During broadcast #19 Free Topic. Q&A, a comment appeared: “I don’t feel like a real woman, I do self-acceptance practices, but I still can’t accept myself.”
In this article, we’ll figure out why the practices aren’t helping and how to accept the woman within you.
What rejecting femininity leads to
First, I’d like to remind you that rejecting yourself as a woman, denying your femininity, leads to serious diseases of the female organs, the reproductive system, accelerated aging, and early menopause.
If we look at the psychosomatics of these diseases, for example, from Louise Hay’s books, we’ll see that they are all linked to rejecting yourself as a woman and harboring deep resentments toward the opposite sex.
Illness doesn’t appear out of nowhere; if you carry these emotions for a long time, the disease can make itself known.
See also: The Spiritual Cause of Illness. What Your Diseases Reflect
Two key elements in accepting yourself as a woman
It’s not just about the practices; it’s about how you feel, and most importantly, how you react. You need to start with perception and focus — 2 key elements.
Rejecting yourself as a woman consists of many small life situations, starting from childhood, where a trauma may have occurred. And depending on the situation you find yourself in now, that frozen little character from childhood, adolescence, or an older age reacts.
For example, when you were ridiculed, or simply the gender-based stuff, when a boy is coddled, but a girl is supposed to be a helper. A boy just shouldn’t cry; everything else is fine. Mothers fuss over them like hens, but from a girl, as she grows up, the demands are completely different. After all — she’s a future homemaker, so come on, help out.
Many roots of trauma lie in childhood. So look at what triggers you now. If you find roots in childhood, shower your inner little girl with love. There are plenty of meditations and practices on this topic available now.
Take the free introductory course “Activation of Unconditional Love through the Chakras” — 7 meditations for unconditional self-love and healing (to take the course, you need to log into your personal account).
Self-acceptance. From practices to applying them in life
Practices certainly help you accept yourself as a woman. But then comes the stage of applying them in life.
Here’s how it happens. You do the practices, and right away in life you encounter a situation where you’re offered the chance to anchor the state “I value and respect myself.”
This is likely an unpleasant situation where you’re given the opportunity to show your new self. If you act according to your usual script, your awareness switches off in that moment, and you go on autopilot.
Autopilot, in this case, is what the mind controls, which has those old, worn-out records — programs — loaded into it.
But there’s only one way out: step by step, put the new paradigm into practice, change it to an equal but opposite one.
You didn’t accept yourself before, but now you do, putting yourself first. Your employer offers you something to do, and you ask yourself: “Can I do this, do I want to, does it feel good to me?” Maybe you had your own plans. And as scary as it might be to object or speak up about it. There are many everyday examples you can give here.
If you failed this stage and went back to the old scenario, write down how you will act next time, based on the fact that you value yourself as a woman.
Carry these notes with you and re-read them periodically, because it’s impossible to rewrite your reaction in one go.
The next time you find yourself in a situation where you need to show your worth, you won’t have that inner confusion anymore, that question of what to answer or how to behave—you’ll already have a ready set of options.
We’ve been acting differently for too many years; it’s hard to rewire a person’s hormonal system and reactions, so it takes time, awareness, and discipline.
See also: How to Realize Your Feminine Worth
A Woman’s Worth from the Perspective of Metaphysics and Spirituality
If we talk about a woman’s worth on a broader scale, then from the perspective of the ascended masters, the capabilities of the female body are many times greater than those of the male body.
Women have the potential to give birth to a child not only on the physical plane but also on the metaphysical one, giving birth to creations, to life itself in a deeper, broader sense.
The female body, no matter what century it incarnates in, is more finely tuned to the level of creation. Men are in a sense deprived; they don’t have the capabilities that women have, although from a physical standpoint, this has been debatable lately.
What helps you accept yourself? Have you ever experienced a state of not accepting yourself as a woman?
See also: Self-Worth and Self-Esteem. What’s the Difference Between Them