I once conducted a survey on social media about laziness and discovered that people often call something laziness that isn’t laziness at all.
One group is troubled by a purposeless existence, when there is no goal. People from the second group know that something needs to change, they know what needs to be done, but they do nothing, and they called this laziness.
When you are content with little and everything is fine, there is no problem. But when it stops suiting you, you start to get moving, searching for something somewhere. A stage begins that is called spiritual seeking, awakening yourself, returning to the true self.
In the initial stage, there is often a feeling that you don’t understand what is happening at all, you don’t know what you want, but at the same time you understand that something is not right. It’s like “I don’t know how, but not like this.”
I would call this the stage of redefining your goals, understanding who I am, where I am going, what I want in life.
Life cycles during which a reassessment of your place in life occurs
In the book “Predict Your Future” by Elizabeth Clare Prophet, 10-12 year cycles are described. By the way, modern psychologists also define these cycles. One of them is called the “midlife crisis.” For some it begins after 30, for others after 40, but this is the main stage of reassessment, rethinking your place in life.
An excerpt from the book:
“The 24-36 Year Cycle
It is intended for mastering the light of Christ and the light of Buddha. At the age of thirty-three, Jesus manifested the victory of the Christ consciousness and won his ascension. At the age of thirty-six, Siddhartha attained enlightenment.
Thirty-three is the number of initiations of life that begin with birth and reach their highest point at thirty-three years.
On the thirty-sixth birthday comes the initiation of the Buddha.
Upon reaching the age of 36, you start all over again, and if you are lucky, you will receive a new set of opportunities that will lead you to the age of 72.”
What do you remember about your 33 and 36 years? For me, these were turning points that led me to where I am now.
Another fragment:
“Ages 30-40
At thirty, a person is ready to establish themselves in the mental world of their ego (here ‘ego’ is meant in the positive sense of a person’s self-being, their spiritual beginning, everything that they are).
Who are you? What are your merits? You have been accumulating them over these thirty years. What are the features of your character? How do others evaluate you? Do they trust you? How do you serve people?
During this decade, a person’s personal Christ-being is finally formed under the patronage of beloved Helios.
And here, in the central sun of this system, the sun of Helios endows a person with individuality, the strength of which lies in the fact that its source is the I AM Presence and the Holy Christ Self.
During this decade, a person must become who they are.
If, for example, you do not know who you are, and you have unresolved psychological problems in your etheric quadrant, they will strengthen and become part of your ego’s personality.
And as you pass through the mental belt, they will become more and more entrenched in you, and it will become increasingly difficult to resolve them.
Being on the Path in these years offers a great opportunity to enter the next, mental quadrant as a whole personality, without inner division.
And Helios in this case helps us seal our Divine wholeness of Alpha and Omega, the feeling of “I am in the Central Sun, the Central Sun is in me.”
Elizabeth Clare Prophet “Predict Your Future”
If a person has passed through these initiations and transformations, then after 36 they can start from scratch, from a clean slate, choose how they want to live and what to do, because by this point they have paid their dues to society, parents, and the community.
At least that’s how it used to be. At 24, if it was a girl, she was most likely already married, and by that time she already had children. For example, in my parents’ time, at 24, a man was already an adult, clearly understanding what he wanted, where he was going, having already begun his independent path, with college behind him, he was on his feet.
But now we live in a time when early maturation is more of a rarity; there is a longer process of growing up. This period has shifted by at least ten years for many. At 30, young people are only just starting to think about family.
The role of parents is often extended because it’s necessary for the child not only to get into college and graduate. And as soon as the children fly the nest, parents begin a reassessment, a search for their place in life.
Many fall into the trap of “I won’t make a decision” and hang in a state of uncertainty for a long time.
Only before it happened in their early 40s, and now it’s more likely in their 50s and older.
See also The Process of Returning to Wholeness of Self, or How to Use Your Gift of Love
Go Inside Yourself
If you don’t see the meaning of life and don’t know what to do, the answer is always the same — go inside yourself.
In such moments of reassessment, everything false, everything fake, everything you have absorbed up to this point falls away.
Because the task is to see your new self, who you have become, what experience you have gained, extract the pearls of wisdom from all situations, and based on this, see where you are and where you want to go, and start moving there.
For many, this process begins with what they don’t want; it’s an inverted polarity. I don’t know what I want because I don’t know myself.
Unfortunately, people get stuck at this stage; it doesn’t even occur to them that they need to write down all these “don’t wants” in order to find that precious, equal but opposite thing. And then focus on it.
Everyone, of course, chooses the moment when they need to open their eyes, but now is the period when everyone will have to open their eyes, remove all false, fake slogans, masks behind which there is nothing.
The Meditation Returning to Self will help you regain your lost sense of unity with your spiritual essence and wholeness.
Returning to the True Self Through Unlocking Potential
A person’s potential from a metaphysical point of view is returning to the state of I Am.
In recent years, this process of unlocking and unleashing potential has been happening with great intensity.
How close are you to this state?
If you have been working on self-development for years, searching for yourself, walking the path of spiritual seeking, cleansing yourself of everything superficial, false, and borrowed that is not truly you, this is what I usually call returning to the true self.
The true self and who I am are synonyms.
If you have been in this process for a long enough time, right now you are most likely enjoying it.
But if you are far from this topic, it is important to understand that this process is the same for everyone, regardless of whether you are into it or not. The husk is starting to fall off everyone.
But if you have been regularly shedding this husk, this old skin, like a snake, that is one story. It is a completely different one when this husk has turned into reinforced concrete walls over the years that have to be blasted.
See also Spiritual growth — where to start. What those who have just “awakened” need to know
Provocations from loved ones as an indicator of what needs to be released
Your loved ones act precisely as these demolition experts, sappers, provoking you. All of this serves for your benefit, so that you can return to yourself. And only then, from a clean slate, look at what you want to draw on this canvas of your life, in full acceptance of who you have become.
Separate the wheat from the chaff. The behavior of your loved ones, which seems inappropriate to you, is a powerful signal to take those pearls of wisdom they are scattering for you.
We are physically moving into a reality where you cannot be anything other than yourself; this is shown to you from all sides. Everything that is not you will be shoved right in your face, full force, until you deal with it and find yourself.
You cannot be anything other than whole, not gather all your scattered, unconscious aspects that speak through other people. Start finding out who you are in relationships, what you want from them!
Sometimes something clicks for you, you change, your behavior changes, and other people start perceiving it as it should be. Because it was all tied to you, and they were playing this game with you at the request of your soul.
Unfortunately, it is impossible to skip this stage. First, you return to yourself, and only then do you start looking at what you want. It is hard to create something when you don’t know yourself. It seems like everything is wrong and not right because too many false walls have been built around you.
For different people, this process happens on different levels: for some, emotions are unbalanced; for others, there are many false belief structures and patterns.
For example, in relationships between a woman and a man, hatred, jealousy, and so on arise, in order to heal these traumas, these wounds.
We are now in a completely different world, one where in relationships you can amplify each other’s light, rather than playing mental ping-pong: you offended me, now I will take revenge, step on a sore spot. Amplifying each other’s light is a completely different principle of relationships.
Thank them from the bottom of your heart when rose-colored glasses are shattered, for finally allowing you to see this.
Take the free course “Exit the Matrix.” A new cycle is ahead, in which everyone has the opportunity to become a sovereign soul, feeling their unity with the Divine. To do this, you need to be ready to EXIT the MATRIX and begin writing a new story for your life.
Which stage are each of you at right now?
This article is based on a live broadcast from the #couch_conversation series “Unlocking Human Potential,” as well as #10 Ask KM