situation, don’t gain the feeling and significance of needing to love myself, or experience a feeling of rejection, a state of love, joy, and pleasure from life (the contract can be anything), then you will appear in my life at that moment and let me know — you can overcome this.”
And we make an insane number of such contracts.
From a human perspective, contracts can be positive or negative. On the soul level, there is no such concept as positive or negative; we give color to this or that event. Everything is experience.
See also: How the soul plans life lessons. Does everything depend on your choice?
Basic Concept #2 — all people are connected to each other on an energetic level
Now that the sensitive abilities of most people are heightened, compared to what it was 20-30-40 years ago, it is no longer new to us that we read the emotional state of other people, and the energetic interconnection with people is felt quite acutely.
If you have ever communicated with a person, energetic threads have already been stretched between you.
Depending on the level at which the communication took place, these energetic threads connect different energy centers.
Relationships between people can be established at the level of the root chakra, relationships can arise at the level of the second chakra, which is responsible for creative abilities and sexuality.
At the level of the solar plexus chakra — our inner will, desire, at the level of the heart chakra, which is responsible for anxiety, nervousness, as well as for sincere love.
At the level of the throat center, which is associated with self-expression, at the level of the third eye chakra, which is associated with intuition and insight, and at the level of the crown chakra, which is responsible for connection with the cosmos.
With some people, we can connect only at the level of one chakra. For example, at the level of the solar plexus chakra, where one person will have a strong will, be a manipulator, and the second will be weak-willed.
This happens in any type of relationship, not only at the level of family and romantic relationships. Such connections are established with everyone. These same principles can be applied to your colleagues, loved ones, friends, and relatives.
In romantic, love relationships, chakra connections can occur on several levels. If the merging happens across all energy centers, such a union is called a soulmate union or a twin flame union.
See also: How the merging of partners by chakras occurs
Basic Concept #3 — Like Attracts Like
Everything that is inside is broadcast outward. According to this principle, we attract various situations, in this case, people.
If you feel lonely, believe you do not deserve love, that no one loves you, all of this creates a certain energetic vibration that, like a radio station, is transmitted from your body into the external world. Whatever vibration you send outward, you receive back.
Having sent such a message to the universe, you automatically attract into your life a person with exactly the same qualities and characteristics. Like attracts like.
This will be a person who also lacks love and attention, who feels lonely. What do you think can be born as a result of such a union?
I call such people semi-finished products because they have not learned to love. Perhaps their parents did not know how to love, how to express love, or simply rarely did so, failing to give the child proper attention in childhood.
Such people develop an emptiness, a vacuum in their hearts. And this emptiness, in order for them to feel comfortable and confident, must be constantly filled with love.
Such people are prone to quickly entering relationships, and during the dating period, love will be demonstrated to the maximum: beautiful courtship, flowers, gifts, etc. And it may seem that you are getting what you ordered. Two people at the peak of their feelings give each other an insane amount of love, and that hole in the heart, that emptiness, gets filled.
But what happens a few months later, when feelings begin to cool slightly?
When you get used to the person being in your life, many moments become automatic, and you simply stop paying attention to them.
It is impossible to always be enthusiastic and pour yourself out. Inside, it is empty; the energy of love has filled the breach for a while, and the person begins to feel again that they are receiving less attention.
They no longer have enough of the flow of love that their partner provides. For example, if a person works a lot or is working on some project, they physically have less time to devote to their partner. Then the feeling of a lack of love reappears, and they start rushing around in search of where to find this love and attention, but now on the side.
Inside, it is empty; they begin to attract various kinds of people into their lives: chatting on forums, in groups, starting fleeting relationships in various clubs, bars among like-minded people. Moreover, this is done completely unconsciously, just to fill that emptiness.
This is just one example of how our worldview influences our lives and the kind of people who appear in them.
This is not only about love, but also about respect, self-confidence, self-worth, and the ability to express your thoughts and feelings. Everything we have inside is transmitted outward and attracts people into our lives who help us see it.
But if we sharply change our perception of the world, if we begin to intensively engage in self-development and self-improvement, a powerful quantum leap occurs in our consciousness, a transition to another level of development. And the person who was with us may remain at the same level.
This often happens in families and relationships where one person suddenly starts asking questions like “who am I” and “where am I going,” while the other partner considers it foolishness or nonsense. One partner is very materialistic, while the other, though previously materialistic, begins to take an interest in something more subtle, more spiritual. During such a period, strong misunderstanding can arise.
With the person you once attracted and who completely suited you, the connection suddenly disappears, and common interests are lost. You have different tasks; you have moved to another level of development of your consciousness. This most often happens with women.