What is the problem of many people who cannot take responsibility for their own lives?
They look at everything through the eyes of the inner child, whose task is not to solve problems, figure out complex situations, or heal traumas.
That is the task of an adult. But an adult not only by passport, but also by state of being.
Read what you can do to heal your inner child as an adult and how to level up responsibility in those areas of life where you lack it.
What is the function of the inner child and the adult
I was struck by a thought from Emmanuel Dagher’s forecast on the topic of the inner child:
«Our inner child is not here to take on the world’s difficulties, making them their own, or to act like an adult.
The role of our inner child is to play, have fun, and enjoy the abundance of magic that life has to offer!
Because of all the complex experiences we have had as empaths, because of the hypersensitivity to the environment, most of us have come to associate our inner child with the energies of sadness, trauma, and deprivation.
One of the biggest illusions is that our inner child needs to complicate everything because of its desire to feel safe and protected.
The inner child is designed to thrive in the simple things in life. Things like love, joy, peace, fun, and play.»
The inner child is our little one, whom we nurture, cherish, and love. They possess childlike spontaneity, curiosity, and innocence.
Most adults (adults in terms of age) are still waiting for a prince on a white horse to come and solve their problems, or wizards in a blue helicopter to fly in and save them, giving them what they need.
Inside there is a desire not to do it yourself, but for it to somehow happen on its own. This is a reluctance to take responsibility and, in fact, to grow up. And essentially, it turns out that we are trying to burden our inner child with adult problems so that he can solve them.
Perhaps this attitude stems from childhood, when you were a little child and your parents involved you in solving adult tasks that were beyond your age. Or maybe you yourself are trying to burden your inner child, making him a solver.
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Become an adult
Remove this responsibility from your inner child. His job is to have fun, jump, and play. Remember children, they jump on couches for as long as they want, regardless of whether neighbors are banging on the wall or not.
Regain your ability to express your joy, tears, and do many things intensely without regard for anyone else.
Start healing him, talk to him, show him that YOU are the adult, taking responsibility for this little one so that he can behave in this way.
And in the end, it turns out that you allow curiosity to manifest, not fear, not responsibility, but curiosity to go after something new.
You can use the mantra that Emmanuel Dagher proposed in his forecast:
“Dear Inner Child, I see you, I love you, and I support you unconditionally.
You can return to your true aspect, which is Love.
I release you from the need to handle adult matters. I just want to remind you that your only job now is to have fun, play, and enjoy life!
This is what you came here for! And I am here for you, always.”
Become an adult. After all, it looks ridiculous when a grown 40-year-old woman reacts to someone’s behavior and takes offense like a 4-year-old child.
Track your reactions to triggers, red buttons. Where are you still reacting like a child? Why in such situations is your inner child responsible, not you — the adult?
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How to level up responsibility
It’s easy to say — become an adult. But how to do it if you’ve been used to reacting from a child’s state your whole life.
And an adult implies taking responsibility for yourself and your actions, making decisions and following through on them.
Can responsibility be leveled up in general?
Responsibility is the obligation to answer for your actions, deeds, to be accountable for them.
This is a general definition. It’s important to understand in which area you need to level up responsibility. In some things you may be responsible, for example, caring for a child, raising them, and so on.
But, for example, you might be careless about your health, not properly caring for your body, not giving yourself enough rest.
To become responsible, write down for yourself the actions where you will be responsible, what this will look like.
There is no quick way to level up responsibility.
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How life teaches responsibility
Life often teaches responsibility and helps you acquire it.
I am an easygoing person in life, when it comes to everything related to receipts and calculations. I never checked anything and never remembered how much things cost.
In my time, I went through a very good lesson that financial documents need to be treated carefully, that is, to be responsible.
I was processing a refund for a girl for some course. Either it was paid twice, or there was a mistake. I needed to send 10,000, but due to carelessness, I sent 100,000.
Good thing it wasn’t a conflict situation. I asked her to return part of it. She returned it. But it could have been a different situation where I would have lost that money.
After that, I made a note to myself: every time I enter card details or an amount, I double-check several times to avoid mistakes.
Before that, I didn’t care, I was all in the flow, everything was great for me. But I was taught very well. 100,000 turned out to be a sufficient amount to make my brain kick in. And that’s where responsibility appeared.
Remember your own situations where life taught you responsibility.
I am for naturalness. There’s no need to artificially create situations; work with what is in front of you. Use the circumstances you are in and see where you need to take responsibility in your case.
Start with small things: you went to the store for bread, bought everything except it. This indicates not a lack of focus, but specifically irresponsibility. And so it goes in different areas.
At the beginning of my activity as an entrepreneur, I paid a lot of fines. I thought, so what if I sent some paper one day late.
They didn’t just send a fine; they summoned me to a hearing, reviewed it, and only then issued the fine.
At that time, I was still more inclined toward the spiritual side; money wasn’t very important, so life was teaching me responsibility toward finances in this way.
Develop your own rules, like an axiom in school — a rule that is not questioned. And start implementing them little by little.
Integrate new habits one at a time, choose one specific topic you are working on, and try to weave it into your life. If you succeed, be happy for yourself, congratulate yourself. If you don’t succeed — okay, I’ll try next time.
The main thing is to keep the focus — I will do it anyway, if not today, then tomorrow, if not the day after tomorrow, then in a month.
There are no magic recipes where you do it once and it’s done.
This is how responsibility is formed, and with it, growing up.
Share your stories about how life teaches you responsibility?
The article is based on a broadcast from the #couch_talk section “Let’s Talk, 02/19/2022”
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