Have you ever experienced fear or mental resistance before joining a transformational course?
Or did you not understand why certain symptoms of malaise “unexpectedly” appeared, especially on key dates, cosmic events (eclipses, new moons)?
In this article, we will discuss the cases in which fear of transformation, fear of change arises, and how to minimize it.
Three reasons for fear of transformation
I have identified three main reasons why I myself was afraid of the results of transformation.
1. Fear of losing your environment, loved ones
When a person begins to develop personally or spiritually, their old environment falls away. Completely or partially, but the fact that it changes is a fact.
People who choose the path of transformation know this. There is an environment that falls away naturally, communication fades from both sides.
But what about loved ones: husband, wife, children, parents?
Fear arises that there will be too large a gap in vibrations between you and your loved ones. After all, we do not know what the goals of the soul of a person close to us are in certain circumstances.
What if they don’t want to change? What will happen to them? Will relationships worsen? Will there be a breakup with a spouse? And what about the children? Such or similar questions may arise in you.
But this is the ego being afraid. Our small human self is afraid of losses, it is attached to material things, to people. And it does not want to let go.
Because it does not see the perspective. It is like looking at a situation from the first floor, not from a bird’s-eye view.
At the end of the article, you will receive a simple solution that will help you accept changes more easily.
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2. Misunderstanding what happens to the body during transformation
The transformation process occurs on several levels: physical, mental, emotional, spiritual. It can affect one level or several.
Read more about this process in the article 4 levels of transformation.
If a person has consciously gone through such a process once, they know that sometimes transformation occurs through pain, for example emotional pain.
But often this process is also accompanied by physical symptoms: headache, exacerbation of chronic diseases. Then resistance arises from the mind, the ego, because this relationship cannot be verified or seen.
Fear may also arise due to misunderstanding the causes of ailments.
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3. Fear of the unknown
Another reason for the fear of transformation is what will happen after the changes.
You understand the responsibility and do not know what will follow the process you have initiated. Only your soul knows this.
You also do not know what you yourself will be like. Whether you will like that new version of yourself.
When you work on acquiring specific qualities or skills, you clearly know what you want.
But when you declare that you accept yourself and choose a new life, a new reality, and a new self, letting go of all your old beliefs and fears, you get to know yourself anew.
You do not yet know your new, true self. And you do not know what you will like. This may be a reason for the fear of change.
But if you have declared your intention to change holistically (this is not about upgrading specific skills), the process cannot be reversed.
Otherwise, you will experience constant discomfort, because sitting on two chairs at once is not very comfortable. And in the end, you will have to choose and take a step forward.
See also: Two ways of transformation. Which one do you choose more often?
Under what conditions will changes proceed favorably?
Two necessary conditions for change
Openness and absolute trust in higher powers — these are the two conditions for change.
Open yourself to change, allow your higher self, your heart, not your ego, to guide the process.
Trust that everything happening in your life is for your benefit.
Of course, this is not easy, because the mind, limited by past experience and beliefs, makes you resist.
Therefore, to cultivate this trust, the mind must be trained.
Provide the mind with the necessary information about the mechanics and algorithms of the ongoing transformational processes.
For example, when you know and remind yourself that when overflowing with energy, the body may slow down and “go into hibernation,” the mind stops “sounding the alarm” and worrying that something is wrong with the body.
Read more in the article: 5 stages of cosmic energy integration.