Many people are now returning to the most basic things, on a very deep level. By living through this experience and projecting it onto everything else.
Let’s take a situation: someone is put in a pre-trial detention center or somewhere else. They have a family left behind. Usually, when we hear such news, we don’t put ourselves in their shoes.
Or for example, we have many families where husbands or sons have gone abroad — forced separation. Those who fled mobilization (we have had examples), while the women stayed behind.
So, you are separated in different directions. And there is some kind of barrier that prevents you from meeting and reuniting, in some cases even with a threat to your life.
When you yourself end up in this situation and live through it, when you hear such stories, you feel them inside. This experience is extrapolated, transferred to everyone else.
I realized how castrated our experience is. I myself answered these questions over the last three years. But there was no depth of living through it until I myself ended up in a similar situation.
When you live through a certain situation, it’s as if a seal is placed inside you. And now, when you encounter a similar experience or story heard from someone else, you experience an inner resonance, because there is something inside to respond to.
See also: The need for certain states, energies, and matching vibrations with other people
Truncated perception. Absence of vibrational-resonant response
I realized how castrated we are in this regard, because we don’t have to live through everything in life. So, hearing how others live through it, we get a very flat understanding.
Everything about us is truly truncated, limited. Not because we don’t see it, not even because we close our eyes, but simply because we haven’t encountered a certain experience, haven’t lived through it, and there is no vibrational response inside.
But this doesn’t mean we need to live through every experience. Although there are such people.
Maris, for example, can’t walk past a hole without having to climb into it. If there’s a tower, he absolutely has to climb that too. If there’s something edible, he has to eat it.
I’m not like that. I don’t need to climb into a hole to understand that I shouldn’t climb into it. And I believe there is deep soul wisdom in this. When you have already worked through a lot, even if you don’t remember it, you don’t need to climb in there again; you’ve already taken all the experience possible from it.
But because of this approach, many things remain flat, because your soul in this incarnation isn’t interested in them; it’s not its task, not its fulfillment.
But when it dawns on you that other people’s lives are not just richer, but the range, the spectrum in each situation is completely different, you understand how truncated you are in this regard.
It’s like hearing about the death of a loved one from an acquaintance you sympathize with, and a completely different story when you live through it yourself. They are incomparable.
You need to keep this in mind. How vastly different what an individual person is living through can be, even if they are right next to you, based on what seals they have inside, what experiences they have lived through, and what resonates with that.
We are very different in this regard, in many areas.
Is Empathy Enough to Feel Someone Else’s Experience
Comment: “It seems to me that with empathy, all experiences are easy to feel deeply.”
Feeling someone else’s experiences doesn’t mean living them yourself. Trying to feel them is taking the path: “let’s think about how it is for them.”
And how is that different from being dependent on the external?
On our project, one of the main slogans is “The world begins with me and ends with me.”
It’s not about feeling how it is for others, but understanding that you have no idea or concept of the depth of the experience another person is going through.
You inevitably view many things you haven’t encountered in a flat, one-dimensional way.
Let’s not go far — there are still people today who don’t know that SWIFT payments don’t work between Russia and other countries. Foreigners still arrive who have no idea that their cards won’t work in Russia.
And there are still Russians coming from abroad who are surprised that their cards don’t work there.
See also: How to Live with Empathy — Tips from a Highly Sensitive Person
Do you notice this difference — when you’ve lived through something yourself versus when you’re just trying to put yourself in someone else’s shoes, but you have no such experience of your own?
Article written based on a broadcast from the #conversation_on_the_couch #152 Honesty with Yourself