Death is a topic that many avoid, shying away from it. This is no accident, as much fear lies behind it.
We invite you to look at death from a metaphysical perspective, to dispel at least some of the myths associated with what happens after a person dies.
We held a live broadcast on this topic as part of our #conversation_on_the_couch section, based on which we wrote two articles. The first part is before you.
On the reaction to death. Does the soul grieve
Who reacts to death and how
If we conditionally classify people by their type of reaction to death, we can identify two main groups.
One group consists of people who, when encountering the experience of another’s death, feel a sense of happiness and relief.
Such people, possessing developed sensitivity and empathy, are able to perceive the blissful states of the soul at the moments of its transition.
These people often provoke reactions of bewilderment and skepticism from representatives of the other group.
The other group consists of people who display habitual, from the perspective of the 3D world, ego-reactions (fear, self-pity, grief, etc.).
How the soul lets you know it has decided to leave. The difference in the reaction of the soul and the ego to the death of a loved one
When my mother passed away, a state of despair, wailing, screaming, and roaring washed over me… A year before that, I had gone through a situation where I had to pull my mother out of a near-transitional state…
This time, having established contact with my mother’s soul (she was in a coma), I tried to do everything I had done the previous time. But this time, I kept hitting an invisible wall.
I couldn’t break through it. It was a definitive answer to my request… I couldn’t accept that answer… A roar burst out… And at that moment, a radical reversal occurred: before, I was a child, a daughter, but at that moment I had to become the head of the family…
It is precisely in such moments that one can perceive a colossal division of inner sensations.
The conscious part, which understands how everything works, reads, and feels, remains in a state of complete calm, inner silence during these moments.
Simultaneously, the ego part of a person whines and indulges in self-pity, demanding an outlet for its experiences.
In such periods, it is difficult to bring together and fuse these two opposing states—remaining in the vertical, in the awareness that everything happens as it should, co-experiencing the feeling of liberation of the departed soul, and the state of a “little abandoned puppy” indulging in self-pity.
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Does the soul ache when loved ones pass away?
When loved ones pass away, it is not the soul that aches in the living, but the ego. The soul always rejoices.
If the ego aches and self-pity is felt, it means your channel is blocked at the level of the upper energy centers. It is there that attachments and addictions exist.
It turns out that you feel whole and self-sufficient only when these loved ones are with you.
In other words, without this condition being met, you feel incomplete and insufficient.
You have lost your connection to the Source. You have fallen out of a state of unity with all that exists.
Mourning death strains the laws of space. Therefore, when you continue to mourn the departed, you do not accept their death (choice), you resist the laws of space.
Pride and selfishness thus attempt to oppose the Cosmic Laws.
In reality, by making the decision to depart, the soul realizes its freedom of choice.
Accepting (with the ego-consciousness) the fact of death is the most difficult thing.
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What happens to the soul after death within a year. The necessity of experiencing mourning
Why mourning is necessary
The ego-part that grieves at the moments of departure of people important to a person is the part that feels sorry for itself.
The ego-part intuitively senses that with the departure of a loved one, too much in this life will have to change.
Behind self-pity lies unconscious confusion and a lack of understanding of how familiar life will now unfold.
Such a phenomenon as “mourning” is intended, among other things, to give the ego-part time to fully experience all egoic states (cry it out, grieve it out, feel sorry for itself) and adapt to the changed conditions.
Show understanding towards your ego-part.
Finding yourself in a similar situation, be sure to give yourself the opportunity and time to grieve, to bring all emotions out.
The sooner you allow emotions to flow outward, the easier and faster you will subsequently adapt to the new conditions.
9 Days After Death from a Metaphysical Perspective
From a metaphysical perspective, during the nine days after the moment of transition, the soul remains near the body.
A person possesses not only a physical body but also a set of subtle (unmanifested) bodies (e.g., etheric, mental, emotional, astral, spiritual).
During the nine days after the moment of transition, all unmanifested planes (or subtle bodies) disintegrate (dissolve) in a specific sequence.
Thus, it can be said that the transition process takes some time before the soul merges with the Light.
Previously, if a person had heavy addictions, dependencies, or attachments during life (e.g., money, loved ones), the soul could get stuck on the astral plane during transition, reproducing and replaying everything that surrounded the person in life.
In such cases, the post-mortem merging of the soul with the Light was delayed.
Now, the astral layer surrounding the Earth has significantly diminished and continues to thin out.
As the process of post-mortem dissolution of subtle bodies has accelerated, every year an increasing number of souls directly rush toward the Light.
Surely, when sharply turning your head to the side, you have often noticed a background movement of something with your peripheral vision.
These are manifestations from other parallel realities, subtle planes. In the same way, the souls of your loved ones who have made the transition may manifest their presence (“show themselves”).
The presence of departed loved ones is actively felt by those with heightened sensitivity.
The mind, however, cannot explain the tangibly felt presence of departed loved ones.
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What Happens After 40 Days
On the 40th day after the transition, the soul goes “about its business.”
A person who has experienced the death of a loved one may feel relief during this period, and the invisible presence of the departed stops haunting them.
From the 9th to the 40th day, the periodic feeling of the departed’s presence is usually accompanied by a strong emotional reaction (grief, pity, etc.).
Such emotional “waves” must be released outward – exactly at the moment they occur, regardless of external circumstances (“felt it – it hit – released it”).
Why a Year of Mourning Is Needed
The period of one year after the death of a loved one allows much pain to heal and pass. Therefore, the year of mourning is not accidental.
This time gives the ego-part a chance to suffer, cry out, and pity itself.
It is important to understand that it is your unhealed part that yearns. Everyone has their own.
The trigger for activating this unhealed and grieving part can be a wide variety of everyday situations – arguments, troubles, routine problems.
The year of mourning provides an opportunity to come to terms with the fact of a loved one’s departure and heal your traumatized part. If you do not allow yourself to fully experience grief, this period may drag on.
When Relief Comes
People immersed in the matrix may indulge in self-pity for the rest of their lives.
If you allow yourself to fully experience the loss of a loved one, one year is usually enough.
After a year, relief comes.
This is because contact with the departed is lost, becoming less tangible, less transparent.
This does not mean you lose the connection forever. You can always maintain contact with the departed and communicate.
To make it easier to recover after a loss, we recommend using spiritual tools. A toolkit of spiritual tools. Practices for any occasion.
The Soul’s Decision to Depart
Which Part of a Person Makes the Decision to Transition
When the soul departs, it is immensely happy.
Many people confuse two concepts – the desires of a person’s ego consciousness and the desires of the Soul. They are not the same.
A person’s ego consciousness can live and make long-term plans.
But the decision to depart is made not by the ego consciousness, but by a person’s Higher Self, which transmits its decision to the soul.
A person’s human ego consciousness may passionately want to live, to fight to the end, but when the possibility to transition opens up to their soul, and it is ready, the soul does so joyfully.
When a window for transition opens for the soul, it needs to answer the question: is everything you wanted to accomplish done, and are you ready to depart? Those who have experienced clinical death confirm this.
If the soul is not ready, the person returns from “oblivion” (clinical death).
There is extensive literature on this topic.
If a person has departed (died), it means their soul gave consent to this.
Ways to Allow the Soul to Depart
One way to help the soul of a suffering person depart is to let it go.
For example, a person who is seriously ill and physically suffering is held in the body by unfinished business.
The soul does not wish to depart until it is sure that loved ones can take care of themselves after its transition. By demonstrating their independence, loved ones can thereby allow the soul to transition peacefully.
So you can help a soul ready for transition fulfill its desire.
But this does not mean that you caused the departure.
Self-discovery in new circumstances
When a significant person leaves, whose life was closely intertwined with your own, you have to redefine yourself anew.
For many, this marks the beginning of a phase of powerful transformations.
Questions arise: “How to live on?”, “Where to start?”, “What to hold onto now?”
Often behind these questions lies a loss of meaning in life.
At this stage, you will have to discover yourself step by step in new circumstances.
Some resist the need to find a new meaning in life or fail to cope, so the pain of loss stretches over many years.
The ego has received a powerful blow in the form of losing a significant person.
One way or another, the circumstances of your life have changed, and you yourself have changed: symbolically, you have become a different—new—person in different, new, circumstances.
As a new person, you are obliged to find new values for life, to find yourself in the new conditions offered. And this is a great transformative path that cannot be avoided.
The sooner you accept this necessity as a given, the faster you will overcome your grief.
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I hope that you have received answers to at least some of the questions about death that you may have asked yourself.
Share, was this information useful to you? What new things did you learn?
In the next article on this topic, you will learn about common fears associated with the onset of death.
The article is based on a broadcast from the #conversation_on_the_couch section «On Death and Self-Pity«