In this article, we’ll try to remove the societal-imposed scripts on how to celebrate the New Year, and that horizontal connection with people tied to grievances, misunderstandings, and expectations. All of that has no place in a celebration.
Read about what a celebration really is and how to create a feeling of celebration within yourself.
Have you ever noticed yourself being offended at people for not congratulating you on your Birthday or a holiday? Or maybe you used to feel that way, but it passed?
I experienced this many, many years ago.
What is a celebration
The word celebration is linked to the act of celebrating.
A multi-billion dollar business is built around the New Year holidays. All marketing departments work all year long to direct people to spend as much money as possible specifically around Christmas and the New Year.
What are we celebrating if we remove all this commerce, everything that is customary in society?
We usually celebrate some kind of achievement. First of all: it’s the feeling of celebration — we want to mark something, immortalize it, elevate it to such an extent that we celebrate it in some way.
At the core of the word “celebration” lies this feeling of a state of celebration.
What can we celebrate? For example, passing exams in a short timeframe, buying a house or apartment, moving.
That is, it’s a natural event that arises organically. Does this feeling of celebration require the state to put it on the calendar? No.
This feeling is internal. You achieved some result or simply felt this state; maybe your soul just feels like celebrating.
The second point is that you can create a celebration yourself within your family and promote it. If you have a family, you’ve probably noticed that over time certain family rituals and traditions emerge.
For example, at the Keys of Mastery, we celebrate the solstices and equinoxes. This tradition started a few years ago; many people around the world celebrate them, and we joined in the celebration.
I saw a need for this. It’s not like it’s a super-duper holiday, but on these days, cardinal things happen; you want to gather together and transmit this energy, talk about the transformations that are happening, and explain why things feel so disruptive.
Does this mean everyone gets made up and dressed up like for a holiday? No.
Additionally, we celebrate the Planetary New Year on July 26th. At one point, I heard about this from one of the channels, I liked it, and we started celebrating it.
Moreover, it’s not just one day; the Lion’s Gate opens on July 26th, the peak of this energy is on August 8th, and on August 12th, these gates close. When I first wrote about this in 2012, no one really knew about it at all. And now many people are picking it up, celebrating it, and explaining what it is. A new tradition was established.
See also: How to Make Life a Celebration
Should you celebrate the New Year
The main thing is the inner feeling. Everyone comes to this in their own time.
Your desire is always the priority; after all, it is your celebration, and it’s your right to celebrate it if you want to, with loved ones, friends, or relatives. But you might also not want to.
If you have decided within yourself that it is normal to spend the day you consider a holiday the way you want, those around you have no other option but to fit into this reality.
They may try to reach you somehow, lay on a guilt trip. But if there is silence and calm within you, and you are confident that you have every right to allow yourself to celebrate the way you want, then everything unfolds very quickly, and people get used to it.
For many years now, not only do I not celebrate my birthday, but I have allowed myself not to congratulate people, not to remember when their holidays are. But there is a flip side to this, which means I will not take offense, I will not make up strange stories when people don’t congratulate me in return.
If I allow myself not to remember, not to give gifts on certain dates, it’s a two-way street. The same applies to me: I have no right to hold any grievances or take offense; it’s natural and normal.
Get rid of the mindset that everyone must give each other gifts, especially if it’s not from the heart but just because it’s customary. Why clutter your space with who-knows-what, why accept gifts you don’t need?
Maybe it’s time to finally get together and agree that we won’t give gifts. And give gifts when you want to, when you feel the urge, not because you have to.
Let’s come back to the New Year. Do you need to celebrate the New Year? There is one answer: if the only reason is that everyone around you is celebrating, sitting at the table, then no.
Surely among you there are those who have long since given up on the New Year’s feast, the drinking, the ritual outings. And those who have created their own way of celebrating New Year’s Eve.
I’m not saying it’s bad to sit at the table and have a drink. Again, it’s a matter of freedom of choice; everyone decides for themselves what a holiday means to them.
If you are asking yourself, “I don’t feel anything, should I celebrate?” then you don’t need to celebrate.
I’ll just remind you that this could be an inner trauma related to the New Year. This needs to be looked into. Perhaps you feel lonely because everyone is with their families, congratulating each other, and it triggers you from the inside, suffocates you.
Or for someone, the New Year is associated with tragic events, when loved ones pass away during these days, or a partner left. All of this can be figured out and can be healed.
Therefore, a holiday is not about gifts, toys, drinking, or feasting; it’s about an inner feeling.
See also: How to Give Gifts Correctly from a Spiritual Perspective
How to Create a State, a Feeling of Celebration
Mood can and should be created. When you are sick, you go to the doctor and ask for medicine to get better. But when you are in a bad mood, you let it run its course and allow yourself to stay in a bad mood.
How can you create a mood?
I hang up garlands long before the New Year. When I feel a need for magic, when something in my reality doesn’t satisfy me, when it seems dull and gray, I hang up garlands, light candles, and turn on colorful fairy lights.
In Riga, our garland stays up until March. And when I get up at night, it’s shining; when I wake up in the morning and come out, it’s shining.
I bought it to create a mood, not because it’s customary to celebrate New Year, not because there’s some Father Frost or Snow Maiden, but because I want to feel that magic, to touch it.
There are those who believe that during the Nativity Fast you shouldn’t be joyful. But you yourself choose what to believe.
If you’re a religious person, follow what you believe. I’m not dogmatic in that regard, not religious; I believe in God, but in the God that is in the heart. I’ve known since childhood that God is not in a church, and you don’t need to go there to communicate with Him. But the main thing is what you believe.
When people write that there’s no energy in December, that you can’t be joyful, why on earth? Energetically, it might be a time for turning inward, but why should I cry, why should I be sad?
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What Happens on New Year’s Eve and Why New Year Is Worth Celebrating
Why is this day, or rather New Year’s Eve, worth celebrating?
New Year’s Eve is a kind of threshold, when you leave the old behind.
Hence all those rituals related to decluttering, tidying up the apartment; it’s also an inner dive into yourself, an understanding of what you have at the moment, a review of your assets. Look at everything honestly, impartially, and most importantly, without judgment.
What does that mean? If I sit and see that everything in my life is crappy: I don’t have this, this isn’t right, that isn’t right — that’s no reason to fall into judgment. It means it’s a moment to reflect and understand what of it all you’re ready to leave behind.
And people are hoarders by nature: I don’t need this, but what if it comes in handy in twenty years, let it sit on the mezzanine or in the country house closet. Garages stuffed with stuff just in case, in case it’s needed someday.
Clearing out your clutter, understanding what you want from life, and building that — it’s serious work. And then, when suddenly “finally I felt happy” arrives — that’s a victory, and it’s exactly the kind of occasion worth celebrating.
Everyone has their own path to happiness, and their own feeling of celebration, but the most important thing is that we create this celebration within.
Right now, it’s important to be in the “now” moment, which means not carrying the weight of the past. But that doesn’t mean you need to reject the past or forget everything that happened; the main thing is that you’re not drawn back into it: old memories, old tragedies. So that you feel about the past as if you’re looking at a fact — it happened.
Before the New Year, think, reflect on what you want to leave behind and what you’ll take with you into the next year, what you want to create in the new year.
On New Year’s Eve, focus all your attention on freeing yourself from the old, and when midnight, that threshold, has passed, lay down the new. Because if your space isn’t cleared, isn’t freed up, the new simply won’t have anywhere to enter.
And how do you celebrate New Year and Christmas? Do you have your own New Year’s traditions?
This article is based on the broadcast “Magical New Year’s Kicks in the Butt”