I have long observed a trend of many people lacking an inner request. This is evident in personal communication, in comments on the Telegram channel, and during live streams.
People seem to want something, but they can’t formulate it. And this is important. What you utter is what you send out into the universe. Accordingly, that is what you get back.
And then they wonder why problems aren’t being solved, why things happen that they never expected or wanted.
Read on to learn how to properly formulate your request so you get what you need in return. Also, find out why ego-desires don’t come true.
What the absence of an inner request leads to
Often during broadcasts, people write comments but lose the question. This indicates that the person has no request inside.
But without a request, nothing will move. Reality unfolds according to your inner request. If you don’t have a clearly formulated inner request, read books about clarity of thinking, purity of thoughts. All stores are full of this quasi-esoteric literature.
Without a clear request, you don’t unfold anything yourself; you are used as a tool for unfolding by others. Like in that joke: wherever you get kicked, that’s where you fly.
How to formulate your request
Clearly formulate every sentence you speak. If you do a lot of online messaging, read what you write.
Usually, it’s just scraps, fragments of phrases. “What if I don’t have money?”
There’s no request in that. In this case, what does the person want? I can guess, but the point isn’t for me to guess. This is a request to the universe: no money. The universe says: “No money.” And you just sit there.
But here’s an example of a complete thought, a question: “What if I don’t have money because of this and that? How do I achieve such-and-such?” Or simply “What can I do to…?”
I learned this from men in my time. I remember talking to a friend on the phone once and noticed he calls strictly about business: one-two-three-four-five. Alena calls, talks about everything and nothing, unclear why, and in the end, she’s forgotten what she needed.
I was working on awareness back then. I caught myself once, then twice, and started building the same structure as men before making a call. First, the business, then everything else you want.
It used to be the same for me during broadcasts: you go live, start a thought, the thought drifts away, gets lost.
For many years, I learned to structure what I say, learned to be sequential.
Especially now, when these diverse streams come from all sides. It’s not like one thing starts and ends, then another starts and ends. Everything runs parallel, you don’t know what to grab onto, where to run. And this structuredness, this sequence helps when you see the priority, what your main focus is.
But it all starts with the little things. You wrote something, re-read it—is it clear to another person outside your context? Mostly, no.
I answer questions on Fridays, and a formulated question is very rare. They describe a situation, great, but there’s no question, no request.
I used to answer, but now I write: “And what is the question?” Because if you’re describing a sad story of your interactions with your husband, you might want a divorce, you might want to save the relationship, you might want to run away entirely — there are many things you could want.
In any topic, there is a huge number of requests. Which one is yours?
The absence of an inner request is an indicator that there is no clarity inside about where you are moving. And if you have no clarity about where you are moving, then where are you flying?
Wherever you get pushed, that’s where you go. And who does the pushing? Today your husband pushed you, tomorrow your boss pushed you, then you read or heard something in the news. And so you get tossed back and forth, shaken all over. And then you say: “How can this be — hopelessness?!”
Without this built inner core, this clear understanding of the focus of where you are moving, you will not be able to manage your life or your reality.
Focus is not a direction. Sometimes I may not know where I am going, but I know exactly what I am moving toward, because I feel it from within. There is no concrete detail there: a house by the sea and so on. The concreteness there comes through sensations — lightness, joy.
See also: Why it’s important to be able to express intentions and understand your desires
Why the desires of the ego do not manifest
Question: “I formulate a positive request, I visualize the best possible outcome I dream of, but things turn out differently. Why does this happen?”
Many people, when they talk about manifestation, for some reason think that their desires will be fulfilled. But these are two different layers of reality.
Egoic desires never manifest. The majority of your desires are egoic.
Manifestation happens at the energy level of 4.5 to 5D. There is no ego there, there are no ego-desires there. Everything there is subordinated to the Higher purpose and the vision of yourself within that Higher purpose. These are different levels.
In fact, it turns out that the Law of Manifestation and the Law of Attraction are great laws. But the thing is, the tools for manifestation work in their pure form at the 5D level, and with interruptions and adjustments, they work at the 4D level. But we are trying to apply them at the 3D level. These are different realities.
If you are in a place where these laws work and where they instantly materialize, you have no ego-desires. But where you do have them, that’s a different layer of reality. They are on different planes, one at the bottom, the other on the surface.
And when you learn to correlate one with the other, it manifests. But this is serious work, because when you reach a certain level where you can manifest, your egoic desires disappear.
From an energetic point of view, desire is the second center, while manifestation happens in the heart center. And until you raise all of this into the heart, it will not manifest. But all kinds of scary, horrible things — those manifest easily.
See also: Hidden motives that drive you when achieving goals. Two questions to gain clarity
Why the motive is important in a request
The key is your motive. The action may be the same, but different motives lead to different results.
If I’m trying to prove to my sister that I’m no worse than her, and because of that I’m building a career, that’s one story. The desire to prove something to someone (so that mom is proud of me or to spite my father) can give a result that you ultimately don’t expect.
And it’s a completely different story when you want self-realization because it comes from within. That is, the desire is the same, but the motives are different.
Many people have a big struggle with understanding their motives. And how can you uncover a motive if you can’t even formulate a request?!
Remember how it was in school: if they woke you up in the middle of the night, you had to recite a poem so well that it rolled off your tongue?
It’s exactly the same with a request: if they wake you up in the middle of the night, you should be able to say exactly what your inner request is for the near future, on different topics: money, relationships, work. And that’s not even mentioning the motives that lie behind them.
First, you formulate the request, then you look at the motive behind it.
If the motive comes from your ego, then the realization of the desire can stall. Or it does come true, but there will be no inner satisfaction.
See also: Desire or Inner Impulse. Which Intentions Are Supported in the New World
And how are things with your inner request? Do you clearly know what you want and where you are heading?
The article is based on a broadcast from the #ask_KM #13 Ask KM section