Many of us still have numerous frameworks in our heads that limit our perception and decisions.
Sometimes what seems like an insurmountable problem to one person, another can answer immediately. This is because everyone has their own prism through which they view the world.
I’ve already talked dozens of times about how to work with limitations, and more than one article has been written on the subject.
Today, using specific examples and questions from broadcast participants, we’ll look at some limitations, and also give a few universal recommendations for changing your thinking.
What Makes It Difficult to Change Your Thinking and Get Rid of Limitations
Question: “How do I get rid of the limitation that money only comes through hard work?”
In short, the answer would be: write down all your limitations on this matter, change them to the opposite, and try to apply them in life.
But in this case, when you are limited from all sides, it is a specific type of thinking that you cannot break through.
Have you heard the phrase that affirmations don’t work? I, for example, believe they are unnecessary. It’s useless to constantly mutter some phrase if you have no personal experience associated with it. You simply don’t believe in it because there’s nothing to relate it to.
Imagine there’s a box in your head containing certain rules, a set of laws by which you live. And even if these rules don’t suit you, no matter how hard you try to get out, the bars and rods hold the box very tightly.
So no matter what you do, no matter what affirmations you say, it stays that way; these bars, this box, need to be broken through.
On one hand, you can break through with the help of intense energy. Often at the end of some broadcast, a question comes up that triggers a flow in me, and it sweeps the person away.
I don’t control this process. I can only leave the broadcast earlier, but there are moments when I can speak or stay silent, and I choose to speak. Because in this way, it knocks out blocks in the person.
And in parallel, it affects everyone present nearby.
On the other hand, when you are on your own, to change your thinking, it is important to expand your consciousness.
See also: Expanding the Level of Consciousness as a Basic Aspect of Transformation
Three Tips for Expanding Consciousness
Read books, and not just any books, but those that show a different perspective.
Even if that book has just one phrase, one single new thought, it’s worth its weight in gold.
On our website, there are several articles with book selections; we recently created a bookshelf with recommended literature. Just know why you are reading it and don’t forget to apply it, because knowledge without application doesn’t work nowadays.
Meditate regularly. Meditations are aimed at expanding consciousness. On our Keys of Mastery platform, there is a huge number of group meditations posted; choose the ones that suit your topic. There are meditations for overcoming limitations and for expanding consciousness.
When you expand your horizons and consciousness, you develop a different perspective on a situation, you look at it in a new way. You bring new things, new concepts, new reasoning, and new reflections into your worldview.
Even if you have nowhere to apply them at the moment, the seed will be planted. The time will come when you remember and act in a new way. You will already have completely different feelings.
The third level is communication. Communicate with people who are experts in the topic where you need expansion. Absorb it with every fiber of your being; through comparison and contrast, it becomes very noticeable and clear.
For example, when I was unhealed in the area of money, I was very surprised by the habits of people who were not rich or wealthy, yet allowed themselves things that, in principle, I could also afford, but for some reason didn’t. Because there were limitations sitting inside me.
See also: Expanding Consciousness. 4 Techniques for Every Day
Breaking Through Limitations Related to Relationships and Divorce
Comment from a broadcast participant: “I have a limitation about getting a divorce. Dad doesn’t live with us, but there’s some hang-up inside me saying I shouldn’t do it.”
Sit down and write out why you aren’t doing it, what your benefit is from this state. That’s the first question. And my second favorite question is, why do I love myself so little?
You could already be building completely new relationships, living in happiness and joy with a beloved man. Why aren’t you doing that? What part of you believes you don’t deserve it, and where did these hang-ups come from?
A common answer: “Then I’ll be considered a divorced woman, and with a child too. Who would want me?”
When I was alone with my child, it was the richest time. We chose who we would let into our lives. We chose whether we wanted to let that person into our magical space or not. The thought never crossed my mind in the opposite direction.
So, get in the right mindset and write down all the reasons why you aren’t doing it. At some point, you’ll enter a state of flow, your subconscious will open up, and the true reasons will start pouring out of you. You’ll learn a lot of interesting things about yourself and for yourself.
Another common reason is the fear of getting a divorce.
But is it better to stay sitting in these circumstances? You could sit like that for 10 or even 20 years, and nothing will change from it. There will still be a court case later; the only question is, how much time are you willing to allocate for yourself on this?
Write down for yourself why you entered this relationship, what you wanted from it.
Love is not always the motive. Women often enter relationships with a motive of security or a motive related to financial support. Love might be there, but not as the primary motive.
After I separated from my child’s father, it was one of the best periods of freedom and independence in my life. For the first time in a long time, I felt how much money I was earning. It was bliss because I could spend it all on myself. I remember my daughter and I went and bought furniture right away.
I found myself completely free, no one telling me what to do — you want to wear makeup, you wear it; you want to go without cosmetics, you go; you want heels, you wear them; you want flats, you wear them. It was such a thrill, such freedom, I was rejoicing.
Some women have a part that strives to latch onto a man or a child for good. This is a “hungry” part that has been running around searching for a long time, finally found someone, and clung to them — for life.
But the most stable thing in life is change.
If you yourself lack flexibility and fluidity, life will break your grip, no matter what you’re holding onto (a job, a man you’ve long since couldn’t stand but keep around). Life harshly knocks out whatever you cling to.
For the universe, any of your choices are good.
Your clinging reveals your point of self-doubt — your “I don’t know”:
- I don’t know how to live with this;
- I don’t know how I’ll raise a child;
- I don’t know where I’ll get money;
- I don’t know if I’ll have new love in my life;
- I don’t know anything about myself;
- I don’t know anything at all.
Since your “I don’t know” scares you, you keep clinging to what has already died.
See also: Divorce Through the Lens of Spirituality. How to Get Through It While Preserving Yourself
Breaking Down Limitations Related to Daily Life
Question: “And if I don’t like doing cleaning, washing dishes, and so on, should I also write down what’s behind that?”
You don’t even need to write anything down here — I can tell you straight away: lack of money is behind it.
I don’t like cleaning, washing dishes, or cooking, so I don’t do it. I hired a woman who handles all that, and these issues stopped bothering me altogether.
It’s a matter of money. If you have the money and the opportunity but haven’t done it, then sit down and write it out. There will be a ton of limitations there.
I proved this to my relatives who came to visit. “Oh, you live so nicely, I wish I could live like that too.”
I said, “Why can’t you?” They listed a bunch of excuses for why it couldn’t be done. I found an answer to every single excuse. A week after they left, they wrote to me that they’d found a woman to clean once a week and cook twice a week.
One example of limitations: “How can I let a stranger into my home?” Find someone who isn’t a stranger — find someone you can trust. If you can’t trust anyone, look for a way to protect yourself, to make an arrangement.
A second story about food: “You can’t eat out all the time, you have to cook at home, but there’s no time or you don’t feel like it.” Nowadays, it’s easy to find someone who will cook anything you want — whether it’s vegetarian cuisine or Ayurvedic, anything is possible.
Everything is possible within the reality we are moving toward. Everything around you is created by you — you can write and create something completely different, anything at all.
What non-obvious limitations have you found in yourself? How did you get rid of them, and how did your life change afterward?
This article was written based on a live session from the #couch_conversation series “Building Your Space.” It also uses materials from the session “Three Waves of Gaining Strength.”
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