In our society with its skewed aim, everything is turned upside down. What is considered normal is somehow condemned.
Many people confuse laziness with the desire to rest, with the basic need to take a pause, cannot stop in time, and drive themselves to exhaustion and fatigue. And all because of some imposed dogmas about needing to be a good housewife, a good wife, and needing to work hard.
In this article, we will look at the roots of such beliefs, figure out when laziness is actually laziness, and why it is important now to be in a resourceful state.
What is considered laziness. Roots from the past
Those who grew up in the USSR or have parents who lived in the USSR remember and know that the focus was on the external — what others would think.
Remember the slogan “work, work, and work again”? Or how the unemployed were called drones. I remember this from old Soviet films.
At that time, it was justified; there was no other way to survive. After the war, the country needed to be rebuilt — what rest was there?
Everyone had to work; the unemployed were condemned. If you were a housewife or a mother on maternity leave, all the housework was on you by default. That was your main duty.
This topic is close to me. My parents are from large families and lived in a village. There, all the children were busy, helping their parents with the household. Children were not seen as the flowers of life, but as extra, not superfluous, hands for the household.
Naturally, more than one generation grew up with this worldview, where there is no rest, and it was most often perceived as luxury, idleness, laziness.
Now the world has changed a lot, but this program, the traces of that upbringing, still sits in people’s minds. We continue to drag all this into the 21st century.
You cleaned the apartment, did laundry, ironed, cooked food, and also worked yourself to the bone — the result is visible.
And if you lie down, contemplate, gather your thoughts, sort through ideas, analyze your actions and reactions, meditate — what is the benefit from an outside perspective? Idleness!
You paint a picture, compose poems, read a book — what is the benefit and for whom?
Yes, there is no visible benefit, but there is inner work to restore your resources, to create a desired reality where there is more love, harmony, and joy.
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When laziness is truly laziness
To define laziness, let us turn to Wikipedia: “Laziness is the absence or lack of diligence, a preference for free time over work activity. It is believed that a lazy person is a parasite on society.
Laziness should not be confused with the natural need for rest, lack of willpower, depression, etc.”
Many people, when they condemn themselves for resting, feel guilty and confuse it with laziness. In this case, guilt is a claim against oneself. Ask yourself, why do you not allow yourself to rest?
“If you lie on the couch from morning to evening, your children are neglected, there is nothing to eat, the apartment has not been cleaned for a month, you do not go to work — that is laziness.
What makes you think you are being lazy? This is a relic of Soviet times. Back then, a woman had to go to work, take the children to kindergarten and school, pick them up later, and in the evening meet her husband with a prepared dinner. And on weekends, she had to wash and iron everything so that her husband could wear fresh shirts all week.
We have not lived in the Soviet Union for a long time; those times are gone. Rethink for yourself what a woman’s role is, whether this is her main task.
If a woman does all this while forgetting about herself, she will later be abandoned and trampled on, because she becomes uninteresting to a man; no one needs her in such a state.»
Alena Starovoitova, broadcast as part of the #yachori_sveta section “Global Wave of Light”.
Do not confuse laziness with the desire to rest. When you do not allow yourself proper rest in time, your body eventually shuts down, and you can do nothing but lie down, you do not want anything. But this is not laziness.
Stop in time, allow yourself at least small pleasures, nice things, learn to delight yourself. Perceive this not as a luxury, but as a necessity, because a tired, sick, and angry mother or wife is needed by no one.
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Rebellion against social dogmas
I was also influenced by the Soviet past in the form of my parents’ upbringing. I did not understand that it is not only possible but also necessary to rest, recover, and simply lie down and do nothing.
It happened that I could spend an entire day off lying around, not wanting anything, while internally judging myself for the lost time that I could have spent more interestingly.
After the birth of a child, this program manifested itself especially strongly. Now I understand that this is not surprising, because it is especially important for a mother to recover physically and emotionally in order to later give the child the necessary care and attention.
For some time, I had an unconscious rebellion against “do it, clean it, don’t be lazy.” Without even noticing it myself, I stopped doing household chores, doing only what was necessary and minimal. I didn’t care what my loved ones would say; I wanted to rest and do things that filled me up.
The feeling of guilt gradually dissolved, and I realized that rest is necessary. What at first glance seems like idleness is actually the work of restoring and preserving one’s own resources.
And if you do not give yourself rest voluntarily and consciously, your body will take its due and may shut down at the most inopportune moment.
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The importance of preserving resources and the need for rest
Unlike the past, when survival was necessary—do, do, do—and everyone was focused on external results, we now have a different task: to focus on inner work. And for this, it is important to remain in a resourceful state.
“Many processes are happening inside us right now. We are doing great inner work on ourselves to clear out outdated programs and old reactions and replace them with constructive ones.
We are doing great work inside to build a vertical line, raise vibrations, and create harmony within.”
Alena Starovoitova, broadcast within the #yakoři_sveta rubric “Yakoři Sveta – 4”.
From such work, the physical body gets tired, and you often want to rest, get enough sleep, and do nothing. Allow yourself this rest.
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