Surely, many of you are familiar with the situation when you repeat to yourself over and over: “Well, how could you! You seem like a smart woman, but you got yourself into a mess again!” or “You’re a grown woman, but you act like a little child!”.
This is how the inner voice called the Vicious Critic manifests itself in our lives.
And no matter what you do, it never likes anything; there is always a reason to scold or criticize you.
“Everyone is normal, but YOU?!”
And then follows a long list of what, in its opinion, you should have, but it’s not there.
There are many examples of the vicious critic’s statements; thankfully, the participants of the women’s program describe their dialogues with this character without hesitation.
But I would like you not only to recognize this part of you but also to understand where indulging the terrible critic living inside you leads.
You remember that any thought or emotion instantly sends a certain signal outward, which, by the law of attraction, attracts a specific kind of energy into your life.
What kind of signal does your vicious critic send outward time and time again?
I DON’T DESERVE!
And then the list can be long:
- I don’t deserve love.
- I don’t deserve respect.
- I don’t deserve good relationships.
- I don’t deserve decent pay, after all.
I cannot deserve. Because I don’t measure up to certain standards. Because I can’t be ideal and perfect.
And a vicious circle arises:
I am not perfect, which means I sometimes make mistakes. -> The vicious critic kicks in: “Well, you’re such an I…!” — > The signal “I don’t deserve” goes out to the Universe — > In response, a situation confirming imperfection is attracted.
And now a question for those who have recognized their inner critic:
Who defines these STANDARDS?
Who creates the reference point that allows the inner voice to compare YOU and your BEHAVIOR?
What is it comparing to?
To a certain collective image, including ideas formed at different stages of life, of what you should be.
Well, for example, what a GOOD mother should be like.
Try sitting down and writing down all the qualities that distinguish a good mother, in your understanding, from a bad one.
Then re-read this list, and you will see for yourself that, TRY AS YOU MIGHT, you cannot live up to this role.
Which means, once again, your Vicious Critic will have the right to sing its favorite song: “Well, you’re such an I…!”
Is it worth spending years of your life trying to fit into this collective image that you can never live up to?
Maybe it’s time to show determination and SHUT the Vicious Critic up, saying: I DESERVE! I AM WORTHY! RIGHT NOW! WITHOUT ANY CONDITIONS!