The old goals no longer work, and the search for purpose has stopped providing answers.
It is time to act — to embody who you are in real deeds, words, and relationships.
If you feel a loss of meaning, fatigue from endless self-analysis, or sense that familiar landmarks no longer inspire you, this article will help you conduct an internal “audit,” identify your true values, and begin creating life from a state of authenticity, rather than from old patterns.
Why now is the time to act
Stop trying to remember who you are
Stop trying to remember who you are. It is time to embody who you are — in words, deeds, and daily choices.
All these years, whatever we were doing, we were indeed trying to remember who I am, what I am, why I am.
This process is not very long in time; the task is not difficult — to bring yourself, your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual body into such a vibrational state where you remember, and in fact, this knowledge pours out from your heart.
You simply needed to enter a state where the key fits the keyhole, and at that moment, unpacking begins inside.
Instead, many went into the mental realm. Just search the internet for how many various courses there are on the topic of finding purpose.
They try to answer with their minds. But in reality, the key is in the heart.
Now is the time to live, the time to embody, not to run around searching for an answer to the question: who am I, what am I, why am I, and so on.
See also Four myths about purpose
Why old goals are not being achieved
Old desires, old goals, old wants no longer motivate because there is no vibrational match with where you are going.
But you won’t find new ones by sitting and doing nothing. No one will bring them to you on a silver platter either.
So step by step — there is no other way. I have repeatedly used the metaphor that we stand at a crossroads, waiting for some signal or hint — to go right, left, or straight ahead.
Because inside us, at the level of the left hemisphere, a very powerful programmatic script is written — there is point A, there is point B, and perhaps there are some intermediate points, but it is a linear route.
The left hemisphere, where everything is collected and encapsulated, including linear time and linear sequence, simply cannot digest it. The mind simply does not have the information or data that would allow it to step beyond the boundaries and see — here it is, multidimensionality, nonlinearity, when you can go backward and end up ahead.
You can take the longest route and arrive earlier, because in our 4D space, time is already a subjective parameter and operates completely differently.
- What brought me into a state of joy today?
- What drove me today?
- What evokes a feeling of awe?
You must follow such impulses — there is no other way. But there will be no ready-made answers.
You take a step while standing at the crossroads, and as soon as you take it, paths and forks appear from the fog. You can freeze again, stand, choose, because there are no guarantees, you can’t see what lies ahead, but then you will remain in the same place.
You take another step — some path becomes clearer, and so on.
The time of embodying who you are
“The way forward is no longer in remembering who you are, but in fully realizing and embodying that very who you are.”
Lauren Gorga
If in response to this phrase your brain freezes: “Oh, I have no answer to who I am,” send a fiery greeting to your mind and start walking, trusting your heart.
Linearity is gone. If you recall the events that have happened in your life, you will notice that the path from point A to point B is often a very indirect route.
You were going somewhere with one goal, suddenly along the way you saw an announcement, a banner, a billboard, you turned, and a new path began.
I have walked like this my whole life, my whole life I have advocated for clear, structured steps, and my whole life, through the method of adventures, I have been carried somewhere, completely different from what was intended.
I have completely stopped conceiving or planning anything, because it never goes the way you wanted, the way you imagined in your mind, because you are led by a completely different place and other entities that we call the Higher Plan.
But many still, if expectations do not match, experience disappointment, control, or hypercontrol kicks in.
This is the time of embodying who you are in reality, in real conversations, in real actions, in real creations. The time for sitting in searches and reflections is over. Now is the time for action, and not just any action, but where you shine.
See also: Synchronizing your desires with service, or Why it is important to follow a soul impulse
How to embody who you are
Beacons of Light
We have accumulated many stories over these years, since the recent years have been turbulent, when people are suddenly thrown into situations where they need to shine.
They go to relatives somewhere, where everything howls and flashes, and you stand there and shine.
We called ourselves Lighthouses of Light back then. But what is a lighthouse for when the sun is shining and there is a light breeze, with calm seas? What is it needed for?
This echoes how the transtheoretical model of change describes the action stage: a person not just realizes — they already live from a new point.
A lighthouse is needed to be where the sea is stormy, where the waves are off the charts, to send your little ray of hope in the darkness of gloom that there is land here.
This is indeed a very capacious metaphor. So shine, and not just shine, but manifest what you have learned about yourself over these years, who you are, what your values are, what your main meanings are, whether you have principles in life.
This is important because much has changed over these years.
First, you look outward, everything about them matters to you. Then you turn inward, heal some of your traumas, integrate your shadow aspects, reach a state of balance and harmony.
And during this time, along this path, you cannot help but change. You feel yourself differently, and you feel the people around you differently, and you give up some things because you understand that these are not your desires, but imposed ones.
See also The Birth of a New Reality from Within. How to Be a Lighthouse
Your principles, values, self-perceptions. Cross-checking with reality
Determine what your principles are today, what your core values are, the ones you will stand by to the end because they matter, what is acceptable and unacceptable to you, what you have recently learned about yourself, and how relevant your vision and self-image are.
In our courses, we have questionnaires that make you think. We often use them to check against reality.
10-20% of people have a very outdated self-image, refusing to accept and acknowledge the reality that actually exists.
But acceptance is the first step. Accepting yourself as you are, right now, at this moment: “Okay, I have no money,” “okay, I have no family,” “okay, my health is what it is.” This is an important point.
You need to conduct such an inventory, such a revision, otherwise life will keep throwing situations at you that force you to look at yourself.
This is not a one-time revision — it is a living process. Values change along with you. Every few months, it is worth returning to this question: does the way I live match who I am now? Not who I was a year ago — but who I am right now. This question does not require long reflection. It requires honesty.
Don’t be “expired”
We look too much at others: at our husband, at our children, at relatives, at those around us. But the world begins with me, and that is important to me.
This reality check is important, not the search for purpose or anything else — but so that your current version, on the mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical levels, is current, today’s, and not expired.
A lot of interesting things happen, but for them to happen, you need not to be expired.
When you fall into a state of losing meaning because the carrot that always warmed you stops being desirable, you begin to see that it is just a carrot, and I don’t want it.
But you held on so tightly, it was so valuable, that when those landmarks fall, it becomes difficult. This is a state of deepest disappointment, when you have been walking for a very long time, but it turns out you didn’t need it at all, and there is no joy from it.
Such moments provide an opportunity for a review.
You could, of course, instead stand still, shuffle your feet, and wait for something, when all you need to do is take stock of what you are taking with you and what you are leaving behind and letting go.
See also The process of bringing the unconscious into awareness. The need for revisions and tracking your progress
Creating reality based on your values
This is how we begin to build a new world.
But build it from what? From what you are. Who you are is the main parameter.
Radiate from the heart — here it is, my truth, here are my values, this is the most precious thing I have in life, and I generously share it with others.
Here are my main meanings — that for which I wake up in the morning. Here is my fire, the desire to live, the desire to see what tomorrow will bring, to see what the world will be like in 10 years, when, finally, these Heavens on Earth are manifested, and people, finally, are friends and brothers, not beasts and wolves.
But manifest this not in dreams and fantasies, but through actions in reality. Small actions, small acts of kindness: supported someone here, said a word there, helped with ten rubles here, and so on.
And it is good when these small acts of kindness are aligned with your vision of what you want for yourself and for the world.
Have you noticed how old goals have stopped inspiring you — and what comes to take their place?