We often get questions from our subscribers about how to choose one thing or another, how to find a way out of a situation when you only see a bad and a worse scenario.
We are used to choosing between one and the other, either this or that. That’s how our brain is wired, and in this regard, it can and should be retrained.
Why not choose both if two options seem tempting and promising? Or why are you considering a choice between something bad and something even worse? Maybe there are other options?
Read on to learn how to switch into a state where you can see the multitude of choices.
A Bad Option and an Even Worse One. How to Make a Choice
Often people choose a bad option and an even worse one, vacillating between them. This is the so-called hopeless situation. No matter which way you go, the result is unsatisfactory.
To see other options, you need to expand, and to expand your consciousness, you need to raise your vibration. When you are in an expanded state of consciousness, you see other options.
But then the question arises: do you believe you can take a better path? And here the question of self-worth surfaces: “am I worthy?”, as well as the question of trust in the universe: “is that even possible?”
From the perspective of higher forces, the number of possible scenarios is not two or three, but countless. We exist in human form and look at everything through the prism of our beliefs, which often makes the multitude of choices inaccessible. A lot also depends on whether you are in a resourceful state, that is, in a state of awareness.
Your higher aspects, as it were, place crystals of wisdom along your path. Where there is a question, where a situation arises, there are also countless solutions. And it is only up to you which solution you will see and which will be hidden from your view due to your own beliefs.
Psychologically, by default, we are tuned to negativity, to a negative turn of events, so we are used to generating a bad option and a worse one, investing in them emotionally and energetically, and choosing between them.
The task is to consciously learn to switch from this destructive pattern to other, more favorable options. If a multitude of options doesn’t fit in your head or you still find it difficult to see, imagine, or envision them, start small.
In addition to the two worst options, imagine two more: a normal one and a great one.
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The Practice of 4 Scenarios
Take any situation or question you want to resolve, and look at how many possible outcomes you’ve considered from the outside.
Write down all 4 possible outcomes: what will happen in a bad scenario, in the worst-case scenario, and what will unfold in a good scenario, a satisfactory development, and in a truly great one.
Moreover, the good and great options must be realistic, involving your active participation, not manna from heaven, as if everything happens on its own and you have nothing to do with it.
Once you’ve done this, answer the question: which of these options do you invest your energy and emotions in most often?
I’ll tell you ahead of time that it’s usually the first or second option; otherwise, you wouldn’t have questions about how to resolve the situation.
If you’re investing in the worst-case scenario, then why are you surprised that the situation isn’t resolving, that everything unfolds not the way you want?
You want everything to be good, but you direct all your attention and energy toward the opposite result.
Why aren’t you investing in the best or at least a good outcome? What’s stopping you? A lack of belief in yourself, that you don’t deserve it? No trust in higher powers? Or do you have some secondary benefits?
Take the time to honestly answer these questions for yourself, dig deep within. If you conscientiously conduct this self-analysis, you will see the truth, and at least 50% of your issue will be resolved.
When you’re thinking about your question and catch yourself dwelling on the worst-case scenario, try doing the opposite—remember the other, opposite ones.
Engage your feelings and imagination there: how would you want to feel if everything happened in the best possible way?
And these are just 4 options, with which you can look at many things more broadly. When writing out the best options, don’t limit yourself; supplement them with phrases like “this and even better,” “the best possible,” and so on.
Why you choose where you can take the maximum. Rejecting the “either-or” choice
The habit of choosing either one thing or another is a paradigm. Quite a lot of people live within such rigid frameworks, they lack vision and perspective.
For example, a woman is torn between work and home, family. She doesn’t know what to choose. It seems to her that if she throws herself into work, there will be no time left for housekeeping, family, and children. If she doesn’t work, then how will she live? And so she dithers between two fires, takes on small side jobs, there isn’t enough money, but at least she’s with her family. The situation doesn’t satisfy her.
This is a clear case of the “either-or” paradigm, either work or family.
To resolve the situation, you need to look at it from a broader perspective, to expand your consciousness in general. Spiritual practices can help with this, but that’s not everything.
Taking the maximum of both is sometimes hindered by a lack of responsibility, or a disbelief that you can handle it all.
Who’s stopping you from imagining a job that satisfies you morally, allows you to earn enough money to cover not just basic needs but much more, plus leaves time for yourself and your family—meaning a flexible or free schedule?
You can also write down other parameters that are important to you.
Some people don’t do this because
- first, they live in limitations (where do you find such a job? does it even exist?) — this is “cured” by expanding your perspective of perception and consciousness;
- second, there is a fear of confronting beliefs about yourself (I don’t deserve this, they won’t hire me) — we work on recognizing your own worth;
- and then there’s responsibility, which was already mentioned above.
You can take any situation, regarding relationships, self-realization, and so on, and the solution will be roughly the same. You’ll run up against either your self-worth, or the fear of taking responsibility for your own life, or both together.
To give up this paradigm, where you choose something that isn’t the best, you need to have a certain amount of courage, but behind this there will always be growth, development, a new level, and an expanded perspective.
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What is your “either-or” paradigm? Have you learned to switch to multi-optional choice?
This article partially uses answers from Alena Starovoytova to questions from participants of the Keys of Mastery Telegram channel.